It's like being stuck behind a glass wall in my own head - watching myself be stuck unable to do what needs to get done
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Executive Dysfunction is going hard today
a day ago by Flukeyfox to c/onehundredninetysix
Flukeyfox 7 points 21 hours ago
Damn, why? :( Surely it makes sense to just keep you on the thing that's been found to work the best. I was once on Methylphenidate at the start of my meds titration which was a non-amphetamine that did work but brought along a good few negative side effects due me so it was agreed to try Elvanse.
The highest dose of that has been perfect for me so I've been kept on it...
Hope you manage to get back on the right meds for you soon!
earlgrey0 2 points 18 hours ago
I feel you on this one. I had to stop my amphetamine medication because it was giving my heart an arrhythmia. Nothing works as well, but my heart. I guess I am just going to be a little more dysfunctional.
tangosox 2 points 13 hours ago
Same, adderall works but my heart rate is going up too much and I take it sparingly. Trying to exercise more and quit smoking (I know, awful) but for now I'm just not taking it and doing my best. Which right now consists of working on a bunch of lemmy scripts instead of studying for pre-nursing, although I'd prefer CS but I'm afraid of the industry and I'm old (43). FML
N0tTr0xy 4 points 19 hours ago
Well, for me itâs like that everyday right now. I think Iâm having a sever depressive phase. This stuff also occurs as a depression symptom. But that also means itâs not always always like that for me.
And 20:30 again. I should really cook something, do workouts and shower before the day is over đ
Flukeyfox 3 points 19 hours ago
Ah yeah I can understand that. Though I'm thankfully not going through it at this moment, I'm well acquainted with those depressive episodes :/ it definitely adds to the issue...
Be easy on yourself though, may the food and shower be pleasant for you â€ïž
Klanky 26 points 18 hours ago
I completely agree, but I think there is a balance to be struck if you need to be productive to take care of your living area. I love to do nothing and am proud of that, but I also want a clean kitchen and bathroom.
homosapien -7 points 19 hours ago
We should not. Make use of your time, and try to be productive as much as possible.
Flukeyfox 12 points 17 hours ago
As long as we acknowledge that having downtime, and doing activities for yourself and for your mental health is also productive. Even if that occasionally includes having a day where you're doing very little and resting.
Burnout and such also reduces your efficiency with other tasks anyways (and can damage mental health). It's why I disagree with the wording of "people are expected to work like machines" because even machines are given downtime for maintenance. Some people seem to expect other people to work without downtime or self-care in the name of productivity and it's insane
HopeOfTheGunblade 7 points 17 hours ago
Make use of your time to bring joy to yourself and others.
"Productive" is a lie.
applebusch 1 point 6 hours ago
you first. also no.
Flukeyfox 22 points 19 hours ago
In one way, I agree, but unfortunately with Executive Dysfunction it can also affect your need to eat or look after yourself, as your brain just fails to assign or prioritise tasks. It gets really bad for me if I am or was recently overstimulated, or if I'm having a depressive episode.
I've had days where all I needed to do was have a shower, go to the shop, eat food then go play a game since it was the weekend. But the dysfunction hit so hard I couldn't do any of it so just sat staring at a wall for an hour and doomscrolling for another few hours. I'd have preferred to have just played the game, but since that was one of my planned tasks, I couldn't bring myself to do it.
Took majority of the day before I could break out of it and get to the shop before they closed. Almost sounds odd when explaining it but the brain is an unusual thing sometimes...
But yeah I do agree that sometimes people work themselves too hard and need to find time to stop and give time to themselves
wpb 5 points 16 hours ago
Right. In some situations, that's probably the right thing. I'm not sure about OP's situation, but this comic resonates with me for the following scenarios (among many, many others):
- doing my taxes
- applying for jobs
- making a GP appointment for mental health issues, or literally anything else
- planning my wedding
- doing the laundry
- sending a "happy birthday" text to my brother (literally just "Happy birthday!" and a suitable emoji would do)
In all of these cases, I know what to do, and I want to do it, and I'm able to do it. I just don't. Somehow, I just don't. I just can't get myself to do the thing. If that doesn't resonate with you, or your immediate reaction is "oh, just do the thing!", then maybe you're not the target audience of this comic.
