Psionicsickness 45 points 5 months ago

Anon fell victim to one of the classic blunders!

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fckreddit 5 points 5 months ago

Being in a relatonship is a pretty big blunder. /s

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Allero 40 points 5 months ago

This is why I open up earlier. Not at the first date or something, but at most a few months in.

You will eventually open up, and if it grosses your partner out to the point of ruining your relationship, you better know now rather than later, when you've spent so much time together and have more to lose.

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caseyweederman 6 points 5 months ago

Heck, start even earlier. Open a few months prior to the relationship!

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lb_o 6 points 5 months ago

Good idea! When I was a kid I almost drown in the river. That made me silent for two years from age five to seven, and when I was seven my voice slowly came back to me and I begun speaking again gradually.

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caseyweederman 3 points 5 months ago

!remindme three months bring flowers

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TubularTittyFrog 1 point 5 months ago

that's why you do it back to them when they do it to you. taste of their own medicine.

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IndustryStandard 1 point 5 months ago

First date? More like meeting the psychiatrist

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SwingingTheLamp 31 points 5 months ago

I've heard variations on this basic story in men's spaces online so, so many times. He made the classic mistake of opening up about his fears and vulnerabilities.

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Kimjongtooill 41 points 5 months ago

If you open up to someone and they get weirded out this bad, they probably weren't worth having in your life anyway, or at least aren't right now.

Granted, if you have actual past trauma, you should work on it with a therapist instead of your partner. And if your partner hasn't gone through something similar and can't relate at all, you shouldn't go into great detail about it. I disclose what the general trauma was about and leave it at that.

Fuck all that "Gary Cooper" John Wayne build walls bullshit.

https://youtu.be/psN1DORYYV0

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TubularTittyFrog -4 points 5 months ago

which is precisely why everyone is staying single. they are disgusted by each other's vulnerability and humanity.

and people do not work on their trauma, they expect their partner to fix it for them. and they think you're an asshole if you don't make them magically happy and make up for all the shit their daddy/mommy didn't do for them. and they are totally clueless to the concept that... they can do that for themselves! they are no longer helpless children!

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alexquiniou 14 points 5 months ago

What have you said ? What is you trauma ?

Because trauma doesn't mean you are the victim.

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herrvogel 14 points 5 months ago

OP has PTSD from when he was a mafia hitman specializing in murdering the families of small business owners who didn't pay protection money.

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rbos 8 points 5 months ago