waves to @cendawanita@monyet.cc - thanks to her I'm here!

Finally got my lazy butt off here to just chat. Needed to get out of the way too angmoh spaces I've been in ;D

So, somebody lectured me for not putting a CW on Mastodon when I shared food photos for #MakanApaToday yesterday. I got super annoyed and was snarky. The guilt tripping didn't stop as a number of people came and said, "can't you be more understanding?" You know what, I am over being understanding when Mastodon has powerful filter and blocking capabilities. I do that for Us politics which I found so annoying on Mastodon 🤣 I don't go lecturing people to put up CW for their posts. Also, I feel that this is a little hashtag space where we SEA have fun, and to have these people tell us to hide it just got me furious. I did start thinking, "Maybe I should stop posting on Mastodon and post here instead..." and that got me annoyed too. Why should I stop just because 1 or 2 people didn't like the images of food??

Just this morning someone slipped into the comments to passively aggressive suggest that maybe my mention of calories in the post was triggering - and I got fed up. I told her we shouldn't be told to hide something the SEA community loves, especially if it is harmless to most people.

Seriously never in my life did I think about food being something we should hide 🤪 folks have explained it to me why, including photos with eyes being triggering, and I thought - this is one thing I dislike about Mastodon. There's a reaallllly entitled community that demands you do things their way or they guilt you into thinking you are baaaad.

What do you guys think? I really like the #MakanApaToday thread and don't think it should be CWed cos hinestly, it is harmless and fun!!

#MakanApaToday? Durian! I mistakenly thought dad didn't have enough so I bought some more and now we have a "durian runtuh" situation 🤣

My family likes to eat durian with rice soaked in santan (coconut milk). I have failed my Peranakan heritage by hating the idea of rice + santan, insists my mum.

It's OK, I am a purist - I prefer my durian untouched by anything but my hands 🤭

Salai beef Thai style bruschetta and chicken croquettes. 😋

I created a Kdrama thread in monyet.cc. I just realised that I wasn't sure if I was supposed to do that haha. I couldn't find the rules page. But anyway, Malaysian forum without KDrama community? How can! So I decided to create it. I wanted to lump Chinese dramas in there too but maybe it needs a separate section.

https://monyet.cc/c/kdramas

Brandon Sanderson's Warbreaker :) The book is so long, but it's a tightly plotted book, so am enjoying it.

IMHO the selection is great. I bought a big bag (mostly for friends - jadi personal shopper lol) and it only came up to RM100.

Me trying not to panic so much asy department has less and less work due to a sudden unexpected business decision by the Co. Trying to do some mental wellness practices like walking and jourbaling to handle the uncertainty and to reassure myself it is the end of the world if the worst happens. But I really like this Co and my colleagues so..

I was thinking exactly this today when I watched yet another YouTuber exclaim that "this is as advanced as any Western city!"

I used to sit in a bookstore and just watch the vibe around me. And discovering new books was a fun hobby. I do miss bookstores - so many of them have closed and the nicest one is Kinokuniya which is like so far away. I also miss being in libraries - when I lived in Oz that was what I did to just relax. Go to libraries and browse. Man our libraries here are so useless and far away. But my library is now Scribd - listen to audio books from it, and I read most of my nonfic ik book format and buy second hand books or borrow them from shops. My favourite one is this one cos I love my pulpy romance novels, and she sells second hand books of various genres too. (She has a physical store) https://www.leabooks.com.my/

Someone just passive-aggressively reminded me I could block people on Mastodon, and if I can't adhere to CW requests perhaps I should get off Mastodon. Wow, I've only beeon on the Internet since 1999, Twitter since 2008 and Mastodon last November. I don't know how to block ah? Wah.

these Mastodon HOA people are one kind.

PS: A few days ago, I blew my top when someone told me to CW my food photos. Since food is the way us Malaysians talk to each other on Mastodon, I feel it's really too much they ask me to CW. Since then a few people explained that food can be triggering to people with eating disorders. But then other people say CW can also worsen eating disorders. Apalah you cannot win. Why don't they leave us alone lol. I think i'll just limit my posts to #MakanApaToday and #FediTiam and exclude #Food cos I dah fed up with the HOA* people. This is sad cos I use #Food so we can reach non-Malaysians, but it attracts the hornets. Maybe I use #expatasia instead (someone asked me to include the hashtag so the expats can find these posts)

All of this nonsense makes me glad that we have a "safe" space here on monyet.cc, where we can be completely Malaysian without some reply dude/dudette come and lecture you for melanggar some cultural rule you are not even aware of. I feel more relaxed here. A bit sad. I now understand why Black Twitter never felt comfortable enough in the Fediverse.

*Home Owners Association - people on Mastodon who patrol it to make sure everyone behave and follow rules. Like prefects, but worse.

Hahaha I have a relative like that. Share every single detail of her pregnancy. Down to the gory details. Then when have kid share 60+ photos of kid every day. I dont where they got energy

Cool news! One of my favourite urbanism YouTube channels picked up this video and shared it. Congrats to Malaysian YouTuber 💪

Now if only Anthony Loke will do something about this.

Moar photos

Remember that epic LRT breakdown that stalled so ma y people? (OK there have been several but hear me out) But anyway I was supposed to meet a friend for dinner that night and he thought he will be stuck in KL till late night. I told him to take the Skypark Link instead. He never heard about it, but took it and was at our dinner early. He evaded the epic stuck Ness in KL and rode in comfort home.

Rip Skypark Link tho 😭

Added another community around Movies. We can get the discussion around the Indiana Jones movie started! https://monyet.cc/post/72869

Did not expect my post to promote the Kdrama community to provoke anti-Lemmy posts, but this is Mastodon 🤣

You are lucky. I got half naked thirsty bros

Thanks, me too man. Just gonna stay till the end so can get retrenchment benefits 🤣