Shulman adds: "They're getting away with it because everybody is doing it. And they're getting away with it because now it's the new normal," he said. "Workers are more comfortable with it, stock investors are appreciating it, and so I think we'll see it continue for some time."

ughh this makes my blood boil

yeah workers are "OK" with it, yeah, no, they're too fucking terrified they're next to do anything about it

hate this guy

so my answer to this is pretty layered bc i'm a trans guy and the sensation for both has changed since starting testosterone

pre-transition, i liked anal but it was a lot of trouble for the reward and vaginal was super easy / pleasurable all the time (i was lucky and can orgasm from vaginal penetration, it used to be how i preferred to get off)

post-transition, anal is still a ton of work to prep for (esp given i consistently have gut issues)... but it's a WAY more pleasurable experience. i tend to re-discover it maybe twice a year. i'm not exactly sure what's caused it to become so much more intense (seriously, i get super shaky and wobbly nowadays), maybe testosterone made the nerves grow there more? i dunno

but also, post transition, vaginal is a lot more difficult (dry / sensitive) and i have to work pretty hard on getting warm enough to enjoy myself. i really have to be in the mood and have a lot of time on my hands and... well, sometimes it's hard to come by

thanks to all the cool folks shutting this shit down, big appreciate y'all

for OP: transgenderism (the word) isn't real, you idiot. being transgender isn't a religion, i need testosterone to be normal, which just happens to be something my body doesn't produce naturally. i don't worship it

at least talk about being trans correctly

well i mean yeah. but unionizing would be the thing to do about it. it's just hard because people are scared for their job and scared to be out of a job right now, so they don't want to take the risk. even though it's fairly obvious that it's a bigger risk not to...

i'm amused by how judgemental this post comes off as in a nsfw sub. i think, much like you shouldn't claim that something wasn't damaging for someone else, you probably shouldn't claim that it was, if they themselves didn't state it as such. if i were more allosexual, i'd probably be into that, who doesn't love a lot of fucking lots of people? (obviously some people don't, but some people do!)

but i understand that you wanted to talk about this thought experiment and that was additional context for where the idea came from

ironically, i think i'd prefer a one night stand, or like, a date / one night stand (share a meal, do an activity and then fuck). i don't want to get to know someone, bond with them for a YEAR... so they could fuck me once and dip. what the hell LOL that's so much effort just to know you won't have any kind of relationship at the end

but like, a time limited thing, let's hang out for. a day and fuck at the end, then go back to our respective lives? that sounds pretty alright

i can't speak for all vulva'd people, but... i feel like that's mostly a porn thing.

the amount of times i licked my hand before masturbating: once, to see if it was good. it wasn't (and i find it kind of gross. no offense to ppl who are into it tho). and i masturbate a lot

pre-transition, getting it wet wasn't even that hard. why would i use spit for that lmao. i mean some people might have that issue, right, but i'd still rather just use lube if that were the case

i think it's just supposed to be hot for whatever reason

does it not seem judgement to, when someone says something "was taxing", to instead interpret that as "damaging"? like, that is a much more severe interpretation (with the possible additional implication that it's permanent in a way)

especially in a sexual context and especially referring to women, implying someone was "damaged" by something carries a lot of implications

i, uh... hm. maybe learned a new thing about myself tonight

a lot of my life revolves around managing my sex drive, yeah. i have to make sure to reserve like an hour and change, every other day, at most, to keep myself functioning well. i did think it was weird it took me so long and it usually delays my sleep by an hour and contributes (along other factors) to a consistent pattern of sleep deprivation

i did a little reading and perhaps this is related to the ADHD. wouldn't surprise me

more surprised that i thought it was normal to clock something like 5-10 hours a week getting off...

that said, i don't think i want to get a diagnosis, i kind of like being wired like this. i can.. mostly manage having a job fine haha

are you hoping to get a treatment for your hypersexuality via getting a diagnosis? or just a dx for accommodations in the workplace or something? no need to answer if you don't want to

(for background, i'm also trans, although trans masc and about ten years older than you. but i've been hypersexual for as long as i can remember; since i was a teenager i was basically a compulsive masturbator)

(it's an interesting mix with being demi, i'm actually a lot more interested in masturbation than sex... except when i have someone i'm interested in. then i become a sex demon 😈)

bro i gotta bust like 18 times to feel like i did anything 😭😭😭

not living on your own is brutal for any sort of sexual connection with yourself. hang in there friend

lollll i'm not a lady, but i did once have tits big enough to do it, and... i dunno if you ever heard someone talk about sucking their own dick before, but i've always heard it described as "more like sucking a dick, than having your dick sucked"... it's not bad, but the contortion required often impedes the pleasure, also. but maybe my tits just weren't big enough?

regardless, they're gone forever now!

honestly? yeah this

so there's a lot of axis when it comes to sexuality, especially around asexuality! i'll define them for you, and give a few examples, which might help you feel things out for yourself

