Dating/Hangout Anxieties?

2 years ago by douglasg14b to c/autism

Anyone else get anxiety when waiting for communication on anything soft-planned (or even hard planned for that matter)? Spiraling and all that.

Especially if the person involved is late or didn't respond. Ofc the reaction is to check in, that's what I'd want someone else to do for me if I indicated I'd do something or message someone. However, that can be interpreted as being needy or clingy when really I just want to know the plan and not be left hanging.

Life happens ofc, people gotta cancel plans, that's okay. But what really rubs things wrong is being left without information, that's when the anxiety shoots. Do you wait for them, or go do something else? If you go do something else, what happens when they're suddenly available? That's not respecting my time, so it's rude, but do you convey that?? What if you hinged your day on something, that just throws a big ass wrench in.

Everyone is living their own lives, and things happen, preventing communication. It just feels like it's more common than it used to be, or more... Negligent?

Gah.

I guess /rant really.

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Jabbl 3 points 2 years ago

Yep; anxiety bordering on dread.

But that's true whenever I'm supposed to reach out to anyone or meet up anywhere.
My brain just doesn't handle stuff like that in a reasonable way in general.

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douglasg14b 2 points 2 years ago

Same. The anxiety to dread pipeline is far too strong.

And just for small things I feel off and withdrawn for a day or two after.

I hate it, and want to be better, and not become seriously anxious and dreadful.

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