My personal view is that some rage is entirely justified in this situation. My view only, but I think you were misled, possibly accidentally, but still misled. I also think that your family suffered a rush of blood to their collective heads when the process started, and their expectations altered in consequence as they realised all the various possibilities available. But imo they are primarily thinking of their own needs/wants, and I think yours got lost along the way.

Now, however, you are in receipt of much more accurate information and can go forward armed with that.

I do think that your family needs to consider whether or not they actually need to buy a dedicated apartment for their own use. One that has nothing to do with you and which fits their needs perfectly. You can even help them search for it. You can still offer hospitality as and when required if that suits you, but if they are going to be that picky about the space they need then they need to understand the consequences and costs - to you as well as them.

Your needs come first here. After all, you are going to be living in the space full time and your needs should be the priority imo.

This might be a bit cheeky, but you could ask if they will let you have a locked room, for your own exclusive use, at their house in Mornington. Because I bet they will refuse because 'it's their house'. This might bring home to them exactly what they are asking you for.

Oh I'm so mad for you, your parents did you dirty on this. I'm so sorry, Alamut, you deserve better 💜

What you need to do is put you first. Your needs come first. Your accessibility comes first. Your comfort comes first. Be strong. We love you. ❤️

That sucks homie. Twice my mother has agreed to help me get into a place only to turn around and withdraw the offer.

I've know a few homesless guys and some of them are straight up unable to function as a regular member of society. Lovely people with good hearts but cannot handle a regular day to day life. Kind of you to reach out to him.

Go kill it girl.

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Get it, girl!

I got a big bag of creatine in Springy if you need some.

Go for it. The love of money may be the root of all evil, but not having enough of the stuff makes a lot of things seem a lot worse than they actually are. Pick packing is not fun, but could be a stepping stone to better things.

Good luck! The main job of warehouses is to get the right stock, in the right quantity, into the right boxes/pallets, and ship it to the right address. So in the interview emphasise things like you have good attention to detail, and are accurate with work given to you, you will always ask rather than assume if you can’t find what you need etc. Also mention that you can get along with all kinds of people. Warehouse demographics are a melting pot of cultures and walks of life.

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And uhh, if you need fake references I'm happy to make something up. I've worked in a few warehouses. on time, turns up, doesn't complain. When asked for a fault I usually say they eat meat which no interviewer wants to touch for a simple job reference.

🤞 You got this :)

My last pick packer job co-worker gave me a giant bag of mushies he picked and all the things, everything really looked quite nice for a while there.

You can feel like crap while still acknowledging what you have - both things can be true. Since you know what your psych would suggest, do you think the workbook would help?

Just keep trying, every day. Your self awareness is awesome, you are capable, you can do this.

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It’s ok. Life has ups and downs. Give yourself a high five for showing up even though you have difficulties. You are winning. If the career works out for long time or only a short time, it’s fine. It’s a life experience. Most people change several careers in their lives. Hopefully the psych advice helps things. If you can find a good GP sometimes they can be helpful in anxiety treatments too.

I love a good perf. It gives me a little joy in my life. So when it doesn't work out I get a little frustrated. I blame Twinings. Please see exhibit A & B below.

You work with “I’m angry my mums not here to wait on me, I’m too important for menial manners, so I’ll just rip it open hahaha that’ll assert my dominance here” animals. I have encountered them in every workplace I’ve been in. It’s an endemic species.

bastard shoulda at least thrown kibble in the bowl before retiring. That's what I do in these situations - although admittedly His Lordship is unnerved when his alarm goes off and he's surrounded not by shrieking beansidhes but by fat bastards licking satiated lips

I often randomly wake up at 3am and can tell when I'm not going to get back to sleep. After a couple of coffees I usually sit on the couch coding and its deeply enjoyable to just be cozy in the dark, cat curled up next to me, totally in my own world.

I believe garbos are paid fairly well. Still not a job I'd like, but city living means somebody gotta. Just wish people would stop putting utterly wrong things in the recycling!

Chef, would you like a hot drink and some toast?

Chef, we all hope you are feeling better soon. 💐💊⚕😷🐈

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Feel better soon chef 😷 best I can do for myself is a cold tin of beans followed by a cold tin of sardines 🫘 🐟

There are dozens of us!

from r****t? ..lol