Don't even ask about the sex.

I'm 100% asking about the sex.

Today I learned that I'm a bot lol.

I stopped posting the thread since it mostly was just me sharing my sexy fun and people weren't adding their own stories or comments much anymore. I was curious to see if anyone would say anything.

Just ask first 🙂 don't go all "no one expects the Spanish inquisition!"

Issue I've run into is partners don't realize they need lube to do that. Spit kinda works but not really.

You can even just play with the hole and not put anything in and it'll feel nice.

I get basically nowhere without kissing. Talking and touching don't really do it for me without the kissing. Even just a little polite peck gets the blood flowing.

Random acts of blowjob are the rare late night exception that prove the rule.

No really naughty fun for me, however:

• My apartment reno is finally done! Spent my first night in it getting the place set up. Decided to have an edible and enjoy a long masturbation session with poppers. The combination of cannabis + poppers is how I learned how to have a full body orgasm, so I still like to do it sometimes. I had some Doritos and Ben & Jerry's afterwards, too :-)
• I wished J a happy birthday, and he said meeting me this year has definitely been a highlight :-D
• Seeing J swimming in these sexy "euro" style micro briefs on my LA trip inspired me, and I bought a similar pair for myself! I'll need to wear them (alone) around the house a bit to feel more confident, then who knows! Maybe I'll learn to pose for a new post in /c/themaleform?
• I almost forgot: inspired by another Lemmy user I restarted my foreskin restoration journey today. I made great progress many years ago but yeah let's really go all the way now!

Merry Christmas!

Well, the day after D and I met he let me know he just tested positive for chlamydia! So rather than getting me tested, my doctor just wrote a prescription and said no sexy fun for two weeks. Which has been...fine.

I post nsfw content here and get sexting partners. I even got one real life connection from it 😈

My apartment renovation might be done in about a week! Just one experience, but one worth turning into a long update here.

I went to my first ever sex party!

I've only even done 1/1 stuff up until this point, but I got invited to a local sex party. It was fun! I'm going to break it down by sections.

Location: At a huge suite at a nearby hotel. $20 cover. The host stocked chilled water, condoms, dental dams, lube packets, mints, blow pops. Poppers available for purchase. He told the telegram group how to walk into the hotel and avoid reception, and a secret knock for the door :-) Suite had a huge glass shower, a whirlpool, multiple rooms, sofas, chairs. The host put porn on the TV sometimes.

The group: 37 guys, with most arriving within the first hour. Very distributed in age, from 21 up to probably 60s?

The other action: Mostly older guys started anal and stuff before I even got there. A lot of oral and random anal. It was nice to see how one guy would ask another if he wanted to bottom, and to hear "yes, and condoms please" I liked how polite things were. Some guys enjoyed more random chilling in the whirlpool, too.

My action: I don't really like guys that old, so once I started to feel warmed up, got involved in a few things

• Basically everyone wanted to suck my cock, and most of them did a good job!
• Making out with a sexy shaved otter while another guy is on his knees sucking both of us
• Topping a very slutty bottom bent over the bathtub
• Choking a slightly older guy calling me "daddy" while he beats off furiously and I push him against the wall
• Bringing a hung twink over to the bed so I could rim him while he sucks me
• Being sucked by another guy while I'm making out with the twink and a bear, at times with both simultaneously. I don't know whose mouths, hands, and butts are going where. It was like everyone was on a mission to get me to orgasm! This was how I came the first time. By now the group had thinned down to about 10, mostly the younger guys.
• Relaxing and joking around when a new guy comes in late and I introduce him, and we make out, and the whole cycle starts all over again.
• Inviting the passionate hung twink to top me, and he does a great job. Hits all the right spots. Other guys are watching, some are touching us, some are encouraging us. Eventually he lies next to me and we make out and jack off and cum together that way. He shot so far it hit a guy two people over. The host later asked to be invited to the wedding lol.

My thoughts: It was really fun. Seeing that many other hard cocks in one place, I do see how mine is pretty nice, both in size and shape. I got to try a bunch of things I've wanted to try for a while. It lacked the intensity that I feel with a 1/1 encounter. It took me much longer to climax than normal, I think because it was such a new experience and I was a little bit on edge. I think I would go to another party like this, but probably try one in NYC next instead of Long Island. I am in touch with a few of my favorite guys via Telegram, Scruff, and/or Grindr, including: shaved otter, hung twink, and new guy (who it turns out is super kinky). Hung twink agrees that I get to top him next time ;-)

All in all I was there about 5 hours. Oh, and I got an ice cream bar on the way home :P I'm happy to take any questions or provide more specifics.

Being bi people kind of assume that I'm up for everything, and while I'll try anything once (probably twice) there are a few things that are definitely no: watersports, scat, and blood/gore.

I'm game for pretty much anything else, even in the BDSM world. I can see how they would be kinky fun. Those three though have something about them…

On your point: even without a prostate, a woman's anus and rectum have all kinds of nerve endings, and can even stimulate some of the nerves in the vagina. You could have a vibe or dildo in the vagina so the woman (and maybe man) can experience even more sensations. Finally, anal can bring a sense of deeper closeness because of how intimate it is. It can also be about power if you're into that.

