Ha. Amateurs. I disappeared YEARS of my files by self-hosting.

Also - fwiw - they are likely to refederate in the future. I subscribe to beehaw communities, cuz we can still see them, just can't talk to them.

Listen. Some of us are looking forward. To the Future. The future of pulling out of that parking spot. Not my fault if you stuck in the rear-view, my guy.

It's called Fancy Parking, sweetie. Look it up 💅

Worth mentioning:

• Lemmy itself is an open source software. It's developed by a community, and was originally created by two developers. It does not make money, except from things like donations or patreon.
• Lemmy instances are run by different members of the community. Various folks have answered ways that instances could make money but may not make money in any ways.

• OSR = Old School Revival
• PbtA = Powered by the Apocalypse
• FitD = Forged in the Dark

I only know the middle one! I'll check the rest out!

Effectively, as an advertiser, you can pay for some info on someone you have the option to show an ad to.

They'll tell you things like "they are in their 40s and love anime and shopped at target recently"

The worst part is that typically, when you get hyper-specific enough, you can make unidentified info identifiable.

"Male, muslim, just got married, works as a plumber, late 20s, lives in this part of this city, has this device" and then paired with "has this IP" (narrows down to the block or house)

Also the US government buys the same info via shell companies.

I'm still a little sad that both solarpunk and beehaw just straight up didn't respond to my essays back when there weren't that many lemmy instances yet.

You know, “hatch”. But it’s funnier saying door. Could a ship just dock with it, equalise pressure, and open the hatch? Or is there some sort of security? I tend to think ‘no’ because of a macabre situation where the crew are dead and the station is being recovered. But it’s amusing to think in space they don’t need to keep the doors locked.

"Lockpicking lawyer here, and this one is a doozy"

I don't know why everyone is giving you shit about modifying log files. That support person was an asshole

Show me the butterfly, you god damn liar.

I assume this just means "pick inside" without saying it directly. The sample photo is of an inside space. No? The two in the middle row, I assume, are the "correct" answer.

Often the correct answer is only half the puzzle - how you answer (mouse movement) also can be to determine things

Always film the cops https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Copwatch

I feel like it'll piss off the shitbag more if no one calls it X, so, that's what I'm going with

https://streamable.com/4qdjv2

Dwarf fortress and RimWorld are both... Pretty ugly

This feels like someone rolled dice and picked words off a list to make a sentence.

Remember that it is a disability. ADHD is disabling (at times) despite being a core part of people who have it.

You can't fault yourself for not being a better runner when your leg is broken, even if your partner so dearly wants someone to run with. You can try. You can train. You can get assistive devices. But it might still hurt some days. It may never be a thing you can do to someone elses standards.

Y'all should consider couples counseling. It's not a bad thing, or a defeat - but it sounds like theres a lot of pressure on you (which can be PLENTY counterproductive). Might be better to find ways to understand each other better and how to best support each other as partners.

HowToAdhd has a few videos about being in a relationship, too, that could be insightful for you or your partner. https://m.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD/

So, say something. It can feel hard, but what's the worst that can happen?

Even just show a friend how one of their favorite communities has moved. Or just share a lemmy.world link instead of a reddit.com link to a similar post.

Getting folks to move off facebook messenger or something like that to Signal felt similar about 5-8 years ago. But... enough shitty news stories and worse-and-worse scandals, and just consistently mentioning it as an option works pretty well. These things snowball

You don't always need to meet the legal standard of a crime to be a piece of shit

ADHD Brains are different - so some advice that works for non-ADHD brains may or may not work.

In general, being present and meditation (in whatever way that works for you, but, generally the practice of observing your thoughts as they go by but not reacting to them) are helpful for 'strengthening' your thought patterns. Becoming aware of things and building up that muscle is how you can have more of that willpower.

Habits can be very difficult to build, don't get discouraged. Find things that work for you and ways to incentivize or motivate yourself.

https://www.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD/ Here's a great youtube channel