And thus the cycle begins anew.

I use Kagi too - they have a feature I haven't seen before where you can basically optimize your own SEO. You can uprank or downrank any given website to varying degrees based on how much of that site you want to see in your future search results (I use this a lot for game wikis that have since migrated off of Fandom etc, but the stale Fandom page always shows up first in google search).

They're also working on a feature to warn you which articles are paywalled directly from the search result, which I will use the hell out of.

They also have something they call Lenses, which are essentially search profiles that emphasize certain types of results (programming lens upranks stackoverflow, github, and API docs for instance).

All in all I've been extremely pleased with the quality of the product and the directions they're exploring in. And being able to easily chat up the devs in discord doesn't hurt either.

I really hope that the existing Lemmy instances can handle all the new users

The joke is literally just "everyone hates dentist appointments, therefore a dentist could use it as punishment for his son". I really don't think the overtones were meant to go deeper than that.

Humanity always seems to learn the wrong lessons from historical events, doesn't it? Hurt people hurt people, I guess...

This one's interesting, because it hails from a time when there was more of a cultural underpinning to the term - companies had a cultural obligation to at least keep up a facade of taking care of their customers, and calling customers guests was explicitly meant to convey a sense of safety and comfort.

It has the exact opposite effect now, because the customer's interests are often in direct opposition to those of the company. The company thinks it owns you, and no longer cares what you think about it.

I don't understand this comment. What harm has nihilism caused that is worth protesting?

It wasn't always, and it's not explicitly a trans sub, but yeah it's definitely been very trans-oriented since well before we migrated here from reddit

This internet version of centrism that everyone hates on is bizarre to me, for the reasons you say - the "only commit half a genocide" type of centrism. Are there people who really strike a middle ground on every issue on principle?

I always understood centrism as "I hold enough opinions from both parties that I don't align with either one", which honestly fits me pretty well. I still have strong opinions on individual issues though...

Costco is unique in its food court prices, they must be heavy into loss leader territory at this point. It was a really good deal back before covid, and these days it's basically daylight robbery compared to anywhere else.

Not only that, but the food kiosks (at my local location, anyway) don't scan your costco membership either, so you can just walk in the exit and get some food without signing up.

I believe discrete is the word you're looking for there, though discreet is really funny in this context.

This is true, but it's not the only factor. Staying private allows a company to not be predatory, but it definitely does not guarantee it - it simply allows the executives to choose. It's the combination of Valve being private and Gaben always staying true to his values despite his incredible wealth that gave us Steam in its current form.

I've known plenty of private companies that were as shitty as a public one, or more. Quality executives are vanishingly rare, particularly at this level of company value.

I'm guessing they knew that it likely wasn't a problem with being ugly, so the therapist did this 'experiment' as a way of demonstrating that. Seems pretty solid to me, actually.

I disagree honestly, the context made it very clear what was meant here, and was a proper use of the word imo.

I wish the current list view didn't lead people to unknowingly necro years-old threads lol

I believe it just means that the instance you tried to subscribe to hasn't responded to the federation request yet. Just wait a while and it'll resolve itself, assuming they haven't blocked you or something (and assuming that instance isn't down).

That the mental health system in the US is fundamentally broken due to the general attitude toward suicidality. As I understand it, the general and medical view of suicidality is that suicide cannot be allowed under any circumstances. Anyone acting in ways that seem like they could realistically lead to suicide must be stopped, by force if necessary. To this end, not only is it considered morally correct to report suicidal people to the proper authorities, but it is actually mandated in many cases.

This seems perfectly reasonable from the perspective of most people - suicide wreaks terrible havoc on the lives of the people around the victim, after all, on top of the general loss of life. This holds especially true because most suicide attempts are spur-of-the-moment decisions that have not been thought through, and these cases have a very good chance of recovery if they are talked down. As far as I am aware, the majority of people who have been brought back from suicide attempts are grateful for the second chance.

But this leaves a rather large class of people behind, who are in such anguish for one reason or another that suicide seems like the only option. These are not people who kill themselves on a whim - they are people who have considered the ramifications of such an action for sometimes decades. If one of these people determines that suicide is the right choice, this essentially traps them in a space where they can no longer be helped. They cannot reach out to literally anyone, because everyone from their therapist to their friends to their relatives are likely to call in an intervention and involuntarily imprison them in a psychiatric ward. And even worse - these people do this in a genuine attempt to help, completely unaware of the paradox this creates.

To someone of this mindset, evoking an intervention of that nature is simply not an option. If one is in such pain that suicide seems like the only escape, then removing that escape is by definition worse than a death sentence. It seems a special kind of cruelty, the last remaining thing the world can do to ensure you feel every last second of this pain it has in store for you. To these people, their autonomy is often the very last thing they have left, and it is incredibly precious.

And so, the only route left is to suffer in silence, slowly regressing until the day they actually kill themselves. After a certain threshold where speaking about their mental state risks imprisonment, they are effectively already lost - because even if something could still be done to help them, the perceived risk is too high to ever reach for it.

I was in such a state for many years, and was lucky enough to be able to return on my own to a level where I feel 'eligible for mental help' again. However, I feel as if most people who reach that level are not so fortunate, and it twists my heart to know what we are inadvertently inflicting upon these poor, invisible people. There has to be a better way to approach this.

Lol, I would like to have words with your friend in cybersecurity

In general maybe not, in these lemmy spaces absolutely.