Anyone else just... never go through the legal name change process? Its been like 7 years since I came out and I still haven't bothered with it.

3 years ago by LadyAutumn to c/mtf

Its hard to justify the cost mostly. It's also mildly amusing watching people stumble a bit if I have to show my ID for something. But getting called my deadname at the bank is starting to get tiresome 🙃

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LassCalibur 8 points 3 years ago

Yep! It's been five years so far of hrt for me and I still haven't legally changed my name. Most likely that's due to having felt like names were all fake for so much of my life. Yet why was I so jealous of my friend who just picked her own new name in grade school and got away with it? My state in the us still requires running a newspaper ad for a while which isn't something I'm looking forward to and the state I was born in requires gcs to change birth certificates. There's a fair possibility that I'm intersex as well though which would allow me to have my birth certificate changed to reflect that with only a test of some sort. I'm definitely going to get it all done before the end of the next presidential election here since who knows what horrors might happen if the republicans won in this climate.

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Lux 6 points 3 years ago

What's the newspaper ad for? Is it publicly announcing that your trans or something?

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LassCalibur 9 points 3 years ago

That sums it right up I think but supposedly its for the worlds creditors who all read your local newspaper to watch for us changing our names just to get away from debts.

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eestileib 3 points 3 years ago

In California they require public notice of name change unless it is for marriage status change or associated with a gender change.

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LadyAutumn 4 points 3 years ago

Thats probably a good idea considering the possible political climate. The newspaper thing is horrible though, I understand the idea behind it but its so unnecessarily public..

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