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What if it's a Dread Pirate Roberts situation, and every subsequent Apple CEO automatically becomes "Tim Apple"?

I've shared about bathroom before, I just kinda decided that's what I was going to do. I'd only been on e for like 2 months and was just wearing dark sweatpants but I was masking all the time then and I have long hair and wear a cute hat. It was an office type building so the ladies room didn't get much traffic. After the first time I realized I needed to be sitting down on the toilet. When I started doing that at home i realized that standing was actually dysphoric.

As for dressing room etc, actually I hadn't had any experience with that till this camping trip. I've now used the shower in the ladies room twice. There's only one and it has a curtain. The first time I went, I was definitely worried. I get these negative thought loops about what someone might say. There were a couple other ladies in the bathroom but they didn't really see me. I kept my butt towards the curtain in case it accidently opened, and I called out asking if they needed the shower which probably wasn't necessary. I self trained my voice before starting to transition so I am pretty comfortable with talking. The second time in the shower I was alone. It was awesome.

I think I am very lucky to be in a blue state in an area where generally people are affirming. Maybe I pass better than I think or maybe I been lucky. I know it's much harder in other places in the US and my heart goes out to anyone in a bigoted state.

My advice is to be safe. But if it seems like it could work, don't be afraid to try. If it's a facility with a manager or something, try talking to them ahead of time to see if there's ever been a problem. Of course, that means potentially outing yourself to a person of authority in the area.

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As a survivor of a transphobic family situation, I second Daisy's suggestion.

Start thinking about preparing a go bag. Keep all your identity papers in it and medicines and electronics. I don't know what country you are in, but here in the USA, a person can make the most outlandish and untrue statements in a "protective order" and the police will come and remove the person without any proof. It then becomes a civil court case which the person submitting the order then has to prove in court, however by that time irreparable damage has been done to a relationship.

Your parent sounds incredibly manipulative and using guilt to get you to do what she wants. She sounds like a closet narcasist. This is the same behavior I faced. Don't wait. Start planning now. Make connections with the queer community nearest you. Start researching shelters and any kind of state benefits you can apply for if things get that bad.

She probably won't give up and she is creating a narrative in her mind that what you are doing is wrong and if she tries hard enough she can convince you to stop.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I just went through a similar situation and I am currently unhoused and trying to claw my way out of it.

Prepare for the worst even if you think you don't need to

I wish you and Jane the best. Stay safe.

Thank you for trying. You are awesome.

This one is so old I didn't know how to save a picture without taking a screenshot of it o.o

Poor crybully got upset people didn't want to listen to her bigotry. She is obviously not a healthy woman or she wouldn't be freaking out like that.

Good for the people that stood up and voted with their feet.

I am so glad to hear this, and I hope she prevails.

Keep fighting! Show the bigot bullies that we are not pushovers.

My great aunt was a JW. She lived a fairly long life but it could have been longer. she refused care at the end because of her beliefs. Unreal the control that religions have over people in the guise of morality and an afterlife. So stupid.

I started transitioning at 52 years old. I didn't have any idea what gender dysphoria actually was until I was 51. At 49 I was misgendered over the phone. A woman called me "ma'am" like 5 times. I had no idea why that felt so good.

Eventually I realized that I am a woman and that I've always been a woman and started investigating what I could do about this.

There's no time limit, and transitioning is a choice. For me it was the correct one. I knew there could be negative things in my future but i felt that no matter what, my newly found sense of self love and caring outweighed any consequences or side effects. Chasing the euphoria and self care became the best thing to ever happen in my life.

Sadly the consequences have recently arrived. I lost family over it and I was kicked out of the house a month ago. But I will never look back and say that my transition was a mistake because I calculated those risks. The family members I lost were already bigots and would have never come around. The friend I lost over becoming unhoused was sadly fair weathered.

Transgender people can face difficult challenges negotiating relationships and sometimes we aren't accepted. That can be a very daunting thing to think about before beginning. But for me, I am glad I can see those people for who they really are. People that I can no longer tolerate in my life.

