The more serious argument comes from their insistence that cross-political marriages will help save the nation from "the Trump-era divisions" and social ills stemming from men's misogyny. [...] Worse, it shifts responsibility for male misbehavior onto women. The blame for MAGA is subtly moved away from those who are perpetuating the problem, meaning Trump's predominantly male voters, onto the shoulders of Democratic women who have been doing everything right all along. It's reminiscent of the way women's hemlines are blamed for male violence or the way mothers are blamed for what their grown sons choose to do. It feels easier to blame women than to hold men accountable.

I'm so fucking tired of people (consciously or unconsciously) expecting women to make the effort, make the sacrifice, to "fix things".

Trying to get men who already think women are inferior to listen to their liberal wives is a joke.

Which is why even just making the effort feels fruitless. There are incredibly few people in my life who would've been worth the massive amount of effort and pain and sheer dedication this kind of conversion requires.