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Slayan 20 points 4 days ago

Tough, though, throw, trough, thorough, through, thought.

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Slayan 60 points a year ago

This is an old post i saved for this kind of moment so here ya go.

About 6 or 7 years ago my college roommate told me: Conversation isn’t something any one person is good or bad at, it’s a skill like anything else. Everything changed once I thought about it like this.

  1. The more new people you talk to the easier it is. Especially the opposite sex.

  2. Everyone else has their own anxieties and fears. They’re just better at hiding it or masking it than you. Use this to your advantage to point out things you have in common and relate to them.

  3. When someone talks, LISTEN. Don’t worry about your posture, your dog, your clothing. Listen to them. If you don’t understand something, stop them and ask. Engage with them. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t know.

  4. Ask open ended questions. Don’t ask, “Did you have a good day?” Instead ask “What was the best part about your day?” “What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about your job?” Make them feel important. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. So do you. Take that feeling and shove it way down. When they ask about you, that’s your turn to shine. If they don’t, you don’t really want to be friends anyway.

  5. Never one-up people. Even if you are way better, or know way more than the person talking to you, build them up.

  6. If someone is telling a story or saying something and they get cut off, find the next opportunity to bring them back in. “Hey, _______ you were talking about X, what did you want to say?”

  7. Laugh at their jokes. Laugh at your jokes. We’re all weird brains walking around in these skin things. Don’t take it so seriously.

  8. You will remember your mistakes WAY more than anyone else. Stop taking yourself so seriously.

  9. My last and 2nd most important tip. Start every conversation with a compliment. I don’t care if they’re a dude and you’re straight as fuck. I don’t care if they’re mean, evil to you, or disagree with you politically in every way. Find something about the way they look, and compliment it. Someone did this to me once when I was a new guest at someone’s apartment. “Hey man, that’s an awesome jacket, where’d you get it?” I fucking loved that jacket. And I was self conscious about it. I felt instantly at home.

Take the things you like, and be that person for someone else. If you’re on a date, be genuinely interested in that person.

These are things that worked for me. Find your own style.

The #1 tip!! Go into EVERY room as if people will like you. Seriously. Walk through any door, in front of any group of people and smile. They. Will. Like you. Keep that in the front of your mind and you will enjoy conversations with anyone.

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Slayan 45 points 2 years ago

Pineapple fun fact: Before selling them for consumption, pineapple merchants rented pineapples to people who couldn't afford to purchase them. Those who rented would take the pineapple to parties, not to give as a gift to the host, but to carry around and show off their apparent ability to afford such an expensive fruit.

A pineapple could cost up to 8000$ in the 1700-1800.

This fun fact has been brought to you by: Eat the rich!™

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Slayan 36 points 2 years ago path: 0 14898687 14901192, hotness: undefined, score: 36, children: 0
Slayan 32 points 2 years ago

My entire career, I’ve trusted women to make their health care decisions,” Walz said at the time, in their only televised prime-time debate. “I don’t believe anybody who sits in this office should come between them.

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Slayan 29 points 3 years ago

I forgot who, but someone told me i should ask; "do you need an ear or a solution" whenever people come rant about anything. Best tips i heard in a while.

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Slayan 24 points 9 months ago

It's time for new rules OP, and also a good talk with your S.O. nothing you did is wrong and nothing they did is wrong. It's more about being open and having discussions. They should know these kind of things, and the fact that they don't is both your fault.

No one is suffering here (imo) so that's a great success.

