Thank you for sharing this. I was absolutely FURIOUS with news outlets who thought her name change (and ESPECIALLY her deadname) was “newsworthy” in 2022, because she made it crystal clear that she wanted NOTHING to do with this man. She is NOT a public figure. It was nothing but gossip. And having myself been outed against my wishes in a well-known publication for the sake of gossip (albeit with WAY less publicity) I can tell you that can REALLY fuck someone up for a long time.

And now that manbaby Elon is publicly and explicitly dragging her through the mud, deadnaming and misgendering her to millions, and blaming her for his right-wing shitlording. She shouldn’t have to give an interview like this, though I certainly understand why she opted to. She should just be able to live her damn life in quiet peace. I feel for her so much.

Truthfully, bigotry and harmful content should be reported, not downvoted. 🙂 Our local admins are very responsive, and they’ll defederate from any other instances that sanction or defend that stuff.

Eep! Wishing you a speedy recovery, @supakaity@lemmy.blahaj.zone! Take care of yourself first, we’ll understand if things here go wonky for a bit. 💜

I enjoy NSFW content, but I certainly don’t want to stumble into “how close to CSAM can we get while staying technically legal?” content. And the bullshit lie about this being “body shaming” pisses me off.

This admin decision obviously isn’t up for a vote, but it’s just so obviously the right call. Thank you Ada for handling this, and I’m sorry (in the Canadian way, not the guilty way 😉🇨🇦) you had to see any of that.

After reading the community’s pinned “Rules Breakdown” post, I can easily see how Your post violated their rules. 🤷‍♀️ And as another poster in this thread points out, it appears You’re just on a time-out, not a perma-ban.

Also, I will capitalize “you” for You as an act of politeness, but I very strongly disagree with characterizing this as “misgendering”, even after reading Your “Introduction to capitalised pronouns” post. Yes, grammar is socially defined and arbitrary. For example, the only reason African-American Vernacular English is labelled “improper” is because so many (white) people with power say so — there’s nothing inherently worse or better about it. However, it’s still necessary to reach consensus on the meaning of words, else no one could be understood.

Capitalization of Your pronoun is clearly very important to You, and it would be thus be unkind of me to refuse to accommodate You when it’s pointed out, but English is not a language where every pronoun is gendered. The capitalized version is an honorific form of the same pronoun, not a different pronoun altogether. And generally speaking, the use of honorifics (“sir” and “ma’am” being the most common ones) is becoming far less common these days. Perhaps it’s because honorifics are most frequently used to establish dominance and subservience roles, whether that be in customer service roles (“yes, sir”) or governing roles (“yes, Your Honour” or “yes, Your Majesty”). To borrow Your own example, even many Christians now refer to their god as “he” rather than “He” in written language. And of course, those of us who totally reject the notion of gods certainly don’t. Your insistence on capitalization as respect for Your divinity makes me genuinely uncomfortable as someone who doesn’t believe in divinity at all and certainly shouldn’t feel subservient to You.

I haven’t seen any discussion of it here, but I’m all in favour of preemptive blocking. Meta/FB/IG cannot and must not be trusted to be a good fediverse citizen (government? instance-nation? I’m not sure how my own metaphor should work. 😆). Give an inch, they’ll take a mile.

In my view, systems without an HDMI output or which default to a 4:3 aspect ratio are retro. But I don’t expect everyone else to share this opinion, and that’s totally fine. 🙂

Would it be possible to enable this at the topic level but not the comment level? My thinking is that it makes sense for helping users decide what posts to read in the first place, but would still discourage low-effort negativity that doesn’t actually contribute to a discussion.

But even if the answer to that is “no”… I don’t strongly object to trying this out and seeing how it works for this community. 🙂 If de-weighted downvotes still lead to problems, the change could always be reverted. Thank you for exploring the options!

No worries, things happen — and you’re community-building volunteers, not an on-call rotation. 💜 I’m just glad we’re back now! Thanks for your efforts during these past 24 hours. 🏳️‍⚧️😊

No need to complain. Just go to your settings page and select a different Theme.

