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XaiwahBlue

@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others.

Here to share my mistakes and learn from yours. I generally mean to engage with the best intentions, i apologize if i ever feel abrupt.

Never assume malicious what is equally likely ignorance/over exuberance. 💙

XaiwahBlue 27 points 2 years ago

Hey you know what, when you're in love, whatever works. So many people are lonely, at least they found each other. 🥹

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XaiwahBlue 23 points 2 years ago

Have a cat, was planned. Feel obligated cause i rescued her ass 8 years ago, and she's really easy and low maintenance.

The big dog i have was rescued after an elderly family member passed away and there was no one else to take her in.

I love her to pieces but i definitely wont be getting another 60 pound+ dog in a 3 floor walk up! 😩

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XaiwahBlue 19 points 2 years ago

Lol i cant even with the whole thing.

However, even with all those factors, no one could possibly have predicted the scale of its failure.

I didn't hear about it UNTIL the failure. I think it wasn't expected to do well, i don't think it was advertised well, and it was a lazy cash grab in a filled market no one asked for.

Just because a game gets made doesn't make it good, wanted, or timed well.

Stardew Valley came out in 2016, but I didn't see any traffic for a few years outside people who had been waiting for it. It took off around 2019 according to google trends.

Most devs wont give the game time to even improve anymore, let alone join friends in a multiplayer game. Concord's google trends start the day before it released.

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XaiwahBlue 14 points 2 years ago

My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don't see that as an issue particularly.

Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

But um "it so bad we block the titties!" or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don't remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn't cement anything if you've ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.

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XaiwahBlue 12 points 2 years ago

Is that question really "in good-faith" to "that law doesn't apply in my country"?

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XaiwahBlue 11 points 2 years ago

I haven't thought of those apps for years, I used Pidgin! I had to look up the program name.

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XaiwahBlue 9 points 2 years ago

I think the issue people arguing with you that you don't seem to get is that not everyone does want it to stop.

You seem blind to that reality that there is a large portion who arent even looking or talking that people are dying.

Who think what is going on and continuing is fine, or even good or right. And those people are in the positions to even try to limit any of it, and wont.

You're not arguing honestly if you really claim the reason no one in power speaks against it is because it's too hard? That seems really unlikely doesn't it? "It's difficult and we're looking at legal options" and "we will continue to arm and defend them" are wholly different.

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XaiwahBlue 7 points 2 years ago

The bimbofication of the chat bots has been weird to watch. I played with Replika back when it was an egg billed as "a chat bot you teach to chat how you want" more than a romantic parter.

Were they ever good conversationalists? No, but if you're someone who likes to externally talk things through they could be a fine echo of a generally positive generic person.

Now they feel so gross and desperate/pleading it feels weird to interact with them.

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XaiwahBlue 7 points 2 years ago

I've been pretty lazy about changing stores since they had the easiest pick up i had found in my area, but i guess this is the ass kick i need to make sure i never go back.

Sucks they own almost all the groceries in my area. But i can trust that it's not a monopoly, right?

Groceries prices deeeeefinately aren't inflated. Nope. All good here.

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XaiwahBlue 6 points 2 years ago

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XaiwahBlue 5 points 2 years ago

Flashbacks to when only the teacher and I understood A Modest Proposal and not being able to explain to anyone else in that class that i was appreciating that he was sassing the english NOT the actual idea of eating babies. 🙃

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XaiwahBlue 5 points 2 years ago

This is how playing Pokemon Scarlett feels

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XaiwahBlue 5 points 2 years ago

RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected... On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don't know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn't want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It's been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩

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XaiwahBlue 4 points 2 years ago

I tried to find the data, it looks like the financial times evaluated data from August 2023 and made that chart? This is apparently the survey source with a lazy google: https://wwwn.cdc.gov/... cause i was curious too

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XaiwahBlue 4 points 2 years ago

Does he currently get money if you use JavaScript like the Brave CEO gets for his products?

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XaiwahBlue 4 points 2 years ago

Who needs to fix things from the ground up when you can just throw in more and more code! You can just fix it with more code!

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XaiwahBlue 3 points 2 years ago

Sounds like we should have made ISPs government owned then!

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XaiwahBlue 3 points 2 years ago

I didn't realize there was deep lore in an egg_irl post, i took it as the comic it was.

Without that background information, (that is not included unless i stalk the OP, which doesn't feel like it would endear anyone to my participation) it feels close to a comic could reinforce the "you can't win trying to be supportive to queer people these days" energy since there's nothing clear about there being a boundary made by the other person in the comic? Maybe there's something i missed on the lemmy ui, I'm willing to admit!

As an older queer i am not quite sure when we decided clothing meant anything (again) since growing up it was something we already tried to work on in the queer community, just look into lesbian spaces and their attempts to uncouple femininity from being required to dress up. Have binary identities and enforcing trans people to present a particular way backfired into hyper gendered expressions being required?

Another question is how can the community help individuals vulnerable to invalidation of parts of their identity? I know everyone needs support as a whole and in general in their lives. The ability to stand strong in yourself in the storm can't be manufactured without a foundation, and how do we help newbies find that with the atmospheres as tense as they are, even in queer spaces?

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XaiwahBlue 3 points 2 years ago

Worst thing I didn't realize from being young is: keeping people around who are going to eventually leave no matter what cuz they didn't actually respect me isn't worth it.

Show them enough respect to get what you need out of them but don't be friendly with them because they don't actually care about you and none of it's real. They're being social friendly just enough but it's not real and they don't really care about you.

Don't get emotionally invested and don't let people close to you who don't know you and who you know cause you pain, otherwise you're just causing self harm to not be alone and the scars will ruin close social relationships. Colleagues should ne at arm's length you, can tell them that they're being inappropriate, you can just walk away you, can ignore them, be cold to them give them social situations to make them feel uncomfortable like they do you and cut them out.

I promise you in 2 years agter graduation none of them will probably be around. None of them will probably helped you with a job (networking it almost exclusively better with older people in the industry NOT your own rivals for jobs).

And you're going to have spent time juggling relationships that were a waste of your time and that they never cared. Carry around scars for your future partners and friends, ways you wont trust because of a casual acquaintance. It's as bad as having a cheating partner for causing you to mistrust and feel unsable to force yourself to be friendly with people who don't care about you.

None of what they say matters to them or they even process it in social situations. They dont put themselves into your shoes.

I'm it feels like everything to you and so it feels like it'll be everything to them, but no they won't remember you for anythings but a stereotypes they formed in their head 2 months after you haven't been around. Then a year later they may have the vaguest recollection.

Only you will remember this in 10 years. Act with respect for yourself, not them and not what you've been told they'll be good for.

Because you won't lie at night wishing you had given more of yourselves to others. You wont wish you made yourself more vulnerable, more easy to hurt by letting cold and thoughtless people into a close place where they can hurt you. You'll wish you had walked away rather than cause wounds you'll never be able to heal.

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XaiwahBlue 3 points 2 years ago

Do you typical get defensive when you make mistakes and people correct you or do you find this particularly hard not to feel like your ego was attacked?

The people here do like to be snarky, but welcome to the internet? Especially when someone makes themselves an amazing target by sulking or pouting. Kids always love to pick on the kid with no emotional regulation, and humans dont change much from childhood.

Lemmy is a little hard to understand at first and I am sure plenty of people get embarrassed, but do you ever find you catch a lot of flies with that vinegar or does it just make you feel better to act out?

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