I edited the title because I had to, because it said "reasonable" instead of "unreasonable"… lol…
What expectations placed on the opposite sex by society do you find in unreasonable, and why?
3 years ago by FalseDoubleNegative to c/asklemmynsfw
I edited the title because I had to, because it said "reasonable" instead of "unreasonable"… lol…
I'm a lady, and think that the expectation that men ought not be too emotional is absolutely damaging and unreasonable and am not sure how it still persists.
Thank you.
What does “second shift” mean here? Is it related to emotional baggage?
Housework and mental load, a lot of times guys come home and relax, and don't realize (or don't care) that the reason they can do that is because their female partners are handling so much more of the other work.
It's not true in every M/F relationship, thankfully. But is very prevalent still, the expectation that women take care of getting the kids to appointments, getting supper arranged, knowing when the toothpaste is going to run out, staying home when someone is sick, remembering to call the absent line at school when kids are out, the work outside of work is not usually evenly distributed and when trying to get it evened out guys often have to be reminded which they then interpret as nagging.
Again - this is not every relationship, even my lunatic ex was aware and handled about half of the kid and other stuff, he had a single mom and saw what she did, and I am an indifferent housekeeper at best, which probably has something to do with it. (I saw a joke somewhere about how you could have a girlfriend good in bed or one good at keeping house but not both, so I joke with the husband that he made his choice.)
@lemmynsfw.com
Think /r/AskLemmy but way more NSFW.
Treat this community like a cross between /c/AskLemmy, /c/Sex, and /c/Fetishes.
RULES:
All posts must be in the form of a question and be largely NSFW.
Only text posts are allowed. Links can be posted if they are very relevant.
No images, videos, or embedded media in posts.
This is not a place for hookups, chat requests, AMAs.
POST GUIDELINES:
Try to avoid questions that can simply be googled or have yes/no answers.
Search before you post. Your question may have been asked before.
If you ask medical/physical questions don't always trust the comments here.
COMMENT GUIDELINES:
Avoid low-effort comments. Lone images, memes, jokes etc.
Treat all questions as if they're real, no matter how ridiculous.
Follow site rules with all reponses to avoid downvotes & removal.
go to feed...
@lemmynsfw.com
Think /r/AskLemmy but way more NSFW.
Treat this community like a cross between /c/AskLemmy, /c/Sex, and /c/Fetishes.
RULES:
All posts must be in the form of a question and be largely NSFW.
Only text posts are allowed. Links can be posted if they are very relevant.
No images, videos, or embedded media in posts.
This is not a place for hookups, chat requests, AMAs.
POST GUIDELINES:
Try to avoid questions that can simply be googled or have yes/no answers.
Search before you post. Your question may have been asked before.
If you ask medical/physical questions don't always trust the comments here.
COMMENT GUIDELINES:
Avoid low-effort comments. Lone images, memes, jokes etc.
Treat all questions as if they're real, no matter how ridiculous.
Follow site rules with all reponses to avoid downvotes & removal.
go to feed...
I'm a lady, and think that the expectation that men ought not be too emotional is absolutely damaging and unreasonable and am not sure how it still persists.
The second shift - get yourself a single dad, ladies! And a cleaning service for the biweekly bigger cleaning. I don't have that problem. We do each have half a second shift because that stuff doesn't go away, but it's shared, and I didn't need to explain that it exists.
save