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Oofnik 8 points 2 hours ago

I'm older than the men in this study, but I want to share my anecdotal experience as a contrast to the attitude of many in the comments, which I think are a superficial analysis of the situation. (This is assuming that the results are valid despite the small sample size. I don't really know how to assess that.)

I can really relate to these feelings when I was a younger man. I think the article nearly separates fear of being accused (self-preservation) with fear of moral harm (care for one's sexual partner). Because we live in a patriarchal society, men get the messages that women are false accusers or, equally harmful, that bad sex counts as rape according to "modern culture" or something.

Because I had people in my life willing to tolerate my younger self and teach me feminism, I know that false reports are virtually non-existent, that I shouldn't be so fucking neurotic about sex because I always care about my partner and consent in or out of a sexual context, that small mistakes don't make me a deviant monster, etc. But when I was 20? I heard the manosphere incel bullshit voices and the feminist voices, and I didn't know what to believe - I was young and naive and sexually frustrated. Thank God I made it through that without falling to red or black pill culture.

But we as feminists need better PR that educates just as much as it (justifiably) shames.

As leftists we generally think that society-wide problems have society-wide causes and solutions. We need to reach young men instead of just rolling our eyes or calling them people who just hate their sexual partners.

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Oofnik 39 points 3 months ago

"While the arena acknowledged keeping information on celebrities’ sexual orientations..." James Dolan, you do realize that this is still quite bad, right ?

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Oofnik 32 points 4 months ago

I'm convinced that Chiles and Tim Dowling have some kind of blackmail on the owners of The Guardian. It just makes no sense otherwise.

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Oofnik 26 points a year ago

Thirding this, in the same boat!

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Oofnik 20 points a year ago

No protest action appears effective in a complete vacuum. This is one brave action among hundreds and perhaps thousands which can collectively make a difference.

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Oofnik 18 points 8 months ago

Yes, it absolutely was a thing and I think in some places may still be a thing (or recommended by older generations)

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Oofnik 18 points 7 months ago

I've seen the conflation here on Lemmy too.

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Oofnik 17 points a year ago

I'm a bit confused on how quickly you expect political change to happen...do you think the effectiveness (or lack thereof) of No Kings can be assessed a week on? Imagine you were in Birmingham during the bus boycott - after a week you'd be out there saying "look! We did this and nothing happened!"

I don't love everything about no kings, the tactics, and the messaging. But give it a second, dude!

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Oofnik 17 points 2 months ago

I don't think you have the right attitude toward the human element of these cases even on a charitable read of your comment. Have you ever been wrongly imprisoned? Do you think being wrongly imprisoned, even if you are ultimately released, would have no psychological or social effect on you as a person? As someone who has lived as a white person in the US and as a minority elsewhere, I assure you, being treated with suspicion until proven otherwise is not anywhere close to as innocuous as you seem to think.

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Oofnik 17 points a year ago

NO ONE OUT PIZZAS THE HUT

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Oofnik 15 points a year ago

I don't think so. Its just not necessary. Especially in a city like New York, there will just be a Capital Strike to make sure Mamdani fails at everything he tries. Then they'll blame socialism.

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Oofnik 11 points a year ago

Hey @geneva_convenience Always love your posts! Just wanted to say that J Post is a far-right tabloid rag. So just suggesting that you try to find other sources for stuff like this in the future (not denying the truth of this story though).

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Oofnik 11 points 2 years ago

Bad ideology is like bad breath, we only smell it on others.

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Oofnik 11 points a year ago

Hey! I'm in this picture!

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Oofnik 10 points 2 years ago

This was a long read but really worth it. Thanks Philip!

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Oofnik 10 points 9 months ago

Is this video sped up? Its really uncanny in a way that's making it difficult to pay attention to what she is saying (which is important!).

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Oofnik 9 points a year ago

100% agree with the above!

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Oofnik 8 points a year ago

Oof. Missed this. Thanks, good to know!

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Oofnik 7 points 3 months ago

Agreed 100%!!!

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