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TriplePlaid

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TriplePlaid 26 points 9 months ago

There is a difference between looking/noticing and staring in my opinion.

It is also important to think about how choices over what one wears are driven by many factors, not just a desire to have people look at you. I think many women (especially younger women) have been made to feel that they must wear revealing clothing to fit in or be cool, so it isn't really so simple as just an invitation for men to stare.

As for why men should not stare, it is because the male gaze (everyone's gaze really) has power and affects people's emotions, and it is worthwhile to care about how other people feel and not do something that would make a large portion of people feel uncomfortable such as staring at someone's cleavage. Basically, it is impolite.

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TriplePlaid 8 points a year ago

Is this the video Trump saw that convinced him to send troops to Portland?!?

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TriplePlaid 8 points a year ago

It was not a relief, however, to learn that the sun will expand to be so large as to fully encompass the earth's orbit long before it does eventually explode... In only 5 billion years... Which apparently was a few billion less than 6 year old me planned on living for!

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TriplePlaid 7 points a year ago

I have been going through a very similar experience to you. The more coworkers I have over the years, the more people I realize are extremely jaded and having a tough time caring at all about the world at large.

This is a pretty complicated issue. I think that means you need a sort of patchwork of paradigms to apply to the issue at the right moment.

Sometimes you need to give yourself a break and let yourself live your life - you only get one, and joy is an essential part of a functioning human, and you must continue to function if you are to continue impacting your world.

Other times you must keep in mind that it is literally completely illogical to say that your actions have no impact, obviously each individual action on it's own is small but the actions humanity makes are made up of individuals. Change happens one person at a time, and individuals are difference-makers.

Consider professional sports teams where the stars elevate the team to the next level - they cannot do their work by themselves, every member of the team is needed and makes an impact, but the impacts are not all the same. You will see the same dynamic play out in the typical workplace - a relatively small portion of people really make things happen at most workplaces in my experience, but they still need the team to help them get it done. So you should continue to think of your actions as being important/having meaning in my opinion, and you should keep striving to make the world a better place.

Sometimes when there is a situation that frustrates me but that I know I cannot change (or cannot change immediately or in full), it helps to quiet that thing in my head that worries by practicing mindfulness techniques. Personally I find "box breathing" (a style of controlling breathing to regulate heart rate and perhaps lower cortisol) to be most effective. Maybe this or some other method could help to quel your feelings when you know that it is a situation to let go of.

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TriplePlaid 7 points 9 months ago

Yes, there is a difference between staring and looking, in so far as those terms are commonly used in american english:

From Oxford Languages via Google: Stare: look fixedly or vacantly at someone or something with one's eyes wide open Look: direct one's gaze toward someone or something or in a specified direction So "staring" means looking fixedly or vacantly. This takes "looking" to a different place because it implies your thoughts are lingering on the thing you are staring at, which in the case of cleavage would be sexually suggestive (and therefore could make someone uncomfortable). It's not too far off from catcalling in my opinion. It is much less sexually suggestive to stare at someone's shoes or a cool hat, so clearly the context of staring is important as to whether it is offensive.

Also, you seem to have missed an important part of my earlier response:

It is also important to think about how choices over what one wears are driven by many factors, not just a desire to have people look at you. I think many women (especially younger women) have been made to feel that they must wear revealing clothing to fit in or be cool, so it isn't really so simple as just an invitation for men to stare.

This is why I don't think that it is accurate to say:

So if women want to wear clothes showing off their breasts then I am quite certain they want people to look at those breasts.

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TriplePlaid 7 points a year ago

If that is common practice it would seem to indicate that "cart abandonment rate" is actually a very important metric, since users often abandon carts and so a restaurant needs something about the menu/presentation that makes people abandon them less and "wins" a larger share of the market of users on the platform.

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TriplePlaid 7 points a year ago

Given that the legs move a little bit, I would suggest adding at least a small amount of bracing in addition to whatever you choose to do to fix the center of gravity problem.

Also, bracing helps to stiffen the structure by resisting forces that would make the wooden rectangle into a parallelogram. Here is an illustration:

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TriplePlaid 6 points a year ago

Even with a car payment being $750/month, that's a pretty fancy car from my perspective - and represents the average car payment for a new car.

I think that these folks could keep up with expenses much more easily if a few minor compromises were made (namely, a cheaper car).

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TriplePlaid 6 points 9 months ago

Nice video! I was hoping you could provide some more context as to the bevel angle and what advantages/drawbacks there are with having such a large angle.

I know very little about straight razor shaving but I am getting interested and may have to try some day... Still need to finish learning the DE razor first I think.

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TriplePlaid 5 points 10 months ago path: 0 20844277 20845205, hotness: undefined, score: 5, children: 0
TriplePlaid 5 points a year ago

This does not convince me that we should redirect all effort away from environmental legislation. In my view human rights are very much intertwined with environmental stewardship.

