What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

3 years ago by axolittl to c/asklemmy

I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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quadrotiles 58 points 3 years ago

The usual acne related ones, like washing my face more or using tooth paste on my spots. Turns out clearasil won't fix your hormones.

Use olive oil instead of sun screen because it works better than SPF and isn't full of chemicals.

When taking a taxi on a short stop over in Dubai, the taxi driver told me not to have blue hair (which I had) or no man will ever want me, while my then boyfriend was also sitting in the taxi, masquerading as my husband (we were wearing rings and just letting people assume we were married, which everyone did. Including the taxi driver!)

Work related: don't make my code too "complicated" or my one coworker can't understand it (read: my coworker doesn't know what async means, and instead of him learning, I'm just not ever meant to do anything async... When processing huge amounts of data... Also, error handling is too hard, don't do that either) yes, I will forever be salty about this. He deleted weeks worth of work while I had covid because he didn't even try to understand it - his reasoning being "it doesn't work anyway, so there's no point in understanding or learning what I'm doing"

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donslaught 22 points 3 years ago

Where do you work that allows someone to just delete someone else's work all willy-nilly? If someone did that to my code I'd be PISSED.

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ours 14 points 3 years ago

Someone did that to my whole project. I had catefully migrated all the source control to a new and improved system. Out boss decided which project went into which organization.

Some idiot went and intentionally deleted a project I was meant to do maintenance because he had decided all by himself that it wasn't meant to be there.

I had to do a long train ride to the idiot's office for a training and when he told me what he did (proudly!) I gave him the sort of verbal bollocking I have never done before or since.

To the point where he contacted our boss to complain. I got a call from my boss to excuse himself on behalf of the idiot.

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nik282000 8 points 3 years ago

^a

Del

^s

Fixed your code :D

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lungdart 16 points 3 years ago

A game changer I had for acne as a teen was putting a new towel on my pillow every night. My pillow was likely riddled with Cutibacterium acnes from sleeping with acne.

It helped another friend with an acne problem as well.

Mind you that bacteria isn't always the cause of acne, but it's worth trying this trick for any people out there going through it.

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SharkEatingBreakfast 11 points 3 years ago

Yeah, my painful acne lasted far into adulthood. Found out it was 100% hormonal and finally got on something to treat it.

There's a lot of things that can cause acne.

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quadrotiles 1 point 3 years ago

That would have been actually useful advice! I actually did start doing that a couple of years ago, and it really did help. It didn't clear it up, but the acne hasn't been quite as aggressive since. I also do other things now too, so I'm in a pretty good place for my face skin at last lol

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majestictechie 10 points 3 years ago

Wow that last bit sucks. I'm assuming you don't use GIT and could roll back your changes or fork it from a previous point.

I think that would push me over the edge.

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quadrotiles 1 point 3 years ago

I typed a long reply, forgot to hit send and my reply is gone lol

But yeah, we actually do use git. I was brought into the team to be the git "expert" of the team. But while I was away, not only did he delete my work, he replaced it with something that can't work in the long term and then presented it to my boss, stake holder equivalent and the non-technical testers as the final version. His implementation was "finished", mine was not and I was too angry to look at his work. So in the end, I made it crystal clear that this can never happen again and I made it super clear to everyone involved in the project that my responsibility lies in the X part, and if someone needs something done for the Y part, they are to go to my co-worker. So like a clear division of responsibility.

I also don't have the time to un-fuck up his work. I asked him to integrate certain parts of the original implementation, but he threw a tantrum and yelled that I have no right to tell him what to do. (Ok but even if I were telling him what to do, I have 6 years of experience and a CS degree on his 1 year and no formal training, so like...)

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