‘We don’t do consent’: The comments sparking backlash against Joanna Howe’s husband

23 days ago by 𝙈𝙞𝙖 to c/australia

South Australia’s Attorney-General Kyam Maher has slammed comments from the husband of prominent anti-abortion activist Dr Joanna Howe.

GregorGizeh 11 points 23 days ago

I dont know who these people are honestly, but from glossing over the article i think it is being taken out of proportion? I would be very surprised if married people actually go through the whole song and dance people think of when hearing consent to sex. I would hope/imagine that they have a less formalized system amongst themselves.

Though i of course do not want to make light of rape, or the need for consent in general.

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Quokka 18 points 23 days ago

She’s a Christian anti-abortion “activist” who’s spent ~$500K on META advertising to push her agenda.

She’s very much into the women exist to serve their man thing.

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GregorGizeh 12 points 23 days ago

Yikes. Never mind me then.

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GreyEyedGhost 7 points 23 days ago

Consent is a very big deal in my marriage. There is a specially designed pad on my wife's night stand, and nothing happens until that consent is signed, and dated by both of us. We've opted to not require witnesses so things can be a little less formal and we can have a bit of spontaneity. She then holds the form in her hand while we're making love so she can crumple it to revoke consent any time she wishes. I make a point of not letting her reach orgasm very often lest she crumple the consent form in ecstasy and confusion arises. We both insist it's better this way.

...none of that is true, except the parts about consent being a big deal, and witnesses. Unless you count pets. They can watch, but not from on the bed.

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MrNobody 2 points 23 days ago

...none of that is true, except the parts about consent being a big deal, and witnesses. Unless you count pets. They can watch, but not from on the bed.

So they get to sit on the cuck chair?

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GreyEyedGhost 1 point 23 days ago

Cuck chair, director's seat, window sill, wherever. My attention is on a different kitty.

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RunJun 6 points 23 days ago

I guess it’s informal in my relationship but I also stop if they don’t seem into it. A relationship is communication, whether that’s spoken or nonverbal.

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GregorGizeh 2 points 23 days ago

Yeah, i remember from my last one my GF could just tell from the way i hugged her if i just wanted to cuddle or something else, and either responded accordingly or made a disapproving sound. And thats all i need to know lol. But i am also not a rapist so...

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FrowingFostek 5 points 23 days ago

I've delightfully set myself up for maximum confusion. I wont understand/remember when I find you in the wild tagged "Also not a rapist".

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GregorGizeh 1 point 23 days ago

Then why tag me in such a weird way, lmao

But you do you

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BigPotato 1 point 23 days ago

I hate how these days you have to basically be like "I'm into you being into this. If you're not feeling it, I'm not going to be turned on."

I'm not going to make a move if I'm not getting the right signals.

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Malica 6 points 23 days ago

You'd be shocked to learn how common a mindset this is. Marital rape was not a crime until relatively recently in most places.

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Quokka 5 points 23 days ago

Oh I know, it’s disgusting. It was only made illegal in Australia from ‘85 to ‘92. Like fucking what is wrong with these sick fucks wanting to go back to allowing that.

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Zachariah 5 points 23 days ago

So sex is only ever rape for them.

Not their fault, I guess. Can’t really give consent if you’re that mentally ill.

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