NTA

Boundaries. I'd say make chore time fun for her and get one of those wall treat chews and uncap it while you work. Or have a recycleable plastic bottle, cut a small hole in it, and tape the sides so it's not rough and put five treats in so when she bats it and plays, some come out and she can eat them. Associate the fact that sometimes you doing something for yourself is also good for her.

That might even be something she can do in the room with you so she gets quality time and fun and you get to do what you need.

How can you even say no to such a good kitty? Sitting in things is a god given right for kittykind. YTA

You have to realize, when you are getting a cat you are entering into voluntary serfdom.

She is the owner, you are the pet. YTA

Make a pouch for over your shoulders, then you don't even have to hold the cat-in-the-bag.

Cats are AH's.

My friend has a bag gremlin cat, she's very cute and demands access to my bag whenever I visit. If I don't get my stuff out quickly enough she makes her displeasure known by way of a merciless attack on the bag until I inevitably relent and let her get in it.

Really need to start bringing a decoy bag.

Sounds like an abusive relationship. Constantly demanding things is a huge red flag. She even still you from doing basic things like dishes for her own needs, super red flag. Maybe talk to her about it, if she does not reconsider her behavior you should leave here while your can. The abusive behavior will only get worse. One day you will wake up and she will be right in your face.

YTA. Lift the damn cat. 😤

You could train her so that you give her alternative behaviors to do.

YTC :( wish my cats want that too, so cute