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WhiteRabbit_33 103 points a year ago

There are a lot of different types of poly relationship structures and different names for them. The base unit of relationship is a standard couple where 2 people are together. Add another person in and they can either be in a relationship with only one of those people and form a "hinge" aka "V" or be in a relationship with both of those people and form a "triad" aka "throuple". As many people as those involved consent to can be added this way.

Most of the time it's one person who is in a relationship with multiple people who are each in relationships with multiple people. This forms a "polycule". Where you have the people you're in relationships with aka your "paramours" and they have the people they're in relationships with aka your "metamours". This group of relationships can take many forms and can be drawn out into a cool diagram like a molecule, hence the name polycule.

The people you're in a relationship with can break up with you like in any other relationship and vice versa. It's more complicated when you add in housing situations if you're all living together, multiple people are all dating each other, or if two people are married.

Using one of my breakups as an example:
I've been in a triad where one person broke up with the other. I was then put in the middle of their breakup drama. I set a boundary of not wanting to deal with their drama/shit talking of the other. One of them kept breaking that boundary, so I broke up with that person while still being in a relationship with the other. Luckily I was living with the person I stayed with or that would've been way more complicated.

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CommissarVulpin 71 points a year ago

Man I can’t even form a diatomic bond and y’all mfs getting polysaccharides and shit

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jecxjo 26 points a year ago

I dated a free radical once. Nothing but broken bonds left in her wake.

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xor -40 points a year ago
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Gurei 26 points a year ago

Yeah, anyone practicing safely can avoid that issue.

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Korhaka 21 points a year ago

You know we can test for those things now, right? As long as everyone remains faithful to their partners its not an issue.

If 300 people all get tested and are clean, they can all get together every night for a massive orgy and there is zero STI risk. As long as none of them sleep with anyone outside of the group that hasn't been tested.

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ImmersiveMatthew 10 points a year ago

I am unsure if that is completely true as my past experience in the lifestyle was that everyone was very on top of regular STI (think you meant this not SDI) testing and safe sex practices to protect all involved, whereas normal dating there is a lot less of that plus secret polycules you are not even aware you are in (cheating). Not seen a study on this but this was my observation at least.

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damnedfurry 0 points a year ago

Watch out for those sexually dransmitted illnesses

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pupbiru -5 points a year ago

STIs are all curable, treatable, or preventable

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