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2 days ago by VetOfTheSeas to c/me_irl

kn33 47 points 2 days ago

"I actually intend to stay not busy"

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LordKitsuna 26 points 2 days ago

I always answer that with something like "kinda" or "was gonna do stuff soon" and finish with "why what's up" if it's important I'm not actually busy

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Big_Boss_77 15 points 2 days ago

not particularly...

zoom call

but too busy for that; what's up?

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saltnotsugar 19 points 2 days ago

Oh dang my boss is calling me. Let me call you back on Febtober 98th.

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LostWanderer 15 points a day ago

LOL this is why I usually answer, I can talk via instant message or text...But no phone or video calls. As I hate phone or video calls, I feel shackled to my device and I can't escape it. I find the idea maddening and only do phone calls for official things like dealing with doctors, work, or businesses. If I befriend someone (on the off chance) I ask them if they like phone or video calls with friends casually, if they do, I run.

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FantasmaNaCasca 10 points a day ago

For work i dont accept calls. Usually.

I prefer having text/email records.
No one can say to me "I did (or didn't) say that".

"I have the receipts right here."

Moose antlers will regrow next year with branches where wounds were made this year.

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rumschlumpel 4 points a day ago

I prefer written conversations, too, but some people are absolutely useless for asynchronous communication ...

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LostWanderer 2 points a day ago

Yep, we all have different communication styles and it is fine, if it had to be a real time conversation. It would have to be over dinner, lunch, or coffee. As I need something to bind me into the moment aside from a conversation. I am a strange creature like that.

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Captainautism 2 points a day ago

Same here.

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lightnsfw 1 point 15 hours ago

I'll do a phone call if it's more efficient but video calls are out of the question. I did them for job interviews during covid because it was useful in that context for us to see each other and twice when I was demoing how to reprogram some devices I support at my current job. But for just day to day social communication? Fuck that. We don't need to see each other unless someone is taking their clothes off.

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jaybone 13 points 2 days ago

The polite way to do this is to ask “can you talk.”

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limdaepl -4 points 2 days ago

No, the polite way is to skip the preamble and just call. Either they pick up or they don’t.

/edit: I took this meme to mean at work, where being on call is expected. In that case I‘d rather get called directly than getting interrupted twice by writing first.

Outside work: don’t call unless this is an emergency.

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dustyData 12 points 2 days ago

If you cold call there better be blood or fire involved. It's not the 1940s anymore, you don't own my time. If you call and it's nothing urgent or important, or a programmed call, I will hang up.

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limdaepl 7 points a day ago

you don’t own my time.

That’s my point. If someone writes first and then calls they are wasting my time twice.

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dustyData 5 points a day ago

The point being that if you have a question and it is not urgent, you could ask by text and I will answer on my time. If it is something complex that merits a conversation, say so and we'll schedule a call when it is convenient for the both of us. If you cold call to inquire something complex and I have something more urgent or important to tend to, you are effectively stealing my entire attention. There's a reason we have asynchronous communication channels.

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Zorque 5 points 2 days ago

Sounds like someone who gets set to always go to voicemail.

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OldChicoAle 4 points 2 days ago

No I need the preamble. Is this a conversation I want to have now or later or never?

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lightnsfw 2 points 15 hours ago

There's a 100% chance I'm not picking up a cold call. A preparatory text conversation will guarantee I pick up, after I do what I can to provide whatever they want via text so we can forgo the call if possible.

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jaybone 1 point 2 days ago

That too. Though sometimes I can text, but I can’t talk. I usually assume the same about others.

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BranBucket 10 points a day ago

I like to put the phone to my ear like it's a voice call, then pretend to accidentally hang up, then refuse to answer again, then stop responding to texts.

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Slovene85 5 points 15 hours ago

... then move out of the country.

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outfmymind 7 points 16 hours ago

After years of practicing I am immune to this fear and I never pick up

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Someonelol 4 points a day ago

You guys get a warning before receiving a call? They just skip that formality for me lately.

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Hupf 5 points a day ago

Maybe because you'd say no.

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ekZepp 4 points 2 days ago

"...actually..."

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garbagehead 3 points a day ago

But why a picture of richard gere?

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darkmogool 3 points a day ago

Always answer with "yes" on this question. Also you get warned?

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JigglySackles 3 points 14 hours ago

Busy and available are two different things.

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dustyData 2 points 2 days ago

“Are you?’

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Impractical_Island 1 point a day ago

This is why I call collect

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prole 4 points 16 hours ago

It's Bob WeHadaBabyItsABoy

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Impractical_Island 0 points 10 hours ago

It's Vic WeHadABabYItsDeadWeBurnedItAliveAndSacrificedTheRemainstoThorHaiSatan. Do you accept this call (protip: it's Jesus)?

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kamen 1 point 15 hours ago

At least they ask first. I have a colleague who would call with no warning whatsoever.

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Captainautism 1 point a day ago

This is how come I leave FaceTime disabled.

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