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Dagge 22 points 3 years ago

I'm not a woman either, but I'm a man struggling with ADHD, I have similar experiences with dirty dishes (and other things). It's so difficult to remember to do things you have agreed to do and even if you do remember it can be impossible to get started, unless you have figured out a system that works for you.

If someone at work asks me to look something up or do something and they say that I can do it whenever I have time, it's never going to get done, I need some sort of deadline to be able to start (usually as close as possible to the deadline).

I'm not saying your husband has ADHD, I'm just saying he might need more "structure" or a time when the task is supposed to be completed. Not everything is done out of malice or lack of respect.

Just my two cents since I don't know that much about either of you.

Edit: Since ADHD is a spectrum disorder, it's not a "one glove fits all" kind of situation, everyone have different experiences with different areas. We suffer from time blindness as well, making it hard/impossible to set goals for the future and to achieve those goals.

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Dagge 19 points 3 years ago

It's a Battle Royal, basically a big map that shrinks over time and if you are outside the "play area" you receive damage until you get inside again or you die.

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Dagge 9 points a year ago

I can recommend Halls of Torment if you like games similar to Vampire Survivors, it has more of a Diablo feel and there are "secrets" on the map that can help you with the boss.

https://store.steampowered.com/...

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Dagge 9 points 3 years ago

Another thing with ADHD (as you might know) is that the frontal lobe isn't fully developed, which makes it harder to regulate your feelings and how to respond.

I love the idea of a stamp sheet or something like that to make it clear what needs to be done, I often don't see things that my wife finds obvious and that can lead to irritation, but we have been able to get past that since we talked about my shortcomings and what I need support with to be able to do them.

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Dagge 9 points 2 years ago

What?! Why have nobody never told me? I always drink a glass of vitamins in the morning shortly after I take my meds.

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Dagge 8 points 2 years ago

One of us! One of us! One of us!

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Dagge 8 points 3 years ago

Or he already feels guilty that you did the task instead of him, so that he feels that he let you down. As I said before, I'm just speculating from my own experiences with letting my wife down (and people at work) by not doing something that I agreed to do, that shouldn't be hard but is hard since I was unable to get it done.

Have you talked with him about your ADHD? And that you need support from him to be able to maintain a tranquil environment at home?

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Dagge 8 points a year ago

Hey! Watch it pal! Friendly fire seems to be active, because I feel very much attacked by your comment xD I will just save this post so I can read it later when I have time.

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Dagge 6 points 3 months ago

Yeah, the charging time is very negligible so far, we usually stop to use the restroom and let our dog stretch her legs anyway. The first time we traveled a long distance we stopped for a charge way to early, but now we have a little more experience so we won't do the same mistake again.

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Dagge 6 points 2 years ago

I turned off auto-rotate, so when I rotate the phone I get a symbol in the top right corner to notify me that the screen rotation is locked and I just press that and the screen rotates to the current position. I use a Galaxy Fold 5.

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Dagge 5 points 2 years ago

As others have said, shouldn't be an issue, I'm currently on 70 mg in the morning and another 20 mg after lunch since I felt the effect wasn't sufficient later in the day so they gave me a second dosage for the afternoon. Here (in Sweden) it's possible to get 70+30 mg if it's necessary for a boost later in the day.

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Dagge 5 points 3 months ago

About a month ago bought a used ID.4 Pro 2022 for ~€23k here in Sweden and I'm loving the car so far! I'm a little "worried" about the winter and charging on the road on longer trips but hopefully it won't be too much of an issue when it's freezing outside.

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Dagge 5 points a year ago

I work with IT but in a meat processing plant, the giant saw that cuts pigs in half would certainly do it. Even though all of the slaughtering and butchering have been dismantled many years ago due to cutbacks, it would be a very good location for a horror movie or an augmented reality experience or something like that, it's almost like everyone just up and left.

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Dagge 4 points 3 years ago

I haven't had any super long hyperfocus sessions, but I do feel somewhat disoriented when I come back. I feel like it has been better since I started my medication, or I haven't done anything that hyperfocus activated for lately xD

My biggest issue is starting with things on my to do-list, especially if they have been there a long time.

Earlier this year I started listening to Hacking your ADHD and tried a few tips/tools he brought up and it's easier when I keep following them, I usually listen in the car in the morning and when I hear things that I think would help me I'm out of luck because it's usually gone by the time I get out of the car, sometimes I remember to write a small reminder to check it out later.

Sorry if there are any mistakes, English isn't my first language.

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Dagge 4 points 2 years ago

Thanks for providing a link to a (hopefully) trustable source! I was thinking about searching a bit myself but it's crazy at work at the moment so I was going to put it on the "do it later" list, and we all know how that usually works out xD

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Dagge 4 points a year ago

Rimworld runs fine on my Intel i5-2500k (not overclocked) and GTX 970 (yes, the model with 3.5GB video ram instead of the promised 4GB) with 16GB ram, so anything newer than that should run it just fine =)

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Dagge 3 points 2 months ago

I haven't played in a while but the reason I stopped was there was so many rats and it didn't matter if I never attacked anyone either, I had the same feeling as you did so I decided to stop playing, and the devs doesn't seem to care about the feedback from PvE players, which is fair I suppose since it's their game, just sucks for the players who think the ARCs are enough "trouble".

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Dagge 3 points 3 years ago

I'm sorry to hear that, I couldn't even imagine having to work two jobs, let alone getting employment abuse, I'm tired enough as it is when I get home from my one job. My wife isn't working either but luckily we get by anyway, but getting a house or a larger investment will take a super long time since there is not much to save each month.

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Dagge 2 points 10 months ago

I guess it's the same in Norwegian as in Swedish, pga is an abbreviation for "på grund av" which means "because of" and dvs is an abbreviation for "det vill säga" which translates to "so to say", someone is more than welcome to correct me on this, I had a difficult time to come up with the translation at this time xD

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Dagge 2 points 2 years ago path: 0 11678535, hotness: undefined, score: 2, children: 1

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