I really wanted aether to happen and it never happened but this is similar enough. The only big difference is no baked in 6 month deletion cycle but if I had my own server presumably I could just delete stuff that often and send out requests for content deletion at that interval and not all of them would get honored but probably most of them would.

I wholeheartedly agree with that developers sentiment that if any of my statements were really all that positively OR negatively profound that they would have been saved elsewhere by that time. It would reduce a lot of instances where people look up someone's posts from 5-10 years ago that became politically incorrect in that time and are representative of a mindset they've probably outgrown. Doesn't make it impossible, just unlikely, and to me that's good enough.

This is the best description of the phenomenon I could find easily, but it's kinda just a known thing in hair care groups like curly girl method stuff.

Tbh I have no idea what you're talking about re YouTube I've just settled into Gnosticism in the past few years when I wanted to reestablish a spiritual belief system for myself outside of my puritan / fundie upbringing and having always felt a strong connection to esoteric spiritual practices.

I spent a long time in dialectal behavior therapy which gave me a really good foundational set of wellness skills that have integrated nicely with things like introspective tarot and it's very easy to integrate Jungian psychology and personality typing into the richer imagery of astrology (it's fairly easy to map an OCEAN type onto an MBTI which is based on Galen's humors alongside astrology anyway so long story short I'm an air type with a little sprinkle of fire and making little sigils out of the planet / sign alignments of my birth chart that suit that has been a really great way to develop my sense of personal identity and then looking at a star chart for a different specific datetime often offers alternative ways to process the event that I might not have originally considered.

TLDR – ESOTERIC

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Dude recently talked to my female coworker at length about his erectile dysfunction and how his inability to satisfy a woman is a core facet of his coke addiction. Definitely a real issue but she had nothing to contribute to the conversation beyond "yeah that sucks hopefully you figure that out." I had the same issue a while ago where a dude talked to me for an extended conversation about going on a spiritual journey involving semen retention. I didn't want to duck out and risk invalidating but wtf do I say to that???

We really need more men working in mental health so y'all can have these conversations with each other. We really, desperately need men to start normalizing talking to each other about this. Women have so little to contribute constructively and there's such a huge risk of transference. Please start talking to each other and affirming each other's human worth outside of sexual prowess. This has been so out of pocket since before pockets even existed.

And that's not even getting into the young dudes calling my female coworkers cunts for not making their bed for them who really need a 30-50 y/o man to authoritatively tell them that's not how life works. We need you to come be part of the solution. PLEASE.

and so good on the skin in the summer

expensive? (I crochet with acrylic when I do)

Like I said; detox period. Wear hats / scarves / bonnets for a month or two. It's rough but it's worth it.

I usually just let my patients do hoebaths / birdbaths for a bit in between real ones. That's wet wipes to the face, pits, and genitals / perineum and then a shower cap designed for a bedbath where you scrunch it in, let it sit, then just towel dry it out. You can also put it in a warmer designed for wipes / caps OR some of them even have microwave instructions.

Now that said I have access to all of this from the stockroom on the medical unit next door who actually have to do bedbaths rapidly and at scale. For a cheaper / more eco friendly option most nursing homes use a basin and washcloths with special no rinse soaps. If you keep your home sink clean enough you don't even need the basin. Just be careful to go in the right order face -> pits -> genitals -> butt.

Another thought (if you're white) is that washing your hair once a week isn't actually just for black people. White hair CAN tolerate daily washing with soap but that doesn't mean it should. My 2B hair has been much fuller with a healthier sheen and gets compliments from hairdressers with once a week washing. I do regular soap only once a week then put a pea size amount of Vaseline on my fingertips then fingercomb through and that's all it needs. It gets wet and toweled off in my regular shower but that's incidental. My hair is also short so there's no daily combing and styling happening just making sure the part is set right while it's wet. If you're washing daily right now there'll be a 1-2 month oily detox / withdrawal period but just tie it off your face and wear a hat / scarf and it'll be worth it when the detox is done.

My last thing to say is that if you pick ONE hygiene task daily the one thing that will affect your long term health the MOST is brushing your teeth, so if you have to pick one it's that one. Well washing your hands is actually more important but I'm hoping you're doing that more than once a day.

see? Twill. Twill is where it's at.

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yeah saw a YouTube vid the other day two lesbians having a breakup fight really tearing into each other ripping chunks of hair out and shit and the cop pepper sprays them trying to get them to at least break it up before they kill each other and both of them just. keep. going.

So I do inpatient Psych violence management in particular and yeah girl fights are waaay worse (9/10 w men you just have to break eye contact / line of sight) but like. The actual scientific term is hysterical strength (#dadreflexes or mom lifting a car off a baby) but to get that from a domestic relationship breakup...

when you're getting hysterical strength over nothing like that it's because the adrenaline system is getting activated too much without a proper cooldown. every time that system gets activated it gets a little easier to activate again for a while.

so maybe their relationship is just that awful idk. but I bet even if it is it's not just the relationship. they're in an environment where violence isn't just a social norm: it's getting hardwired into them so deep they can get fucking pepper sprayed and keep trying to kill their domestic partner. Shits fucked y'all.

1970s ain't got shit to do with the 1990s you mf toddler

Shrooms/psilocybin: Called and cussed out my parents, put all the shit my family talks about behind each others backs into a groupchat, changed my phone number, and quit drinking completely (12 pack nightly) now for 2.5 years total all within about 12h.

My #1 recommendation for anyone in a similar situation is that you are not allowed to have your phone or computer for 72h. A week if you can arrange a vacation. Watch videos on DVD / vhs if you can or read a book. Listen to music or predownload a podcast / audiobook. Go for walks. get a coloring book. Hopefully other people will add in some good analog activities. But do NOT contact the outside world at all for 72h.

It needed to be done but I could've done it with a LOT more grace if I'd waited.

Thought about reconnecting recently actually then I had this dream:

I was at a family reunion and mentioned the thing that my dead sibling did that left me with one of those early childhood harcoded fight or flight responses. Like it's not existential; I'm not actually like afraid of just thinking about it but if it actually happens my body will just involuntarily freeze. Anyway in the dream my still living sibling responds by doing it to me "as a joke."

I did not wind up reaching out. I think my body was trying to tell me something.

Borderline personality disorder and Childhood-acquired Posttraumatic stress disorder are the same thing the only core difference is whether or not the resulting reactivity seems proportionate to the trauma from the clinicians perspective. This is more / less likely if the person has a more / less reactive underlying nervous system, but ultimately most of the judgment comes down to social perception of what's a worse trauma vs what's worse as a resulting negative behavior. If a "big" trauma makes you sad / withdrawn, you have PTSD vs if a "small" trauma makes you annoying / "difficult" you have borderline. (Am deffo borderline, personally. LOL)

I suppose?

I've gotten to the realization that modern medicine just isn't there yet. Pretty sure I've got some weird inflammatory thing. But even if I do get diagnosed with something, odds are there's going to be nothing I can do about it aside from trying to stay active, not eat things that aggravate it, and stop taking so much random medicine to be comfortable (most things I take more are associated with developing dementia). I don't have the energy to spend all that time getting diagnosed with something there's no real treatment for. So I'm doing my best with the lifestyle recommendations for my symptoms and hoping it takes me on my feet.

you didn't even have domestic internet you protozoa

mate selection, almost entirely. it's sensitive to body condition to the extent that if a woman sees the same hairdresser consistently enough they can somewhat reliably tell if she's gotten pregnant. it's also an easy indicator of social class and stability ie: do they have the time and resources to take care of it?