You Don’t Look Like a Gamer: On Toxicity, Gatekeeping, and Women Who Share Their Gaming Lives Online (my article)

5 months ago by PerfectDark to c/games

Today's article was just a short one, and engaging in what makes everyone roll their eyes: seeing something happen on Reddit and writing an article about it.

To cut it short:

Billie Eilish (famous singer) uploaded a picture of her old Nintendo DSi in gallery of images, to her Instagram account
Someone shared that on Reddit
Half of the comment section slid straight into shitty gamer dude Hell (the other half did not)
Some man on Mastodon attacked me
Post removed from Reddit when moderators spotted the comments

...this is a fast-forward of the oddness, but if you want to read over my ramble here, and see some shittiness, the link will help:

https://gardinerbryant.com/...

I see this shit all the time, and it is not only exhausting, but something no one should see (no matter their identity) should be subjected to. Anyway, read on if you'd like!

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baines -13 points 5 months ago

wait is this article really complaining that someone said they don’t care about her complaining about shitty people on Reddit?

presumably the point of leaving for some of us was so we don’t have to hear about stupid shit said by its remaining users

like giving a fuck about what’s left on X

anyway my wife has more console games than I ever had and most cater to her demographic over mine

what a dumb thing for the original reddit users to try and gate keep in this day and age

it’s not the 90s, women game in mainstream

that said the whole lying by rich and famous people for pointless gaming cred is real, just look to moron Elon and Path of Exile

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BaroqueW 13 points 5 months ago

Missing the point in so many ways, you'd think a stormtrooper wrote this

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baines 0 points 5 months ago

which point?

I’m sympathetic about her complaint over reddit but nothing with mastadon had anything to do with her being a woman

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NostraDavid -6 points 5 months ago

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