While browsing communities, I encountered a “gendercritical” one on a different instance. 🤮 (not lemmy.world) BUT, I took time to contact one of that instance’s admins about it since they had a non-discrimination rule, and they decided to close it down after educating themselves about it. So that’s something nice that would never happen on Reddit. 🙂 But even so, Blahaj Zone is still the place to be! 🏳️‍⚧️

Downvotes are disabled on this (lemmy.blahaj.zone) instance. 😉

That said… I’m personally quite anti-gun, but I accept there are plenty of queerfolk who feel differently. Hopefully Lemmy will soon allow users to mute specific communities so I won’t see this group’s content in my Local feed. But my dislike doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have a safe and welcoming place for their discussions, so I still wouldn’t downvote this even if I could. 🙂

is this concern based in fact, or emotion?

Ada was clear in another comment thread that yes, emotion was absolutely involved in her decision. That isn’t a bad thing. Why is there a social attitude that decision-making is only valid if it’s cold and unfeeling?

Personally I’m in the camp of “let consenting adults do adult things”

Me too. I don’t think anyone is arguing against that. Anyone can still access LemmyNSFW’s content elsewhere, Blahaj Zone simply isn’t going to relay it anymore because some of it is incompatible with Ada’s goals in nurturing this community.

But if it is in fact legal, and well moderated, then is there a problem?

Yes. Legality has nothing to do with acceptability. This instance already bans lots of content that doesn’t actually violate any laws. It’s a judgment call.

Funny, it seems the quality of journalism on Facebook has dramatically increased in the last 24 hours. The Beaverton’s reporters are truly dedicated to serving the public interest.

For the record, I’ve been an LGBT supporter all of my life.

No, I’m afraid you haven’t been. For example, there was that time you wrote:

LGBT values are an invasive culture change that is being pushed on kids without the interests of the parents in mind.

Some of those kids are gay, some are bi, some are trans, some are ace, some are intersex, the list goes on. Every one of them deserves acceptance and support, whether their parents agree or not. A queer child’s safety and well-being shouldn’t depend on winning the supportive-parent(s) lottery. And even with a supportive parent, a hostile school environment can lead to suicidal ideation. Any guess as to how I know that?

I’ve only recently had to start pushing back because I believe certain parts of the LGBT culture are not suitable for children.

Sure, but which parts do you mean? Because lately, the rhetoric has mostly been about “drag queen story hour” which is really just reading books while playing fancy dress-up. There’s nothing inherently harmful or even sexualized about it.

A “gotcha” I just discovered: even though the selector uses radio buttons (which usually means you can only choose one), this is a multi-select list. So if you don’t also choose English (and/or other languages you understand), you’ll miss content that does have a language tag.

Designing UI ain’t easy.

BEHOLD! I shall announce the genitalia of the unborn fetus! And I shall do it with an illegal explosive in a dry forest!

People be weird. 🤦‍♀️ Thank goodness the fire didn’t get out of hand.

Legit question: As a non-BlahajZone and non-LemmyNSFW user, why do you care how our instance handles this?

Each Lemmy instance is its own community (in the dictionary sense, not as used by Lemmy), not unlike a bunch of different web forums. Running the same server software doesn’t mean each instance must or even should cache content from anywhere in the fediverse. If this community doesn’t want to have that sort of content available here, so what? Nothing stops anyone from creating accounts on multiple instances, and I expect there will soon be iOS and Android apps that make using them easier.

Federation reduces friction and encourages wider participation, but that’s not always what’s best for a community. And each instance has a list of instances it blocks, so all of us are free to look through the list to see if it’s anything we care about and go visit directly if we so choose.

(For the record: I haven’t looked at the content in question, but I’m happy to take Melmi’s word for it and am in favour of defederating.)

Don’t worry, Google is bluffing. They don’t want other countries to do anything similar so they have to make a big show of fighting it, but their massive power to fight it is exactly why C-18 is necessary. Google backed down in Australia, and sooner or later, they’ll back down here — there’s still a lot of money for them to rake in even after paying to use the news outlets’ work.

I get that this post was made solely in the spirit of fun, but the term “spirit animal” is the subject of cultural appropriation. Assuming you aren’t Indigenous, it would be kinder not to use it. 🙂