Thanks for keeping us in the loop! While I agree that downvoting can be problematic for smaller nicher communities, I'm not a fan of removing the downvote button. I think a better option would be to remind users (in a post like this) that they can block communities whose content they don't want to see on their client

I've never been so curious about the actual context of one of these photos lol. 1 and 2 look to be having a legitimate friendly conversation. 1 and 3 are half wearing bottoms/underwear? 1 is holding something (keys?) in her hand. I'm not sure if they're actually eating or just posing, but the latter seems more likely given how picturesque their food looks. The ceiling is quite low, probably a basement. Are they posing for a photo for a college girls in a bowling alley porno, and this is between takes?

Dillon Harper's got that gorgeous girl next door look

Continually create more content to generate more upvoters, subscribers, and contributors. If you're into stories, community, captions, porn - different media - use them all. And tolerating drive-bys from non lemmynsfw users who think they're funny is part of the growing pains

A guy coming in my mouth would be sooo hot, which I haven't actually had even though I've given head, and that's what I'd pick. It feels degrading to me but in the best and hottest way possible. I'd like to taste it. I love the thought of him thrusting in my mouth when he's close and possibly shooting down my throat too (although I wouldn't get to taste it in that case)

Gorgeous body. Super cute bikini. Great photo (hair in wind, texture of rock, perspective). All around, wonderful post.
May your boob offering to the Sun prove successful. Stay sun safe!

Damn you're gorgeous! Very goddess-like

You're sexy and funny

As long as it is physically a penis, the gender of the owner does not matter.

Maybe say that it's welcome instead. Gender does matter if they're expected to identify their gender with a tag as per the next rule.

I love all the cocks - thanks :)

For me (36M sissy/beta sub), the longest I've gone is 52 days. I was helped motivationally through the first 2-3 weeks due to healing from circumcision.

I do orgasm denial to try and elicit my more submissive and feminine sides. The main negative effect is that it can make me irritable or cranky; also getting stuff done as opposed to looking at erotic content online for lengthy periods of time due to unrelenting horniness can be really tough.

I ended that 52-day streak because I was questioning why I was doing it, and gave in. It was an interesting orgasm. Ejaculation-wise, it was a solid 7/10 come - I was a little disappointed tbh but I didn't fap for long. However, psychologically, it blew my mind; I was giggly and tingly in a 9/10 kind of way, which I loved. A wild guess is that I might need to go without for a month to experience that. idk. (My baseline is ~4 orgasms a week.)

I'm on another streak now, and I'm trying to be more focused in why I'm doing this to set a new personal best, heck, ideally, go orgasmfree all of 2026 🤞😘

Thanks for all your great work, @SneakyFox! I feel like contributions are down across this whole instance of late. I've noticed it on other communities I subscribe to. So, first and foremost, I think it's more an instance issue versus a c/spanking issue. Second, you are kind of competing with c/domesticdiscipline, which has a very active mod. There's so much quiet on Lemmy, I think many users tend to go where the crowds are versus help prop up quiet communities - but that's speculative. Finally, I posted a great 'overcoming my internalized stigma about spanking fetish' article on c/domesticdiscipline recently, versus your community - which was my first choice based on content relevance, because your sidebar didn't suggest that non-image posts are welcome here. You could revise the sidebar submission guidelines around that. I'm also not purely interested in M spanking F scenes. The c/domesticdiscipline sidebar mentions it's LGBTQ+ inclusive, which is very attractive to me as a contributor and lurker. I hope some of that is helpful :P

Ohmigosh you have beautiful breasts :)

For me, the first two weeks of abstinence are pretty easy. Week 3 is very different - I feel very horny, frustrated, and irritated. And then week 4 and onwards things are easier again. I've only made it past that 3 week hump - when before I've caved - once, in my current streak, and I'm currently on day 52. It's not that tough; I'm learning new things about my body, like how I experience horniness now and if/how I can satisfy it.

I think there's a general idea around femdom/FLR communities that males peak in sexual frustration around week 3, after which they seem to adopt to the new normal of not coming. So, proponents of this lifestyle let their men have a 'release' every 3 weeks - to maximize their long-term frustration/ submissiveness/ etc. I believe I've read this in detail on the blog evolvingyourman. I don't know how truly common it is in those communities.

So, I think you're in good company if you notice your horniness rising and falling with time in a patterned way - that more time spent in chastity doesn't always equal more horniness. It may be that you stop feeling horny quicker (~2 weeks versus ~4) than non aces

Thank you so much for sharing all that (!!) and for the appreciation of content!

It sounds like your sexuality is expanded overall (like multi-dimensionally) with orgasm denial. I found this effect especially neat: "being a lot more in touch with my kinks and sexuality, without any shame"

Happy December y’all 🥰. Decent year for this bratty sissy. I think I’ve kind of sworn off piercings and (pubic mound) tattoos for now. I’m glad I got my belly and 2x ear lobes pierced though. They’re easy piercings. I wouldn’t mind some heart-shaped lock jewelry, like an anklet or maybe a bracelet, a necklace, or a small tattoo like on my ring finger or ankle.

I’m back in chastity. I’m doing a Chastity Christmas thing, where I think I’ll try penile orgasm denial and as 24/7 lockup as possible for the month, most of which I’m on holiday. Going dancing (and more ;) at a gay club would be fun!

