I lost my husband almost 8 years ago and my best advice is to find support. Don't isolate yourself. For me, family and friends were there and available but I couldn't seem to open up to them. I found a Google chat group of widow(er)s that worked for me. Any time, day or night, I could text that group of people who understood this utterly un-understandable grief. They helped me not feel alone as I found my path through it.

Message me and I'll be happy to give you my contact info if you need someone to talk to.

Don't be a dick. Seriously, dude posted in Not Stupid Questions and you immediately tell him how stupid his question is.

Now go after every committee she's on too. They'll never expel her entirely but they can remove her from anything even remotely important.

Haha same. I started at beehaw but am having a hard time manually adding communities that I want to keep in that feed since they aren't onfederated instances. So I moved to sh.ithust.works and reddthat.

I'll probably keep beehaw, I like a lot of what it has to offer and it's cool for it to be a specific corner for me. But one of the others will probably become my default home

I vote to defederate. If I want to see meta shit I can sign up there but I'd delete this account and go find some other instance that chose not to federate with them. I want to choose when/if I interact with meta, not end up in yet another place where they dominate everything else

(Realized I posted from the wrong account. My opinion stays the same for both my accounts on sh.itjust works and reddthat and any others I may join)

Yep! 100% since Sync shut down. There's enough content here already to keep me engaged though not for as long as I'd scroll on Reddit. But watching new communities pop up and grow is fun!

I'd like to see embedded gifs. I miss scrolling the feed and seeing gifs and short videos play and not having to click to load a different page to view.

I felt similarly about the PT Cruiser. Horribly ugly car but the inside was designed well. Everything was exactly where I expected it to be and it was an enjoyable drive.

You may try a few groups before you find the right place for you. Grief is hard to navigate and no one is going to have all the answers you're seeking. But there are people who can stand with you through this.

If you find that Lemmy, let me know! Still trying to find good equivalents and I'd love to add this one to my politics feed lol

I have this issue with community names too. Connect doesn't show which instance it's in without some extra clicking.

I am using the Connect for Lemmy app until Sync for Lemmy drops.

I've had sync so long I can't even remember redditing without it. My late husband was a tech guy and when we met in college he introduced me to Reddit and recommended the app and bought the pro version of it. Been a daily user for at least 10 years and can't wait to see Sync for Lemmy!

There are also different types of freight trains that do very different trip plans. Manifest trains stop frequently and for long periods of time. Intermodal trains often pass through hump yards and are torn down and rebuilt after interchanging cars for various destinations. None of this conducive to passenger cars being in the mix. Not to mention hazmat cars and the liability of hauling hazmat and people together.

I've been a user for less than 24 hours, I'm sure I'm doing something wrong lol.

This is where it takes me https://links.dartboard.social/post/1030

Same! I've posted more this week than I have in the last 10 years on Reddit. I feel like I can actually join a real discussion with real people here. Posts aren't filled with 500 bot comments 5 minutes after being posted and my comments aren't auto-removed because I don't meet some random requirement for posting in that sub or not having enough karma or whatever.

I also signed up on a few different instances while checking things out and I've kinda created different themes for myself. It's been helping me keep track of discussions better having all my politics discussions on one instance, local and sports stuff in another, and general scrolling/random in another.

This link takes me to a random comment, not a tips list :(