Horniness is weird. When you're horny and with a willing partner, you kind of want to do anything and everything you can, even sometimes stuff that would gross you out during post-nut clarity. Embrace the moment. Embrace the horny.

I don't have the context but I think gaybros is meant to be a chill place without any of the dom/sub/alpha/fag/masc/fem stuff that pervades a lot of gay spaces online. Just a place for guys to be guys and share whatever is on their mind. I don't know if that's official (wtf does official even mean on Lemmy) but that's what it means to me.

He's in the process of (maybe) coming out as bisexual.

I don't think you meant it that way, but bi guys especially have to deal with everyone assuming they're closeted homosexuals. So when you say "you're gay" it's inaccurate and a little hurtful.

On the flip side, bi women struggle with everyone assuming they're just "experimenting" and are actually straight.

Yes they're terrible because they work. I remember one thing I liked about /r/aww was they banned titles like "Are iguanas allowed here?" Or "isn't my Fido cute?" It helped the sub's quality and I think it was one of the best default subs over on that website.

This was a more tame week. Too much work to do. HOWEVER:

I was chatting with a nice guy on Scruff, and one day I suggested we meet for a drink. He said he's going to this naked social party, so I decided to go, too. It's a monthly event hosted in a famous gay bar in NYC. He's been trying to get more comfortable being naked, and I have been, too.

I show up and there must be 100 naked guys all chatting in the bar already. Undress and check my clothes in and start to make new friends. The boys learn this is my first time meeting this guy who hasn't arrived yet, so they tell me how to signal if I need help and they'll swoop in.

So yeah he's a sweet guy, and I'm nervous but we chat and also talk to other people, too. A few drinks in I'm getting more comfortable, and guys are getting more horny. First hands, then making out, then oral, and assume guys even doing anal somehow.

Guys of all ages but generally in shape. Mostly normal cocks with some real monsters mixed in. Many guys were into me, so not sure how many guys I made out with, jerked off, sucked, and vice versa. Got face fucked for the first time too which was fun.

I like making out irl (a lot) and porn gets it all wrong. It's way too hard and fast and exaggerated. I guess it makes sense since it's for the cameras. It also explains why men are worse at making out than women (on average).

Okay, I'll share, too. This was now many years ago, so some of it will definitely seem foreign to you all.

I've known I was bi for a while, but I had remained celibate through much of my 20s. Finally at 26 I decided "fuck it, let's do something with someone and just get the anxiety out of the way."

But who? And how? A few times I had browsed the men4men section on Craiglist, and I knew there were always guys looking to fool around. I decided not to jack off for about 1 week or more so that I was horny enough to make dumb decisions and actually make a move. I created a new email account and took some photos, and put a post out there. After a few false starts, a nice guy of the same ethnicity, a fellow grad student, and with a huge member reached out and we decided we'd meet up. He was also bi, and also inexperienced, so yeah let's stumble through this shit together.

We meet at a movie theater so we could end up watching a movie if we didn't feel like more, or we could mess around a little in the dark and see how things went. I had to look up the ending of the movie later because I couldn't really remember what happened, and we didn't stay until the end. Pretty quickly we started touching hands, and pretty quickly I got really really hard. So did he from what I could feel. We made out a little, and then decided to head back to my place, each in our own cars.

I came the first time right away while we were grinding against each other on the couch, but I don't think either of us realized it. We ended up fooling around all night. Just hands and mouths. He did rim me for a while which was fun. We 69'd, cuddled, kissed, chatted, frotted. Really just exploring our bodies and how they react to sensations and how our penises work -- his was uncut and I'm circumcised so we were both fascinated. I remember his had its own smell and taste so different from my own, and that was really fun. For an inexperienced guy he was also a surprisingly good cocksucker. After hours and hours, he didn't want me to cum in his hands but I was too close and let it go. He cum while jacking off with me standing behind him, biting his neck. He was a really big shooter, it was kind of fun to play with it all afterwards.

I know he really wanted to meet up more, but that was enough of that for me. It was like a seal was broken though, and I became a real sexual being. I ended up hooking up with a woman I met at a party just a few weeks later, I think because I felt confident that I can actually do that kind of stuff. She even became like a fwb for a little while. That's a story for another day, though.

