@a-man-from-earth@kbin.social If those tropes (stoic, resilient, and self-reliant) were being perpetuated by persuasion or force, then that would make sense. But, that isn't the case. Real men norms are in fact held up by pluralistic ignorance. i.e. most men don't actually support them. But some men go along with them anyway because they mistakenly believe that most other men do. https://umatter.princeton.edu/... Men don't have a problem seeing such men as strong and healthy role models. They have a problem believing that other men do.

@Mshuser
I think that the ideal app, would let everyone rate everyone else, same sex or not. If you as a woman really like a man. But, other men don't like him, then it might mean that the other men know something about him that you don't. If you as a man really like a woman, but other women don't like her, then the ladies may know something that you don't about her. So, you should actually be letting everyone rate everyone instead of artificially limiting the information available to people.