Man I thought both women and men were getting this the whole time. I was way off.

Welcome to America, where everyone hates everyone

Only if he concentrates

Statistically speaking, however,

This way of looking at things is called collectivism. It's the sort of philosophy that considers it okay to treat and individual according to the average experience of their group. For example, when someone points out that a woman can easily get help and a man is told to stop and consider his abuser's needs, collectivism says "yeah but that man's problem is smaller".

Well, that's the implication. That his problem is smaller than a woman's problem would be.

It's never actually said. Instead it's described in terms of statistics and numbers. And these numbers describe the collective experience, not the individual experience.

OP is making a complaint from an individualist point of view: if a particular man is being abused, then that man faces significant obstacles in getting help.

Just because fewer men than women experience problem X, doesn't mean that a man with problem X suffers less than a woman with problem X.

Dismissing the experience of the individual, or implying that it's "bullshit" to highlight that individual experience (which is horrifying, as I know from being on one side of this issue, which is all the perspective I need to evaluate how horrible it feels and whether it's okay).

People think the words collectivism and individualism map to:

Collectivism: considering others' needs

or

Individualism: considering only one's own needs

That's not what those words mean. What they mean is:

Collectivism: Considering the needs of a group, and making ethical decisions based on group situation descriptors (such as statistics) and the implied sums of experience. Holding groups responsible, as a unit, for crimes. Recognizing groups, as a unit, for their accomplishments.

Individualism: Considering the needs of the individual, and making ethical decisions based on the individual's situation (such as stories, relationships, health status, etc). Punishing or rewarding individuals for the actions they themselves committed.

But it's not even a matter of policy primarily. It's not like this policy is collectivist and that policy is individualist. Most prominently, these are lenses through which to view the world.

One of the dangers of collectivism is exactly this kind of reasoning (when collectivism is applied erroneously to individual policy or problem evaluation). Because more women experience X problem than men, we should prioritize the individual women's problems over the individual man's problems.

I am not accusing you of having said or implied the previous sentence

Now, collectivism isn't bad or good. Individualism isn't bad or good. The danger arises when one doesn't distinguish between them. In the above italicized thought, for instance, a collective issue is used to make decisions about individual response. That's not so good.

An example of good collectivist reasoning and ethics would be like: "After experimenting with different carbon tax rates, we have found that $65 per ton extracted results in the climate stabilizing".

Collective problem, collective analysis (those atmospheric CO2 readings basically involve all of us), collective solution (a law, which applies to everyone in the group, i.e. all Earthers)

An example of good individualist reasoning and ethics would be like: "Mike is constantly yelled at by Susan. Almost every day, she goes off the handle and yells at him for hours. His health is suffering from this. Therefore we're connecting Mike with a shelter and a social worker who's going to help him learn that he's too valuable to accept that treatment"

Collectivism, Individualism. Two lenses for looking at problems, just like physics and chemistry are two ways of looking at the world.

Oh my god this is so true.

I recently heard “Another Day in Paradise” by Phil Collins, which I hadn’t heard since the 80s when I was a kid. It immediately brought back memories of being at home and Mom playing that song a lot, with just the two of us in the house, after Dad left.

Looking back at those memories through my adult eyes (I have a nearly-photographic memory and can vividly remember even ancient memories as if I’m still there), I can see my mom’s sadness and loneliness.

And then I realize she was my age. She had a little five year old boy. She was alone, unsure what to do. Putting on a smiling face not just for me but for herself too, cleaning the house with that song blasting. Like, I can watch the memories like video and I can see the heartache I couldn’t see back then.

I just want to go back in time, wrap my arms around her, and hold her tight.

We like to sit you down, and show you a menu. We take pride on our chewable, edible food. These little fellers here are silverware.

Because the waste products dissolved in your urine are yellow. The more water you mix them with, the lighter the color gets.

The body urinates for two reasons. One is to release urea and other waste products. The other is to maintain optimal water balance.

When you’re more hydrated, it pees even though the waste products haven’t built up very much.

Anyone you're going to fuck, use "tu"

• Exercise grows your hippocampus
• So do antidepressants according to recent research
• Small hippocampal volume is an excellent predictor of depression and anxiety
• Exercise grows your hippocampus, in a dose-dependent way
• Exercise grows your hippocampus
• Exercise grows your hippocampus

This is the most important fact I have ever learned.

They are. You just have to sign up for them. Nobody’s gonna come drag you out of your comfy chair to do it like they do when you’re a kid.

There are probably twenty places in your city where you can show up and pay $20 for a tour.