Still laid off :-( and spending most of the time on Long Island with my family, however:

• Friday got away from home to meet a sexy smooth guy who was down for some oral fun. Said he's "hung4hung" and I guess he was a good size, but I don't even know if I'm hung, and he was smaller than me. Fun to suck though!
  • I rimmed him, and is was a lot of fun to have his balls pressed against my nose while I was eating his tight ass. Ultimately I came from him sucking me (hands free) while my tongue was deep in his hole. He came after that by jerking off while I was rimming him.
  • We hung out for a bit and chatted while playing with his adorable and sweet dog who was curled up on the couch. It turns out he went to the same high school as me a few years later, and knows one of our family friends, who has the same name as me and was his class's salutatorian.
  • He also remembers attending my graduation because his cousin was graduating that year (I remember the cousin). And he remembers seeing me because I gave the valedictorian speech. Long Island is a small place sometimes :-)
  • We'll stay in touch. His husband is good looking, too so maybe we do some group stuff. Would be fun!
• Saturday I went into the city. A friend's friend was hosting a special dance party for millennials who like to go to bed on time - starts 5pm ends 10pm, and includes pizza at the end.
  • I invited R to join, but he correctly suggested that he wants more 1/1 time with me before a party dynamic with friends.
  • I only knew my one friend there, and something about the crowd and about me, it was really fun. While dancing I found so many people (men and women) to be very sexy. And for the first time I felt comfortable just dancing freely, and if people were objectifying me and finding me sexy, I didn't mind that either. A couple of ladies made some flirty comments which were fun. One small and tight twinky guy was dancing in suspenders -- pretty sure he was on something, or I would have used those suspenders to pull him in tight against me :-)
  • Our group stayed out and it turns out it's a very kinky group of men and women! We hung out in an apartment discussing poly and kink relationships, sexual boundaries and consent, dom/sub dynamics, penises and vaginas, and so much more. This was a big deal for me. I've never had a conversation with a woman/women which was so open and transparent. It was such a turn on. They are all beautiful women, too. One of the guys, too ;-)
  • We have a kinky/sex group chat now, full of discussions of orgasm goals, eating pussy, double entendres (hot sauce tastings?). This should be very interesting.
• Got home at 4am, ate some ice cream and chips, slept at 5am, and had to wake up at 6am for family stuff lol. I'm very excited to sleep tonight.

I was sick most of this week Tuesday night (onwards), sorry I wasn't very active on conversation on here this week. But oh boy still got up to some stuff before I got sick:

• After the very weird hotel hookup early Monday morning (see last week's update), I was still clean and really felt like bottoming. Found a really sexy local vers/top guy who was into coming over. My height, a little leaner, better muscle, and damn handsome. Dude was also seriously packing - about my length but thicker. We had excellent chemistry, awesome kissing and foreplay, and he gave it to me good and deep. He was surprised at how well I can fit an enjoy -- he's not used to guys with such cavernous booties. He was so so close to driving me to that point of prostate orgasm that I've only reached playing solo with toys! I have his number; he would be happy to bottom for me any time, too :-) He also helped me by filming and taking some pics of us fucking, which was a first for me. Very hot.
• I found out from a random grindr chat that there are more guys/couples in my apartment building that are into hooking up/"making friends". Lucky me, Tuesday evening we had our belated holiday party
  • The mood was really fun! Folks made or brought some very tasty food and dessert. OMG Deborah's cheesecake with the fruit top was just divine.
  • Met a bunch of gay couples, including the one that lives right below me! We traded numbers so they could let me know if things are too loud (or viice versa). In that couple, I like the younger one more -- kinda twinky Asian guy ;-)
  • I met a lovely hetero couple which is moving in. We chatted a lot, they like to drink and have friends over, so hopefully they'll help me make more friends, too.
  • Later I got a text from the older guy in the gay couple that lives below me: "I knew when I met you you looked familiar, but I couldn't place until I saw you on Grindr again. :P now we're definitely gonna be friends. Haha" 😈
• Some sexy-ish texting and images with my boy J in LA
• Keeping in touch with R. We couldn't meet since I was sick.
• More sexy-ish texting and pics with J in NJ, who I met at the Naked Gaymer Night last week. We thought about meeting up on Friday but I couldn't make it work with my schedule and the train timings.

• Wednesday a local side friend finally came over to say hello. Younger guy, 23, that really wanted to meet for a while. Nice couple of hours together. I didn't want to cum (another eager oral bottom was planning to come by), but our meetup was too hot I couldn't help it.
• This weekend I traveled out of state to attend a weekend tantric workshop :-)
  • The program is run by Body Electric which I recommend if you're interested in exploring erotic energy
  • This program was just for men, and it was a fun and very diverse group. The 10 of us spent most of the weekend together naked. Real personal stories were shared, and I got to know these men really well.
  • I invited J in LA but he couldn't make it :-( so I wore one of his shirts I accidentally took the last time we met up.
  • We were asked to avoid ejaculation is possible for the duration of the weekend, which I did, with great difficulty.
  • The focus was on learning breath, movement, touch, and release. And ultimately combining them all.
  • The final erotic massage was an amazing experience. With the blindfold, the music, the massage table, so many hands on my body, and my breathing, I was completely in the moment. I know the facilitator was giving instructions, but at the final "release" portion I was entirely somewhere else. No ejaculation, but something happened. I was outside of my own body. I felt things. Intense deep sensations that I would liken to a traditional orgasm, but rather than feeling exhausted afterwards, I also felt energized.

I wonder if Lemmy could/would ever get the ability for only subscribers of a community to downvote its content?

Update if you haven't seen it: they went to RICO!