I think you’re being overly sensitive on the condoms - they’re just a contraceptive (but definitely store properly). On the sex toys.. maybe. Toy for your butt - get a new one together. Her favourite vibrator - let her keep it, it’ll pay dividends. Try not to be insecure about the previous relationships - it’s never a good look.

Things that make me uncomfortable? - vague answers, going stuff because they feel they should rather than want to.

Yes (she usually points it out to me)

Married 20 years 😁

Colour

https://www.sexmachinereviews.co.uk/ - old school website but good content

With GitHub sponsorship no longer an option are there any simple payment options available?Happy to support (was supporting at $10 a month) but would rather not learn crypto to do it

Used throne.com - hope it works :)

Thanks, I’ll keep an eye out