best comment in the thread.

More like 50...Once I was looking at a profile that I swear had over 50 PAGES of the same photo posted everywhere. I was scrolling just out of morbid curiosity of course... How do people even find so many subs to post to?

Thank you for your valuable input and taking time to answer. Much appreciated.

I absolutely can see this aspect, as I have mentioned in my original post. Personally I also rather enjoy the community with social interactions that are more authentic and fun.

But this still leaves my question open, because women who do not engage in the practices you described and on contrary engage in building this community without any advertisment, but happen to have a link in their bio, are targeted too.

Now to clarify - I don't think anyone should be targeted at all, subs can set the rules, we must follow them, and mods can warn and ban those who break them. And in all other cases - don't like something then don't look at it.

But it seems having a link in bio is enough to bring the hate on and this really is something I would love the haters to clarify- why?

Proof for your theory is the German gonewild community on Reddit. I commented about this here. They have a strict no ads policy. Even a link to onlyfans on your profile will result in a ban. When they enforced their policy some people left, but all in all the community is a divers place with a good amount of posts from all genders. My guess is: if you live somewhere, where the lack of money will not fuck you up that hard, it is easier to do things just for fun.

I'm truly sorry your experience with Lemmy is so negative. You look badass and beautiful, and I hope you don't let this negativity get into you.

Yeah I've seen those comments and downvoted them. I'm sorry you have to deal with that crap. I for one haven't been back to reddit since the protests began so I'm glad you are here! 😀

Yeah very weird. You can easily block people or groups who are following guidelines but who you don't want to see posts! 😞

It’s honestly just self-defeating and stupid, even from an absolutely selfish perspective by men who do nothing but consume porn. Thinking about it: if you want amazing ladies to share amazing nudes, you need to create a positive environment. No matter what a woman looks like, she may have misgivings about sharing. So you have to make the environment a wall-to-wall positive, thankful, and respecting one. It’s basic math.

If it becomes a place where people get judged by their looks and then “win” or “lose” then guess what? No one’s going to fucking post.

I wish these kids would pull their heads out of their ass and get this. I learned it by observing the polyamorous communities I have encountered. There is, as a rule, zero shaming, and every woman is a queen. But then I think many of these twerps have never even had sex at all let alone figured out the dynamics of a sexually free community. Fucking kids.

There's a whole bunch of communities that just isn't my taste. Know what I do? Just block those communities. Bam, done, and I never have to think of it again. Or individual users, etc.

Don't understand why that's so difficult instead of spreading hate for no reason, or downvoting something that fits the /c/.

It takes multiple clicks and keystrokes to leave a dickhead reply, which you may get an angry response to later, but just one swipe of the scroll wheel to make the content disappear and move on with your life. People need to put away childish things and learn that the world isn’t going to walk right up and cater to them. They need to put their time where it will make them happy.

Thanks for sharing. Totally agree with you

Thank you for being you.

Yes there is a block feature. I am not sure how it exactly works, but I would presume the blocked member is prevented from viewing and interacting.

But the question remains- why? I hope those brave keyboard warriors have enough courage to share their reasoning here.

I’d also recommend the reverse: if you think you’re seeing a lot of posts from someone you don’t want to see: BLOCK THAT POSTER. We have that power.

There are people I am not interested in that post constantly who are not even advertising an OF. I just block them. Nothing personal. Just me customizing my feed to my tastes. If you’ve ever spent time on a NSFW forum then you already know that people have different tastes.

I have no patience for little babies who think the entire site should change policies so that they don’t have to customize their feed to their tastes. Grow up, babies! Don’t skip thumb day: reach over and hit that block button!

I share you sentiments. Thank you 😘

Honestly I'd be cool with that and an option by the poster to disable comments if they want. If someone wants to show their body off, let them. If it's not a body I want to see I can scroll past it and say nothing like a normal, polite human being. If the OP wants to tolerate the comments, fine, but I don't want anyone posting themselves and getting shamed/shit on for it.

I feel the downvote is still important for dealing with content posted to the wrong community and spam

I know it's something that at least instances can control, because I don't think Beehaw has a down vote button. Maybe the admins of this instance should consider that for lemmynsfw, too

I 100% agree. Or at least I’d like the ability, as a mod, to see what little shits are doing this and be able to shadowban them from viewing us in their feed. Seriously, all these little festering peckerwoods downvoting ladies OC need to be piled into a wood chipper.

This - please report people who are using the platform to expouse their hate, unnecessary misogyny (unless that's what you're into...) or are just generally trolls.

Also, if moderators are the ones encouraging, taking part, or otherwise ignoring it, please let an administrator know so we can try to resolve it.

Thank you, but actually quite opposite. My experience is mostly nothing but positive and fun (apart from rare instances). I have been enjoying social interactions on Lemmy and often reading comments with smile on my face.

But I'm not blind and this kind of behaviour online is hard not to notice.

I don't have to agree, but I can understand why people would have less appreciation for purely advertising content (they still get content though!).

So they want real amateurs, posting for a thrill, but good forbid any of them happen to also have a link in ther bio.

I cannot make sense out of it.

Lemmy can easily ban all creators, just for having a link in bio, regardless whether they post non spammy content, don't advertise and engage socially, or not. But I wonder how many posts would be here to see? My bet is on only reposts of "borrowed" from somewhere else content.