Malica 17 points 20 hours ago
It's been months. Since perimenopause started it's been almost impossible to break task paralysis. I went and got diagnosed, got medication, noting is helping. Deal with ADHD before you get old, don't end up like me.
Flukeyfox 3 points 19 hours ago
Damn, have you tried other meds other than the Adderall you mentioned in another comment? If not, it could be the wrong meds for you (Though saying that, I have no clue personally on how much perimenopause adds to the issue, so I'm sorry to hear that đ)
Hope it gets easier for you though!
Flukeyfox 1 point 19 hours ago
Hope it does improve for you! Did you go through titration (trialing meds at a low dose and slowly increased over the weeks while being monitored) for your meds or did your doctor just give you meds and wave you away? I've heard of some people having that happen which sucks...
Like, for me I was on methylphenidate (concerta) at the start of titration and had to report back any side effects (and my blood pressure, weight etc) and each week the dose was increased til the positive effects were the strongest with little/no side effects. I'm pretty sure if I had told them the meds weren't working at all or not helping much, they'd have taken that as a sign to try a different medication... There's a lot of different types of ADHD meds and they affect us all differently (or with some, not at all or with negative side effects)
I ended up having some negative effects with methylphenidate, and was switched over to Elvanse and it was a night and day difference with no side effects (for my body - I'm not saying Elvanse will be like that for everyone :p).
Hopefully it's just the wrong med for you and you find the right one eventually! Good luck :)
BottleBoardBakon 1 point 8 hours ago
Just throwing it out there, but how's your sleep?
I have adhd and recently discovered I have sleep apnea as well. I was at wits end before I got my cpap. The combination is a wombo combo for executive disfunction.
applebusch 1 point 6 hours ago
just out of curiosity have you tried hrt? might be worth considering if you havent.
blackouttripleseven 10 points 16 hours ago
literally me rn
comp sci project due tomorrow and writing assignment due yesterday but not doing anything bc brain is too drained
psycholocomotor_no2 7 points 12 hours ago
The graphical artifacting of mental illness.
IamMoonPie 7 points 16 hours ago
Itâs hard to do normal things when âonce in a lifetimeâ things keep happening all around us. Iâm just trying to fold laundry and do dishes, meanwhile Pete Hugsucker is deflecting his ineptitude by threatening a live execution for a paraplegic man, the orange dumpster fire is⊠being the orange dumpster fire.
Life is hard right now and Iâm just becoming more and more grateful I survived another day, even if all I did was couch rot.
IamMoonPie 2 points 14 hours ago
Thatâs the truth! It used to be if I didnât get enough stuff done during the day (even if it was a productive day) I felt super guilty and mad at myself.
Now Iâm stoked if I remember to chang the laundry loads the same day I wash them ha ha ha!
IntroSkeptic 6 points 9 hours ago
Something something, therapist asking if I've dealt with getting a new psych for meds yet...... ;-;
Jabb3rw0ckyInTheMainfram3 5 points 11 hours ago
i setup a automation that triggers my hifi to blast music at me to jolt me off the couch. i usually turn it off once im standing up but it allows to create that initial transition im avoiding.
Red_October 5 points 19 hours ago
I hate how deeply I relate to this feeling.
rumschlumpel 4 points 20 hours ago
Anyone know what causes this, other than ADHD?
Flukeyfox 4 points 19 hours ago
I think it can be caused by a lot of different neurological conditions (ADHD, Autism etc) and also a good few mental health conditions (Depression, Anxiety etc)
But it's hard to point to exactly what causes it for each person individually without looking into it with a doctor
Noel_Skum 1 point 19 hours ago
I was told by an old dude to imagine I was proudly wearing a glorious, regal, long cloak. Head up. Shoulders back, chest out, belly tamed. My posture changed and mobility / life is genuinely different now.
Obviously this is an anecdotal story, not medical advice.
SourDrink 4 points 17 hours ago
I've recently been put onto the quote "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly" and that's given me some space for myself. I tell myself that I want to touch my toes once a day, but I would be lucky to remember or even bring myself up to do it once a week.
thoughtfuldragon 3 points 20 hours ago
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