If you’re in Denver, for example, you can go to the Coors brewery, or the Art Museum, or the Botanic Gardens, or Buffalo Bill’s grave, or Meow Wolf.

If you want someone to call you at 6 am and order you to call in sick to work because you’re going on a field trip, please let me know and I’ll make a business out of it.

Aww, they’re scissor sisters now!

This is why it’s important to have decentralized social media. We cannot have anyone unilaterally deciding what gets talked about and what doesn’t.

Imagine if this worked on T-800s

Asking why Star Trek dominates the Federation? tsk tsk tsk

Symmetry is useful for locomotion. It’s an easy way to get backup instances of things. By “easy” I mean it doesn’t take much “code” to accomplish for the value it produces.

When something is more valuable and “cheaper”/“easier” requiring less code to set up, it’s more likely to be selected for.

Basically, evolution produces organisms that work well in the environment, mainly by the environment trimming off the ones that don’t work there.

Well it turns out you can achieve all sorts of forward locomotion just by having two mirror copies of a thing and moving the mirror copies in an off-phase rhythm. Once you’ve got that back-and-forth timing, your body just needs to tend forward and suddenly you’re mobile.

Let’s look at it another way. One requirement for mobility is a direction. You can’t move without moving in a direction. A direction is a line. You can create movability by varying an organism’s form along the line of travel. The introduction of additional lines dilutes the motion-enabling asymmetry across multiple vectors.

The body form that concentrates the most variation along a single line is bilateral symmetry. Radial symmetry diffuses that variation across multiple lines, and hence doesn’t create motion.

I know I’m being really, really abstract here, but it’s a concrete fact of motion and geometry. Let me take another stab at summarizing why bilateral symmetry enable motion:

• simplest one-line directional geometry is actually radially symmetric. Think of a coke bottle or a flower. It has a line.
• bilateral symmetry actually has a plane, leading to more diffusion of aim
• but bilateral symmetry makes neural control easier: your signal just has to be A-B-A-B-A-B… . Left, right, left, right, etc
• With your radially symmetric form you need signaling like: A-B-C-D-E-A-B-C-D-E-A-B… . Like tuning the cylinders on a turboprop engine. This is how flagella move: in a corkscrew shape. It’s hard to coordinate.

Shit I’m just making it more complex. Bilateral symmetry gives you a nice combination of directionality (enforced by the way gravity squishes that plane down into a line of movement).

This is why you see more bilateral symmetry as organisms get larger: gravity requires asymmetric designs to be stable across the gradient. You see those circular-firing motility types at a more micro scale, where the effect of gravity is smaller. That radially-symmetric torpedo-sperm-flower-coke bottle shape needs to be in a well-organized circle in order for its thrust to not send the organism off on a crazy tangent, or best case traveling on an inefficient helical path. And even if the path is helical, that will only tend in a straight line, ie toward a target, if it’s not being distorted by gravity.

So the microscopic realm, where gravity is more negligible, you see more organisms that use a helical strategy for motion.

As gravity gets more primary, at larger scales, you start getting shapes like fish that always keep one side up and another side down. And the way the fish moves, despite having variation top to bottom as well as front to back, is by having no variation left to right. That lack of left-right variation allows the complementary action of its left and right to balance out to a straight line.

Following the A-B-A-B firing pattern, the fish moves its tail back and forth and achieves forward motion.

I hope that helped at least a bit. I know it was convoluted.

Keyboard. It’s got hotkeys for the most used characters. It’s so much faster than manually drawing each character in Paint.

However, women’s feelings does not equal women’s safety.

Humans have a highly developed prefrontal cortex that allows them to suppress their own impulses through conscious will.

Humans don’t attack people when rabid because they know it’s wrong to do.

I worked at Lowe’s for a little over a year. They constantly assigned me about 3-4 times the amount of work a human can do. They absolutely would not listen to me when I told them it was too much. They kept saying to do these tasks “in my downtime”.

I never had a minute of downtime. Every shift I was scrambling at 100 mph to get things done, and it never let up.

They just kept calling me in to talk about my performance, and when I’d say it was impossible they’d just say “it’s up to you to find the time”.

I eventually got fired, and thank god. My own self respect was dwindling the longer I put up with it. I should have quit, but didn’t have the courage to.

Jesus christ do these people not understand what “Pause” means? It means my roommate just walked in and wants to discuss something. It means we’re looking at the freeze frame to see some aspect of the shot. It means the same damned collection of events should happen any time a “Pause” control’s been triggered since the invention of playback.

Why are the UX people not fighting them on this? Why does design have to be about breaking everything these days?