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TriplePlaid 5 points 8 months ago

SOTD - 2026-02-01

  • Prep: Stirling Unscented Preshave Soap
  • Brush: Unbranded; synthetic?
  • Razor: Stirling de3p6s standard head
  • Blade: Feather Hi Stainless (1)
  • Lather: Stirling Campania Shave Soap
  • Alum: Stirling Travel Size Alum
  • Aftershave: Stirling Campania Aftershave Splash
  • Serum: Ash Hopper Blueberry Serum
  • Lotion: Humble Bee Botanicals "Calendulove" Face Cream

Single pass WTG - a comfortably close shave. Some irritation in problem areas (chin, one place on neck) where I tried touching up too much. Wish I coulda got it closer on the chin and neck. Ditching the Taconic aftershave balm seems to have gone well.

I had been intimidated to use the Feather blade in this razor but I think it went alright. I think this shave maybe had the least amount of tugging so far, but still some on my chin. Maybe I should try a slant or open comb some day?

First time using Campania. It's nice, very clean smelling, but a bit tame. I would rank it as my 3rd favorite stirling scent so far.

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TriplePlaid 5 points 9 months ago

SOTD - 2026-01-25

  • Prep: Stirling Unscented Preshave Soap
  • Brush: Unbranded; synthetic (I think) kinda not a great brush but so far I SUCK at lathering with my boar brush, one moment my lather seems perfect the next moment it disappears completely...
  • Razor: Stirling de3p6s standard head
  • Blade: Astra SP green (3)
  • Lather: Stirling Sharp Dressed Man Shave Soap
  • Alum: Stirling Travel Size Alum
  • Aftershave: Stirling Sharp Dressed Man Aftershave Splash
  • Balm: Taconic Aftershave Balm

Taking down 8.5 days of growth, one pass WTG. I would say it was a socially acceptable shave, a bit more irritation than I was going for, not terribly close on the upper lip and parts of the neck. My lather was maybe (?) not dialed in well, or perhaps it was that this is the 3rd use of the blade. Not too bad anyway, and the alum combined with aftershave and balm helps a lot. Sharp Dressed Man is fine I guess, the shave soap smells like ivory soap to me but the aftershave is nice imo... Gf says it is OUT however. Deton-8 is the favorite so far.

Sadly this shave is probably not close enough to guarantee I will not have to use a beard net at work tomorrow. I must do better...

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TriplePlaid 5 points a year ago

Even if you feel that the white house should stop being used as an active part of the USA government, it doesn't make sense to tear it down.

Take Auschwitz for example - a horrible place, but worth preserving so that future generations can see history in person and learn from the past. At the very least, the whitehouse is worth preserving for its historical value, if nothing else.

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TriplePlaid 5 points 9 months ago

The first time I tried to make a lather with a boar brush... Was an epic fail!!! I think I must have soaked it for too long or not gotten enough soap. It was also my first time trying the "scoop" method instead of loading directly from the puck - I think that is what really did me in. I tried a practice lather today loading from the puck and it turned out great.

Not sure about what went wrong with the scoop method, maybe I am vastly underestimating how much soap I pick up when I load from the puck, or maybe boar brushes are just like that on the first use?

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TriplePlaid 5 points 9 months ago

I love how you can see the fingers digging into his face. I never thought about how excruciating it would be to birth someone from your forehead.... Awesome work!!

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TriplePlaid 4 points a year ago

Also it is important to know that wireless charging is much less efficient and therefore is environmentally worse than using a corded charger.

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TriplePlaid 4 points a year ago

In my opinion this is a reductive take on the issue. Realize that human beings can make mistakes and that not everyone understands the world the same way or even has the same knowledge.

I won't excuse murdering innocent people, but I don't think most people joining the US military go into it thinking "yippie time to murder innocents."

I think most people who join have been indoctrinated (usually from a very early age) to think that the military is something it is not. While this does not excuse their behavior, it helps us to understand that the issue is not about an individuals misguided decision to join the military but rather the large scale manipulation/brainwashing of poor people. Blaming the soldier makes sense if they do something horrible or if they are truly aware of how bad the military's actions are and continue to serve, but blaming ALL soldiers just for the act of joining is pointless because most of them don't fully understand what is going on.

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TriplePlaid 4 points 8 months ago

Maybe it is just that it won't allow me to create a new piefed account on Voyager...

I'll try creating the account with other means and see if I can use it on Voyager maybe?

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TriplePlaid 4 points 9 months ago

I feel your pain with the winter driving, we have had a lot of rough days where I live. Do you have snow tires? I have found that they make an enormous difference (but sometimes it is sketchy driving no matter what).

Good luck with the new workplace! Sounds stressful, but maybe it could be very rewarding?

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