I'm going to want to kiss the person I'm fucking and if their mouth has been on an asshole I'm not going to do that. Sorry, it grosses me out and it isn't as good as using it on my dick anyway.

I would be okay with the strap-on but not with rimming. As another reply says, some people just don't like the butt-mouth combination. I'm one of them.

Really?

OK then, let me convince you - after a previous bad experience I just stick to the outside, where it's easy to check everythings clean. You can even make cleaning the area part of the play.

If you tie down your sub with their backside in the air, and reduce their senses with a blindfold, hood, or whatever, it can be a very very intense sensation for them. Plus, it can be a surprise, especially if mixed in with more harsh forms of play. I've never bothered with consent for rimming just on the outside, assuming they've consented to traditional s/m activities.

Thank you, was going to respond with something similar.

We don't yuck others' yums, but we also shouldn't yuck their lack of our yums. Being kinky is not some linear progress bar you fill, it's an incredibly varied spectrum of things that may or may not make us tick to any degree.

To that effect, as with Jaycifer here, my play is mostly mental - the physical stuff matters less, and things like rimming aren't even on the invite list.

So gtfo here with all that "if you don't like this then you aren't kinky enough" shaming bullshit. Because it comes in so many forms, and that's the awesome fucking part.