tone212_ 17 points 2 years ago

Today is my birthday and I’m going through my usual sadness phase about turning a year older. Feelings of being a failure are creeping in as I wish I would have achieved more by now, going into later 30s. I need to work harder at changing up the things I don’t like, because some (most) days, I feel like I’ve just given up.

I’m hoping I feel more positive in the morning. Have rooftop arvo drinks / dinner planned with a few friends which should be nice. Will do a few pressing tasks for work in the morning, but otherwise I’m taking the day off. Working won’t make my day any better, that’s for sure.

Sorry for the late night rant but typing this all out helps.

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TinyBreak 6 points 2 years ago

Happy Birthday! I want to address this:

Today is my birthday and I’m going through my usual sadness phase about turning a year older. Feelings of being a failure are creeping in as I wish I would have achieved more by now, going into later 30s. I need to work harder at changing up the things I don’t like, because some (most) days, I feel like I’ve just given up.

SOMETIMES surviving is enough. Some times keeping your head above water is good enough. If you really feel this way (and its not some sort of negative perception or comparing how you think your life SHOULD be) then tomorrow pick a project, start small and tackle it. tomorrow aint promised, so if there is something you want to do get started.

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StudChud 5 points 2 years ago

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I get the birthday-sads too, I know a few people who do as well. I think it's normal to assess our station in life when our birthdays roll around again, especially after 30. I, too, wish I had achieved more by now or worked harder, made different decisions, but we cannot go back in time. Mourning could-have-beens is okay, but don't let it consume you, you have agency and autonomy now and can only change your future.

Try and look forward to the celebrations you have on today, and enjoy yourself. Life is ultimately full of ups and downs, stops and starts, and it's okay to feel that you may not be at the same place as your peers, but it isn't something to beat yourself up about. We each go through life at different speeds, and that's okay! You're an awesome, kind, and funny person, I'm sure you bring happiness and joy to the people who know you.

I am truly wishing you a happy birthday! 💜💜💜

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PeelerSheila 4 points 2 years ago

Happy birthday mate 🎈 bit ambivalent about birthdays meself 🫂

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SituationCake 3 points 2 years ago

Happy Birthday! Hope despite your feels, you have a good day. Could have written this myself, I also get the birthday sads, for the exact same reasons. I don’t have a solution just sympathy, and letting you know you’re not the only one. Stay away from social media for a few days (or forever!) where your friends/family are posting about achievements and having fun. Comparison can hurt. Also remember, people rarely post the bad stuff, and frequently embellish the good stuff.

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CEOofmyhouse56 3 points 2 years ago

Happy birthday 🎂

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Bottom_racer 3 points 2 years ago

Happy b'day!

Birthdays can be rough. Hope your drinks and dins w/ friends lifts the mood :)

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SpinMeAround 2 points 2 years ago