I left Beehaw because the defederated from instances where half my communities were at. Ended up on Lemmy world because they had my favorites.

Here's my experience:

My wife and I both grew up very conservative evangelical. Over the last 15 years, we went from right to left (which I'm so happy to have had someone on that path).

Meanwhile, a good chunk of our family has gone hard right or turned a blind eye to those who do. My wife and I have taken different approaches. I dropped off all social media where family was. I've established my own boundaries based on how batshit crazy they are and how much I want to stay in touch.

Cousin who posts all the conspiracy shit? I'll see you at wedding and funerals.

Dad who was an amazing father but listens to Tucker Carlson too much? We typically have 2 hours of conversation before we get to politics. So that's how long we spend together.

My wife deals with that stuff better. She posts on social media but in a kind and persuasive way, never arguing or getting mad on there, even though she is.

For me, the biggest reason why it's been good to take the more soft approach is the number of people who reach out to us (mostly my wife) because they are beginning to change their views too. They need a safe place to ask questions. This has included a niece who confided that she's gay and a sibling who went from moderate republican to climate activist vegan. Coming out the other side together bonds us even more.

So, boundaries. Be firm, but kind. Be patient and inviting for those asking questions. Also, yes therapy.

Do what now? What’s wrong with Hanes and fruit of the loom? This is not something I knew people had strong opinions on.

This is why we need school standards. I was taught this at home and believed it till I got to college.

My mother in law was an office manager at a dentist. Dentists have sales quotas and have bonuses to everyone in the office for upselling.

You go in to a medical professional for health care and advice and they try and sell to you.

That’s called camping.

I really wish it was MediaWyrm. I want something where I can share, rate, and track books, movies, tv shows, podcasts, etc

This happened to me about 5 years ago. Wasn’t too bad. Just had hives and awful gut pain. Enough to make you not want it but nothing life threatening.

Since I’ve figured it out, I’ve had beef or pork accidentally maybe two or three times. Feel awful for about a day.

I don’t miss red meat too much. Thinking about going full vegetarian.

There are exceptions and I think Apple Music is one of them. They've been playing catch up with Spotify. I only have Apple Music because it's with the bundle of everything else.

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Exactly this. My specific issue is memes vs my city. My city gets' about a post a day where memes get's like 20-30. I really care about the 1 post per day with my city and I care enough about memes to subscribe but not enough to see all 20.

I have a friend who said he was left out of a lot of group chat with his roommates because he was the green bubble. He switched to iPhone and they still were meeting up without him.

That’s when he realized it was him, not the color of his bubble…

I have three kids. I am very present. I work from home and I’m constantly monitoring what they are using . Parental controls are a nightmare.

There are apps that are rated as ages 4+ but they have chat features.

There are apps you’ve ok’d them to use but requires the parents PIN every time they open it.

Screen limits randomly reset themselves. A lot of times that means you have allowed something that limit blocked and now you have to ok it again.

Imagine being out with three friends and you need to know everything they are doing on their phone and have to enter a password on it every 15 min.

That would be really cool too but I was thinking more like a "See first" "See top only" sort of option between different communities.

I have a small tech business. Ive had employees make more than me. It was because I saw that they were important for the business now and I’m in it for the long haul. At the same time, I’ve had mediocre people ask for raises. It helped me realize that I probably needed a different person in their position. So you should feel guilty but you do need to realize it’s a risk.

This was my mom. Lots of therapy and 20 years later I’m good now. One major thing I do differently as a parent is apologize to my kids when I screw up.

If you do something against the rules then you have an appropriate punishment. Yelling and berating is never an appropriate punishment. If yell at my kid because I’m mad I always apologize. Hopefully it will lessen their therapy bills.

I think it was in SuperFreakanomics where they explored the viability of releasing the equivalent to volcano smoke into the atmosphere to shade the earth. The research was based on earth cooling after certain types of volcano eruptions.

I think the scientist conclusion was that it was pretty viable but introduces way too many other issues. The biggest being, who gets to control the earth thermostat.

I'm not arguing in favor for house prices going up but just wanted to point out how a lot of people use the value of their home. You can pull out money from your house and your interest payments don't change when the value of your house goes up.

I'll give the example of my neighbor. They bought their house 10 years ago at about $250k. Interest rates were around 4.5%. We're in a location that got really hot during the pandemic and the house value jumped to about $700k. At that moment, they had the same payments as 10 years ago. Then interest rates dropped down below 3%. His balance on the original mortgage is probably about $175k and now he refinances the house with a mortgage of $325k, pays off the old loan, and pockets $150k out of the house. But due to the lower interest rates, his payment is the same as it was 10 years ago. He just has $150k in his pocket. Meanwhile, I'm the schmuck who had to buy the identical house at $700k at 5% and pay 3x for the same house.

I left Beehaw because they defederated from instances where half my communities were at. Ended up on Lemmy world because they had my favorites.

I was hoping to hear some anecdotes of similar projects.

I was thinking, Kazaa and Napster were pretty decentralized...