I will tell you what helped me to decide. I literally wrote down lists. 1 list of Reasons to transition. 1 list of things that I remembered from my past to help me see why it might be a good thing. 1 list of challenges I would have to face. Writing everything down over the course of several days was exactly what I needed.

Only you can make this decision. And it is a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. But you can always start HRT and stop if you don't think it's helping. There is no shame in trying it even if it's just for a week or a month.

I wish you the best. Whether you decide to move forward or not is up to you. But even if you don't, just the process of self discovery is so important and I am happy that you are at least willing to explore and learn more about yourself. Whatever you decide, you can keep that momentum going.

Be good to yourself.

Oh honey I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure you both helped fill her life with love and I am so glad she was there for you.

Rest peacefully Michele.

"... And Lenny Bruce is not afraid..."

Good luck out there everyone.

I am so glad you reconsidered. You are worth it and you are a good person. Dont give into the bad thoughts. It's fucking hard. Therapy has helped me so much in that regard. Keep fighting honey. We've got your back.

The problem I have with that, is that threatening violence with an object is one of the grounds that someone can use to file a protective order and drag you into court.

I would be extremely careful doing that especially in a public place because if they get vindictive it becomes a huge legal hassle and they would have witnesses. In the USA you can't ask for a public defender because it's not a criminal case.

Just passing this along for safety information. Thank you for sharing what you did, I think it's cool that there are places like that to seek adventures.

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This is a major reason I refuse to watch broadcast TV especially anytime near election cycles. The number of absolute garbage attack ads against us is enraging and I refuse to let them get me upset. And because these TV channels only care about the money they are getting and could care less if the content is complete misinformation, I refuse to watch the rest of the year as well. Freedom of speech should not be an unregulated engine for hatred but that is what we have I guess.

Girl listen to this 54 year old telling you that no one ever starts transitioning too late. If it makes you happy, don't look back.

It took me decades to get over my self hatred. But it doesn't need to take you that long and honey you are doing amazing and you are stronger than you realize. It takes huge guts to come back and be here. Do not be ashamed. You are a badass.

That psychiatrist sounds like a fucking idiot. Fucking yikes. You are not a bad person but you need a better therapist. Keep working on it, mental health can take a long time to smooth out but you can do it. If I can do it, you can do it. 💜

I was about to ask what heely was and then i remembered it is 2026 and we are on the internet and now i want a pair. Thank you for reminding me that roller shoes still exist!!

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That is so incredible and the art is very moving. Thanks so much for showing it and sharing the story!

Forgive me for using this space to share a story of a very similar experience I had yesterday.

The preamble is that I have to move out soon due to a transphobic unsupportive parent who i have been caregiver to for the last 10 years. In the past 6 weeks I have had to condense my entire life into small piles so that i can pack, which means finally sorting through all my papers and shredding stuff. But one huge benefit is that i am finally able to collect all the poetry and lyrics that i wrote from the time when I was a kid up until now.

Yesterday I found a song I wrote when I was 17. The title was "Transitions" and it hit me so hard. I had no idea about actual transgender people other than mostly shitty media stereotypes. As i read the lyrics i started to freak out. There were some strong dysphoria vibes coming through. And i had even added chord notations to it so i must have already started teaching myself guitar by then.

I just had to go grab my guitar and try and play it. I had no idea what the original melody was but i made it work. It absolutely floored me that i keep finding evidence like this of what i was going through and these lyrics so far are the oldest physical evidence i have found that i was struggling with gender concepts and didn't know why. And the glaringly mind boggling thing is that I somehow nailed that title. Transitions.

I am so glad you were able to make that kind of connection with your art. It is mind blowing how the brain works.

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CW, DV

I have a court case pending on Wednesday and will finally be free of abusive family members. Sadly I am the defendant. I understand why the rules are the way they are, but sometimes rules that are meant to help victims are used by abusers to further victimize. I am fighting this to get it off my record.

I am safe in hotels and looking for shelters and couches, and am finding new friends. I started writing a daily positivity journal to combat the trauma loops. I will survive this.

It me, am homo. Hiiiiii