Some people forget that even if you're in a heterosexual or gay relationship, you can still be bi. Family members who I've told I'm bi suddenly started to think I'm gay, just because I was in a gay relationship.
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cornballdefense 1 point 3 years ago
I don't even fool with it 99.9% of the time. My fave comment is when someone says "You're just fence riding. You'll either settle down with a man or woman." Like dang, you're telling me the vast majority of people are monogamous and settle down with someone with a gender? And that's not getting into if someone is in a relationship with someone who identitifies as enby. Smh.
Elyssa_Greensley 5 points 3 years ago
You are special to someone.
warrier120 2 points 3 years ago
Bi. The bi-cycle fucks with me a lot though.
Lowbird 2 points 3 years ago
I'm ace. It took me a long-ass time to figure that out, as often happens. I thought I was bi for a while because 0 = 0 lol.
Edit: also not aro, and nonbinary (agender, mostly), since people are specifying this as well.
Monthly_Vent 1 point 3 years ago
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IndeterminateName 1 point 3 years ago
passes the garlic bread
Bicyclejohn 2 points 3 years ago
Opposite here, I'm bi but only ever been with a guy. I'm still with him, just worried about him
StrahdVonZarovich 1 point 3 years ago
Although I can see the uses in making up terms to define who you're attracted to, I dont like the idea of putting yourself in a box. Ive had straight friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the same sex, and gay friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the opposite sex. When you "join" a sexuality you dont sign a contract or anything. A while ago I figured out I was bisexual. It was pretty great for a while, cause I was able to figure myself out and feel more free because of it. I didnt feel guilty for having certain thoughts. However, eventually I started to have some problems with the label itself. In this day and age, what even is a man or a woman? Ive found myself being attracted to people that dont identify as either gender. And isnt gender supposed to be a societal construct? In that case, why do we care so much about it in the case of define sexual identities? Im no philosopher or social scientist, so I may just be talking out of my own ass here so forgive my ignorance. Nowadays whenever some asks me my sexuality (which by the way is a very weird thing to ask people you just met in real life) I always say "on a case by case basis".
Gormadt 1 point 3 years ago
Polyamorous biromantic demisexual
to answer the age old question, "da fuck is that?"
I'm into being in relationships with multiple people of multiple genders and I've got to really get to know someone before any sexual attraction starts.
Most of the time when people ask I just answer with Bi as the people asking are usually not interested in the nitty gritty details.
allisondickens 1 point 3 years ago
Bi guy, only have been with a guy
ada 0 points 3 years ago
It's more stressful than anything ;)
Navigating split attraction and the correct labels is a challenge...
I'm a trans woman. I spent most of my life dating women, and even before I transitioned, I had come to accept that I'm not attracted to women, even though I've loved my partners. I started working through that, then I transitioned. I dated a woman not long after that and it didn't work out. I told myself it was because I loved her but wasn't attracted to her.
So, I stopped dating women. I called myself straight, because men and strongly masc aligned enbies are really the only people that I am attracted to (though not the only people I can fall in love with)
And that sucked. My queerness was invisible to folk. Most of my dating pool was actively not queer, and I never got what I was looking for in my relationships with men, despite my attraction to them.
And now I'm an amazing poly relationship with my girlfriend.
So I've mostly given up on labels and just settled on queer :)
Bicyclejohn 0 points 3 years ago
What is the difference between omni and bi?
merjalane 0 points 3 years ago
Omnisexuality is defined as an attraction to persons of any gender identity (incl non-binary), but gender does still matter for an omnisexual (so in my case for example, I'm attracted to everyone, but more strongly towards men and less towards non-men). Bisexuals are attracted to men and women, but could also be attracted to non-binary people (but not necessarily I think).
So I'd say there's very little difference between them, if any. It's more of a vibe-based thing, whatever label you like the most.
hadrian 0 points 3 years ago
I've heard of bi as experiencing both homosexual (same-gender) and heterosexual (different-gender) attraction. That's the definition I like, as it's not necessarily non-binary exclusionary and so accurately describes how I experience attraction.
nd_nb -1 points 3 years ago
I think the concept of sexuality needs to go away, tbh. I'm not straight because I am attracted to EVERY guy. And I'm not a lesbian because I am attracted to every woman. So what am I saying when I say that I am straight or gay?
The info I am giving then is who I am NOT attracted to. If I say I'm straight, I'm just saying 'I'm not attracted to women'. I'm not saying 'I'm attracted to every man.'
So I think the concept of sexuality is pretty stupid and everyone should just like whoever they like. It creates a lot of confusion otherwise, with straight and gay people worrying about whether they're 'doing sexuality right'. It's nonsense. Bin it.
Andreas 4 points 3 years ago
I'm confused as to where you got the idea that having a sexuality means you're attracted to every single person of a certain sex. It just means that you can be attracted to people of that sex. I'm bisexual but I have standards, I'm not attracted to every person on earth. Sexuality categorization is useful to quickly contextualize discussions about sex and relationships in this world where heterosexual is assumed to be the default unless explicitly specified otherwise. Doing away with sexuality would only add confusion and wasted time. For example: looking for advice in gay dating but receiving advice about straight dating (that doesn't apply to gay dating because the cultures and dynamics are very different) when there's no terminology to tell them apart.
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Bi cis woman, but I ended up marrying my hs sweetheart so only really been in het relationships. No regrets, he's my favorite human!
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