You hit the nerve and you are so damn right in this statement!!!

No it's because people are annoyed by spam and they perceive that as spam

THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤️

Thanks for replying 😘

I agree with your sentiments, but I still would love to hear reasoning from those who are so offended by everyone with a link in their bio.

These sorry sacks of shit would never even get within earshot of these women to say this crap in person. It’s like: tell me you’re a virgin without telling me you’re a virgin. You can always tell a man who gets a lot of sex because he treats women in a way that makes them warm to him. Shrill little internet Dick bags can barely pinch their own micro penis in mammas basement, AND IT SHOWS

Thank you for taking time to chim in! This is the first response to my question so much sppreciated. Just shame none of those who actually hate on, had balls big enough to explain their carry on.

Thank you. All appreciation and much love to well adjusted members of this community.

I have a feeling I may have expressed myself in too much detail, as this post was to be a question, not a cry for help out of frustration.

I would love to see those brave keyboard warriors, being courageous enough to answer, because I honestly would love to know why.

100%. I started a sub here and have been posting random porn to get it going. A couple of actual ladies have shown up and posted their nudes now, and it’s enraging to see anyone downvoting them. I swear if the mod tools would let me see who they are I’d fucking ban them.

Thank you.

Thank you.

I sense a hint of sarcasm here, but I also may be wrong.

In any case the encouragement is welcomed, but not needed. Many thanks for offering 🥰

I'm an emotionally mature alas wild woman, who feels comfortable in my own skin and with everything I do. Don't need sweet talking to keep me going, nor bad mouthing to stop me. I may be soft and friendly and full of positive energy, but I also have a tough skin and I'm not that fragile.

The purpose of this post was the get an answer to my question, not to vent nor look for support. Most people here are awesome and I appreciate all respones. I just don't understand those few bad seeds. This is not my personal experience but what I have noticed in general ever since I joined this community.

Thank you for taking time to reply and I hope it was in a good faith too. Wishing you a great day.

It’s unfortunate that downvotes cannot be replied to so we can ask people what they are thinking.

Looking at downvotes overall, I don’t think they should be anonymous AND shown. If you want to show the voting total, that’s different.

But giving that one little asshole the power to change the “⬇️ 0” into “⬇️ 1” is too much power.

They should be able to change “⬆️600” into “⬆️599” if they want, and that’s a far more reasonable amount of power for one little asshole to have.

Thanks for taking a strong stance on this. Have a great day

Thank you for this.

I actually had nothing but great experience on Lemmy (bar one comment) previous to this post, but I came across many negative comments.

Now this has changed and I'm showered with hate, because I dared to post what I did.

It is insanity.

Not that that should make any difference but I am a total amateur - I work full time in professional environment closely connected to my education. I also take additional work, because life is expensive as we all know. This leaves me with very little time for myself and my hobbies, I have always enjoyed photography so I started experimenting on myself with the camera, not like I could had asked any friends to be my nude models nor had time to go and study photography.

I literally have thousands of photos in my folders that have never been seen by anyone - too much for social media.

It took me years to gave in to request to open OF and start sharing. I never had it on my agenda. But it feels in a way like the most safe place to share and the best place to be appreciated too.

Yeah, I have a link in my bio. But I don't go and shout about it. I don't mention it in my comments and I don't even make titles suggestive enough. I don't feel like anything I post here screams "promo".

I belive if somebody likes something they go and investigate and then they do what their heart desires. My link is as an option if anyone feels curious and would like to see more or support what I do. But that's all.

At this stage I decided to use a block feature. I'm playing a Santa too and giving a bag of coal to all those nasty boys (they certainly don't sound like men)

Thanks for being you and being awesome!

I've been doing exactly the same. If I can't find anything nice to say, I just don't say it at all. It is easy to skip and move on.

First time ever I'm on the highest score 🤣🤣🤣

You're not entitled to be replied to for free.

I am on here to advertise my OF. I only have a link in my bio. I say quick thank yous and such to people who comment to me, but I am not gonna have an entire conversation for free. It sounds like you're wanting free titty pics and free sexting, good luck with that.

Because it is men.

Not ALL, not even vast majority, but still. Bad apples leave a bad taste and rotten the whole bunch...

I'm yet to see female creator leaving nasty comments under another female creator. We are usually supporting each other, or just moving on. It takes incredible amount of courage and thick skin to put ourselves out there knowing there will be so many hateful people. Nobody expects thanks, like we are used to having zero appreciation for all the work and time that goes into creating content we share for free... but being abused on top of that is just insanity!

I don't even promote, I share my photos and try to make this community grow and to be a fun place to interact. Yes I have a link in my bio, I'm not sending anyone to it, nor plastering it anywhere in my titles nor comments. I haven't posted same photo anywhere. I love being social and having fun chats with like minded people.

The entitlement of getting everything for free can go both ways, you know?

I would happily have all my photo equipment, travel to locations, laptop, outfits and cost of time spend travelling, setting up, taking photos and editing given for free without showing anything in return.

But I do it mainly for myself for fun, because I enjoy it. But yeah it cost shit loads of money so I finally gave in and created that link.