My cage is a Cherrykeeper. They sell this “permalocker,” which is a plastic thing that fits in the keyhole and permanently locks it. I have this fun thought about putting a permalocker in. Pratcical considerations, like how I’d clean myself, abound. But it’s a sexy fantasy, putting one in and going permanent.

I’ve been wondering about the healthiness of my identity of a sissy and beta recently. And I've concluded that I think it’s healthy. Some day, I’d probably like a long term mate, and probably a woman, and I’d have heterosex (lol) with her. But I’d also need her to be open to my sissy kinks too. Give and take, you know? In the mean time, I don’t want to top anyone sexually. And I haven’t topped anyone in a long time. And fetishizing that (eg, beta, sissy) seems like good, clean fun to me

For the first part, and in the near term, I think you might want to switch positions from ones that demand a lot of leg strength (e.g, squatting, cowgirl/boy) to ones that don't (e.g., doggy, lying down) when you get tired. Longer term, you're probably looking for exercise to gain more endurance. Exercises that mimic the actions you want to perform in bed might be best, or generally just work your core and lower body.

I'm less sure about the second part. For me, getting fucked in my ass, causes some pretty widespread pleasure - very much in contrast to penile stimulation with is very much concentrated on that one body part. The difference in 'spread' may be partially due to my lesser experience with anal stimulation. Maybe when I'm used to coming from anal stimulation, the pleasure will feel a little more well-defined and concentrated. But I think that pleasure is typically more diffuse than penile stimulation

btw, I am not a fan of the new gender your posts with a gender tag rule, but I realize I may be a one-in-a-million dissenter on this

Yay K.K.! I'm happy for you :D

I really appreciate your comment - good fediverse community-building - and also the plug for kegal exercises in particular. I've never really given them much thought, but I think it's time to explore them. Thanks again :D

Thanks to MaybeALittleBitWeird and K.K. for keeping this place going ❤️. I have a lot to say about this month's questions, so I'm just going to dive in.

confusion and shame that comes along with subverting societal expectations regarding gender and sex

I've been a sissy on and off for about 10 years. 85% of my lifetime experience of presenting more femininely in public has been in the last year. It's been illuminating about many things. It's illuminated that I have/had much more confusion and shame about presenting femme than I realized. I think that's because for a long time I did not feel safe presenting this way in public, telling people close to me that I wanted to, or even privately acknowledging it to myself. The Tl;Dr is that I realize I have this vestigial (i.e., outdated, obsolete) 'gender police' in my head that I have built over years; it's still quite powerful and it unconsciously biases me to sense more risk about being feminine in pubic than my lived experience ever has suggested is warranted - and it's not even close. It's surprised me to clearly see after a while that I have more introjected transphobia than non-bigoted cis people have transphobia or even lack-of-acceptance for trans people. (I think as a crude test of internalized transphobia, see how comfortable are you making polite eye contact with and smiling at an enby or trans person you pass by on the street.)

presenting as in public

Just to add that there is no singular public. Presenting feminine in a cab to a gay nightclub and back is different than being feminine around your parents, going to work, running an errand, etc. I read a study of enby people recently and the norm is that people are 'out' to varying degrees with different people or groups in their lives.

How feminine are you comfortable with presenting in public (if you are at all) and where do you draw the line with what is and is not okay to do in public regarding your gender expression?

Long hair in a bun, double huggie earrings, clean shaven or waiting for my next shave (sensitive skin, laziness about things I don't see :P), and a plain anklet are my baseline. For the last few weeks I've been rocking painted fingers and toes full-time. I just shaved my legs 😝

Legally, bathroom-wise, and socially (e.g., pronouns, brother/sister), I think I plan to stay identifying publicly as a man. I don't think I ought to limit my gender expression for anyone's sake per se, but my choice is to present in a way that I think cishet people will understand; and I see that as a somewhat feminine man - not far off from a feminine variety of gay. Wearing makeup and a dress would not fit that mould, imo (although special crossdress nights might be fun). There are some environments where I don't (yet) feel that comfortable wearing colourful fingernail polish in - like my neighbourhood fitness gym. (A lot of people trying to stifle mtf-curiosity do so with excessive exercise, whether or not they're aware of it. I was one of them in the past. There will be more looks than usual at the gym - ha!)

What were some of the challenges you needed to overcome to get yourself to that point?

So, nail polish has been my big drive lately. I started off wearing 'barely noticeable' colours, but I found it better psychologically to gain my 'comfort footing' with more noticeable colours. If my nails were subtle enough that many wouldn't notice, I was hypervigilant about people noticing. But, when I made the choice to wear black polish, for example, and accept that people would notice - I realized that noticing isn't bad. In fact, most of us like being noticed most of the time, I think. But we don't like be stared at, or worse. I recommend that latter experience of - just go with something people will notice and see how safe it actually is [eg, how many genuine stares or negative remarks you actually get] - with whatever you want to try. And, if your thing is also nail polish and you want a 'plausible alibi' just in case, do black around Halloween. Or just Halloween in general.

I think I also shifted from seeing things in black or white about whether or not something is or isn't safe to wear out, to more of a "try it and let's see" approach. I don't think there's anything wrong with painting your nails, feeling like you're getting more attention than you're comfortable getting then and there, taking it off, and trying it again another situation. In fact, I think it's very useful to appreciate to recognize how important personal comfort level, versus objective riskiness of the situation, is to our perception of risk in expressing femininely out and about