I can't say this is something I have experienced. I got gender euphoria from the start right up to today.

But maybe you are gender fluid? If that fits then it fits. It's OK to be a man on Tues and a woman on Friday.

There is no wrong way to be you. There is only you. The words are only important if they are useful. When words fail, you are still here, and you are more important than the words will ever be.

It's OK to tell a story to simplify it down to strangers. (Like: I'm a trans woman) You don't need to have the whole experience of your transition down to an elevator speech.

I say this to give some guidance on how you could move through the world. Strangers get the simple lie. Friends and family get the more nuanced truth.

“(your) right To swing your fist ends just where my nose begins”

Exactly, If you care so much transplant it into your uterus.

Not all anarchists are worth celebrating.

Hard dissagree. It's wrong in Nebraska, wrong in Germany, and wrong everywhere else where the standard is some date before birth.

I'm sorry for how your family reacted.

My mother cried. It was hard. She tried to deny it. I was really hoping she would help me and even be happy for me, but she was devastated. She said she would always love me and she didn't call me any names, but that was the best I got for years.

My aunt and Uncle, who I was working for at the time, were just kinda shocked. They gave a tepid "we hope this makes you happy."

All my friends were cool. Nearly all my coworkers were cool. A couple years later, when I came out to my new job to transition full time, management was super cool. They did everything I asked and used my new name from day one.

I had some rough spots, lost touch with some of my family. But overall I was prepared for much worse. Many years later, my mother, aunt, and uncle, were much warmer and supportive at my wedding.

So all's well that ends well.

Thank you so much! I found it.

Hey Sarah. It's OK to be she/her for a bit. I hope you settle down with what makes you happy.

I'm so confused.

I found Lemmy in a comment thread wishing for reddit alternatives.

I worry that the decentralized nature of the fediverse will require some thick skin for a time. I have seen the sentiment expressed that we don't want too many federations(edit: defederations) when the community is still so small.

If the community grows, I imagine we will see options for safe spaces, but there will need to be constant vigilance, because the change of a mod or a mod's beliefs can change what content is allowed.

Still, it's early enough for me to have hope.

For the record, she was, probably, past that. My wife was born at 20 weeks, over three decades ago.

I am also hoping to make this a new home.

Why would you be faking it?

What evidence do you have that you are trans?

What evidence do you have that you are cis?

Do you want to be trans?

Those are the starting questions?

What's the problem with 28 weeks?

Yes, it's clear that there must be a cutoff date. Personally, I like the biblical standard: baby's first breath.

I became more extroverted. More social, more outgoing. Being able to be myself is delightful, and my old quiet bookish persona doesn't fit me anymore.

I would expect significant change to be normal, mostly expressing ourselves in ways that didn't feel right before or ways werl didn't allow ourselves to in the past.

Welcome Fabienne! That is a lovely name.

I came out and started my transition over a decade ago. It's been a wild ride from marriage equality here in the US to the current climate of fear.

I hope your journey is as rewarding as mine has been. I have a wonderful group of friends and family that supports and affirms me.

Your dreamong brain came up with some beautiful wisdom.

I like the change.

Hi Evelyn. You can call me Dee.

I'm a redtugee, looking for a new home, liking this community.

Blahaj zone has grown by a factor of 10 since I joined.

Last week.

So I'm hoping things stay friendly and positive!

I'm trying to kick start a game of new WoD Hunter.

Ok, so, you have first part down, give yourself chances to meet new people.

Next, it gets harder. Be nice, be interesting. Be funny, helpful, some combination of the above to give people you interact with positive memories/feelings for you. If you can swing it, be physically attractive. Do your makeup, wear nice clothes, etc. All this is just to get a good vibe.

Next you need time. Someone you have met three times who was nice and dresses well is an acquaintance. Someone you have been gaming/book grouping/camping with for the past 3 years who is nice and funny is a friend. Consistency is key.

Finally, if you have doubts, ask yourself the question: "would a friend act like this?" This goes for both you and them. If they call you up at 2AM because their car broke down, a friend would go help them.

If they invite you to do hard drugs on a work-night, they are not acting like friends, they are acting like addicts, and going out with them might be fun, but it will hurt you, and friends don't hurt their friends.

Friends don't always take and never give. So bring drinks to the meetup, but also don't be the only person that always brings the drinks. Etc etc, details depend on your circumstances.

I hope this helps someone.