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Slayan 20 points a year ago

No he doesn't because trauma, aka emetional or mental distress caused by experience have nothing to do with it.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5501015/

Few would dispute that the causes of ASD include both genetic and environmental factors. Indeed, more than 100 genes are known to confer risk1,2 and 1,000 or more may ultimately be identified.3 A wide range of potential environmental challenges have also been associated with autism, although studies in this area lag behind genomics research. A short overview of data supports genetic and environmental contributions to ASD etiology. A focus on prenatal events will hopefully clarify that the cause of autism, in the vast majority of cases, occurs prenatally, even if behavioral signs first appear several years after birth.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6901292/

ASD is a heterogeneous disorder, both etiologically and in terms of clinical presentation, and individuals with ASD demonstrate a wide spectrum of abilities and challenges. While the etiology of ASD is complex and still remains largely unknown, this condition is likely the result of the interactive effects of genetic and environmental risk factors (Lai et al. 2014; Schaefer 2016; Tchaconas and Adesman 2013). ASD is a highly heritable neurodevelopmental disorder, with a high concordance rate among monozygotic twins (Bailey et al. 1995) and an increased risk of sibling recurrence (Ozonoff et al. 2011; Risch et al. 2014). ASD is largely not a single-gene disorder. Rather, there are likely hundreds of genes that contribute to its etiology (Gilman et al. 2011; Levy et al. 2011). A number of environmental factors, particularly during the prenatal period, also present an increased risk for ASD including maternal diabetes, infection, fever, and inflammation (Ornoy et al. 2015); maternal asthma and allergies (Croen et al. 2005); the use of certain drugs during pregnancy (Croen et al. 2011; Gidaya et al. 2016;), extreme prematurity (Johnson et al. 2010), and maternal exposure to air pollution (Raz et al. 2015; Volk et al. 2013). Advanced parental age (Idring et al. 2014) has also been associated with an increased risk of ASD.

Tl,dr; genetics and prenatal disposition are the only known causes.

What i think op describe is more likely the masking autistic people do which is a defense mechanism they use after living traumatic event.

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Slayan 19 points a year ago

Hello easyspeezy here, today we got quite a special order, we are doing a bankruptcy speedrun!

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Slayan 18 points a year ago

Someone else said musk is prob forcing him to do it because he want to be the next president. Since he has canadian nationality he'll be able to gun for president.

Kinda crazy guess, but they are crazy so 🤷‍♂️

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Slayan 17 points a year ago

So the firefighter deot killed 3 dog and a cat over 75$..? And they are not to blame???

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Slayan 17 points a year ago

Old man shout at canada... again

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Slayan 17 points a year ago

For someone not noticing he seem to talk about it alot. He also had to sell twitter to his ai company to get some liquidity prob to pay back some investor whom wanted out. So his action seems to tell he does care. But who know what goes on in his head.

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Slayan 16 points 2 years ago

So you like capitalism: the prequel and all the lies they say to get the soul crushing machine ready, but disagree with post-capitalist aka the actual soul crushing machine.. crushing soul?

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Slayan 15 points 2 years ago

Meanwhile ragnarok online a 2002 mmorpg is alive and kicking with hundreds of private servers..

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Slayan 14 points 4 months ago

https://www.scotsman.com/...

In my lifetime – and even more so in Sir David’s – the natural world has suffered an extraordinary and devastating decline. Since the spread of industrial agriculture, the planet has lost more than two-thirds of its wildlife populations. Today, 96 per cent of all mammal biomass on Earth is made up of humans and farmed animals. Just four per cent is wild.

At COP26, he ended his address with words that deserve to be remembered: “If working apart we are a force powerful enough to destabilise our planet, surely working together we are powerful enough to save it… In my lifetime I’ve witnessed a terrible decline. In yours, you could – and should – witness a wonderful recovery.”

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Slayan 13 points 4 months ago

You got ublock? Im pretty sure i get no ads on prime with ublock.

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Slayan 13 points a year ago

245 millions could've voted, 90 millions didnt vote, 77 millions voted for trump.

68% of people either didn't care about fascism or wanted it.

Dear americans, wtf happened. Where were you.

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Slayan 12 points 3 years ago

Japanese beetle

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Slayan 12 points 2 years ago

I guess they haven't finished the witcher 3 then🤷‍♂️ ciri is obv the only way foward by then.

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