People don't become ghosts when they die or any of this kind of spiritual shit. People when they die become only the memories you have of them and you realize how little those memories actually matter.

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TherapyGary 28 points 3 days ago

Not the time

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psycholocomotor_no2 -4 points 3 days ago

Wdym not the time?

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TherapyGary 23 points 3 days ago

I mean read the room? This meme isn't the place for you to be condescending toward people grieving

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psycholocomotor_no2 4 points 3 days ago

I'm not being condescending that's really what it's like. It's never like they're beside you again.

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Miisha 9 points 3 days ago

Well this is...a surprisingly even more depressing comment on an already depressing post. I get that you're right, but this somehow stirs even greater sadness within me. It makes me think of what I'm gonna do, when my beloved boyfriend is gone...and that honestly hurts my heart
So...thanks, I guess. You made me even sadder than I already was today

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psycholocomotor_no2 1 point 3 days ago

That is my usual affect on people around me. DW too much, though, it's not that bad, but it does look like slowly losing the emotional intensity of your memories of someone until remembering doesn't send you into a crisis anymore.

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