Are there any study’s or research on if this belief is true or not? I’m genuinely curious because I think I may believe this too and want to know if it’s something I should question

You perfectly described a feeling that I didn’t even have the words for until now. Gender rotting is something I definitely feel too. For me, its so twisted because when I start to give up on being happy, sometimes the people around me clearly become more comfortable with me. I don’t like being ‘rewarded’ for not having the effort to maintain my own happiness.

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