Isolde 28 points 9 months ago

I saw this play out and there were more than one of these users breaking the rules on that sub. I guess it’s tempting to want to comment on a first page thread, but boundaries exist for a reason. I don’t really see women going into incel spaces, making incels uncomfortable. Still, what it looked like was most of these men knew this wasn’t a community for them, but figured that their comments were so invaluable, how could it exist without their imput. It’s pathetic.

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FlihpFlorp 20 points 9 months ago

i usually browse by all and have sometimes accidentally have commented on the women’s stuff comm. The first time I did it they left my comment up (I didn’t know it was exclusively a women’s comm I thought it was a focus on women) but gave me a friendly reminder that it is womens stuff. Anyways I’ve also almsot commented in that comm a few times and only noticed it after reading comments

ANYWAYS that was longer than I anticipated but all I can excuse is accidentally commenting, the actual behavior is not especially since they said it they knew it was a women only community. IMO that’s not ok since I’m sure of what OOP was doing was allowed or “as a man…” was allowed, 90% of the comm would be men effectively destroying the women only space

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Isolde 15 points 9 months ago

I can understand a mistake, and like I read on the original thread and on here; the mods are really nice. It just really shouldn’t happen more than once imo. I also feel bad for the mods literally trying to keep a space designated for woman safe. When I first saw the group, and the rules- It was confusing but I think it’s understandable. There’s not 100 of these spaces, and the rules should be understandable for anyone who thought of participating.

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lmmarsano 4 points 9 months ago

I don’t really see women going into incel spaces, making incels uncomfortable.

Maybe they should, though I'm not sure that would discomfort incels.

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Isolde 2 points 9 months ago

Well, the fact that women are existing and don’t want to interact with any of them is already discomforting to them; so I don’t suppose it takes much.

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northernlights -4 points 9 months ago

Exactly, dude is just proving them right that all men are self-important assholes. It's like a woman going on /r/redpill and telling them they're just angry, ugly geeks. Not helping. That being said I can't help but think trying to create a safe space on a public space is never going to really work. I'd see more something like a private matrix space, or even properly authenticated IRC (that's where I have my safe space about my addiction).

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Isolde 8 points 9 months ago

I can agree with that, but I think for privacy you lose some inclusivity. I understand you want to feel comfortable when talking about sensitive topics. On the other hand, is being a woman really such a sensitive topic that we shouldn’t be able to have a space that’s respected? It’s depressing that it’s not just intrinsically understood that these spaces are important, deserve to be public and proud, and really should be more prolific- but here we are.

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