I enjoyed playing this with my partner!

It's also available on Itch: https://purplesloth.itch.io/whats-your-gender

Thanks for the ping! Ive messaged them.

Love this post! You have such a fun playful style of writing and it's a style that I never see on like, reddit for instance. Emojis are really looked down on there and language is expected to be pretty standardized. I love how much fun u have w it :3

Thanks for sharing your story! :) My partner was binary trans for years before they came out as nonbinary, which far more matches their identity.

I myself thought that binary trans was the only option when I was in high school so I pushed that egg deep down down down until my early 30s when it cracked open. When I first was thinking about transitioning, the idea of fully going fem just didn't feel right for me. I feel so grateful to live in a s o c i e t y where it's more welcomed than in the past.

This is wonderful, though I feel like "I don't feel super comfortable in my body" as a pre-cursor to nonbinary identity is a narrow view. I didn't experience much gender dysphoria before transitioning, but I experience a hell of a lot of gender euphoria when exploring my nb side.

Also a huge fan of The Ethical Slut!

I liked it a lot better than Polysecure, which was more psychology than polyamory. Also not as huge of a fan of Sex at Dawn, which was more like anthropology than actionable poly material, though it's good for what it is.

I had to stop reading right there

This sounds like a really grounded way to go about it. Really getting to the root of things.

I thought that it was just being adorable and clever.

It must have been so much more difficult to engage in relationships like this back then. It truly was revolutionary, to go up against everyone in your life and society to follow your heart.

Ah nice! Probably the same bundle I got it in.

Kinda fluid! I've been open for 13 years now, and poly for 7.

I have a life partner C(nb26) that I'm getting married to this year, as well as another partner that I see frequently R(nb26). I bounce between the two nearby cities each of them live in.

I'm also in a sort of a triad with R's partner, even though they're more of a meta that a partner, we are loosely dating and engage in some sexy play here and there, either alone or amongst the three of us.

I also have comets and less established relationships that are more like intimate fwbs.

Being an introvert, it's become difficult to juggle the needs of multiple intimate relationships, and quite the learning experience, but ultimately so worth it, and it's hard to imagine ever being in a closed relationship again.

Like Indomora said, it seems like you and your partner want different things.

If you don't want to break up, I would suggest telling your partner how important this is to you.

She says that she'd be more open to it when you're both more secure. Okay, then try finding pre-defined times in the future that you both can agree on to discuss this further. That will make this less of a fantasy, and more measurable.

Good luck

Donated! Would be willing to share what the current monthly costs look like?

It's an awesome feeling to come to accept! I know many trans individuals who started off going hard binary trans, and then settling on something more in the genderfluid or nonbinary spectrum. I think it feels more right for some people to go full binary trans in the beginning in situations in which they have a part of themselves that has been heavily repressed by society. After they've "got it out of their system" so to speak, some people realize that they're actually not always one or the other gender.

It's an experience that some relate to and some don't. Congratulations on coming to a deeper understanding of yourself! <3

That's exciting af :)

Initial gender transition is a wild ride, and it'll have its ups and down, but I think it's better to be true to ourselves than try to fit into a lie, so go you!

We do too cutie

Definitely in that zone with someone. It happens a lot in the space between friends and partners.

Nobody is really anything except the matter and energy that make them up. Labels are tools humans use to try to categorize things and make meaning when there is none.

Given that you aren't particularly drawn to most gendered terms, specifically ones that aren't gender-neutral enough, consider exploring the label "agender" for yourself. You could try it on and see what fits.

Sometimes a more blanket term like "queer" feels better to people.

A note that we can't wrap our entire being into a single word; there's too much of it to fit, and we're bound to over-pour the container. It can be more helpful to consider them as tags or attributes, not containers.

Thanks for stepping up!

so true