Took me until I was, I believe, 16 despite discovering that both aromanticism and asexuality were a thing a long, long time prior, because it was only then that I realized you can be aromantic without being asexual. When I was younger I thought I was ace + bi or something for a bit, but that felt really, really off.
30s, when I came across a proper explanation of the split attraction model. I'm also some form of asexual.
I was never really interested in that kind of stuff (boy/girlfriends, sex), but I didn't have a word for it, it knew of other people who felt similarly until I was at a Pride Parade and was given a flier. Thinking "this is probably an add, but I'll read it anyway" I for the first time read about aces, and later read about aros aswell. So I learned about it in my early 20's.
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I guess if this is the aromantic thread, I'm curious: how long did it take people to figure out they're aromantic? I realized I was queer at like 12 but it took till my 30s to realize I was aromantic, maybe cause I didn't know that was a thing until then and I thought I was just, like, failing to live up to my responsibility to find myself a relationship
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