Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to be unhappy. Instead you could compare yourself to your past self.

You could play all of them with a modded 3ds. It's fairly easy (imho) to mod a 3ds.

I don't know if it will work, but it's possible to tunnel all your traffic through a VPS using SSH and a piece of software called sshuttle.

Journaling is OK but what really keeps me grounded is an habit tracker. Without it my life is pure chaos.

Do a rehearsal move. Pack everything you have into boxes. Take out from the boxes only the things you need to use. Things that stay in the box for more than 12 months are things you probably don't need and you can donate/sell them.

Habit tracker with all self-care tasks is the way to go for me. I use a template with my daily tasks which is easy to edit. Every day in the morning I add those tasks to my daily tracker and go about ticking each one of it. I have a goal of 6000 self-care tasks per year and with some scripts I can easily track the percentage I've completed. I also use the habit tracker for my hobbies.

Every day I update my habit tracker several times a day and have been doing it for almost 4 years. It has helped me immensely. In the past I felt sometimes it was a chore, but knowing how much I've done through the days help me keep grounded.

Making lists and time blocking

password-store is a CLI app to store passwords and even supports OTP.

Whoogle is a meta search (still uses Google search) that takes the bloat off.

Matrix is a decentralized and secure messaging platform.

For email I have a vps (costs less than protonmail) and use Maddy.

There are a few good firefox alternatives, I use waterfox on my phone and floorp on my Linux PC.

https://wiki.archlinux.org/title/Zram

Atomic Habits is a good book that might help you (or not).

I use daily habit tracking for my self-care (and also my hobbies). It's not for everyone but it keeps me grounded.

I don't know about Linode, but with Hostinger you get a resource cap on CPU usage. If you put your VPS to crunch something you will be throttled down on CPU. I once tried importing Wikipedia on my VPS and had my CPU throttled down. I pay for the cheapest VPS with only one CPU. In this case you don't really get the "full" VPS to yourself...

Age of reason: https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/3743

matrix.org

Whoogle, a meta-search that strips away all the nasty things from Google. Can't live without it tbh.

A frontpage with links to all services and a monitoring app like Monitoror to allow me to check what's running.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=g9A6ctjHAxE

Over planning can be a problem indeed. You gotta keep it simple and real. I use markdown files (plain text) and vim (text editor).

Living one day at a time

There is a book called the four agreements. This book helped me a lot.

Why save things on github? I used to save my configs directly in the server running docker. To change anything I had to ssh into it and do the stuff.