• allosexual - asexual

  • this is the spectrum of feeling typical sexual attraction to not feeling it. there's a lot of points in between allo and ace! for example, i'm demisexual, which means i only develop sexual attraction to people after establishing a strong trusting relationship with them. other examples are like, grey asexuality, aegosexual, etc

• high libido - low libido

  • this is the spectrum of how horny you get/how often you want to do sex acts. it sounds like you're on the moderate to low end here, but it's good to know that it's not necessarily related to whether you're ace or not! for example, i'm demi and also high libido

• sex positive - sex repulsed

  • this axis describes how you feel about sex acts, usually with other people. you can be totally stone cold ace and still enjoy sex, for whatever reason (enjoying other people's enjoyment, kink stuff, etc) - it's another thing that's just, related but doesn't define asexuality

• alloromantic - aromantic

  • romantic attraction is its own axis! just like someone might not feel sexual attraction, one may or may not feel romantic attraction. it is also a spectrum, and i think there's a lot of similar identities in it to the ones on the ace spectrum e.g. demiromatic

anyways it sounds to me like you're on the ace spectrum for sure! i think you should read about some of the different identities in the ace spectrum and see if you can relate to any. for example, you might find aegosexual resonates with you:

Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view sexual content, or masturbate, but typically feel little to no sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual intercourse. Many aegosexuals fantasize about sex from a third-person perspective

i've edged for maybe a couple of days but it always leads to me being pent up and unsatisfied when i finally get off. so i try not to edge for that long and i always get myself off before i'm done. granted, on the other hand, i can always cum more than once. wondering if anyone else is like me

wtf this was so much hotter than i thought it would be from the name

yeah same, i was thinking about it the other night, but i was like... even if i found someone into it, i don't know that i'd be okay afterwards

to try my dick out on a (cis) woman... even if it's quite small by cis guy standards. i can't imagine they'd get much out of it... but surely, there's someone out there who would?

i also have poor luck with women... although i know it can happen, it just hasn't worked out yet. i should just go out to the straight bars and dress masc... sigh

(i need to hop on The Apps also, but i need to get pictures first...)

there's nothing legally wrong with it, but it's not something i would be happy to hear about from a friend or whatever, cause now i need to ask:

• how long/how well do they know them (longer and knowing them more is generally worse)
• were drugs or alcohol involved (bad, but maybe gives the 26 year old more wiggle room)
• are they going to continue seeing them (probably bad)
• are they aware that they hooked up with someone who's brain isn't fully formed

like, it can be done in an ethical way, but in practice, probably won't be. legally, an 18 year old is an adult, but that does not mean they're equal in all capacities to adults over 25

generally speaking, unless it was a very isolated hookup without follow up contact, i would pretty strongly recommend against it

that said, yeah, this post reeks of flexing about hooking up with an 18 year old LMAO which... personally, i would not brag about

i guess i assumed i was talking about people who are normal about porn. but i mean, idk, i think knowing a few actors you like isn't like... crazy? there's probably a certain level where you're too interested in it, right, but i don't think that's exclusive to porn

there's also a thought like... yeah, i do miss being partnered... but, i also kinda don't. like, i'm chill with it. part of it is that i have an absolutely bonkers sex drive and i'm probably better off regulating it on my own than with a partner and the baggage that comes with. and i don't think i want my sexuality to be something that exclusively belongs with another person, i like having it for myself sometimes. i like that it's sometimes not about intimacy

don't get me wrong, really good intimate sex is incredible. it's great. would love to have it again

i just don't miss it that much, at least not more than i suffer from a general touch deprivation. i miss it the same way i miss staring deeply into someone's eyes and holding their hand and kissing them. but i think you get that re: rather have a long makeout session nowadays (even if it still ends in sex)

i like the intimacy, but i also like that primal place where you're just fucking. and honestly i guess it's pretty hard for me to get to that place with another person nowadays, i don't really trust people to be really sensitive to their needs and willing to speak up for them... LMAO ofc due to past experience

but it's fine, i'm more or less content engaging in it with myself

and the porn helps with that, it's fun and i agree, i don't think i can ever know if it was made consentually, i can at least try to do some research and support things where people do interviews and seem genuine and whatnot

idk how good of a job i did like... engaging with your comment as opposed to just kind of rambling about my own shit. but i liked your post and i hope you like mine

i mean, the nice thing about medical accommodations, i think, is that they don't need to know what it is? they just need the documentation showing what your required accommodations are

but yes, i understand it's different from a high sex drive. i guess you didn't specify the origins of the compulsion, but at some point, it becomes nuch easier for me to do it regardless of the impact on my life (e.g. sleep) than not to, despite consistently eating about an hour of time (because otherwise it'll keep me awake for several hours and i won't be able to sleep at all). there are times where the impulse has been so strong i can't focus on work till it's dealt with, times i've snuck off to deal with it at work (thankfully, this has been a rare occurrence...)

like, i don't mind it and sometimes i like it, but it definitely impacts my life in ways i'm more cognizant of as i try to take care of myself better. obviously, i'm not required by my body to put in a full work's week of masturbating, but i'm not sure if the 5-10 hours i mentioned is negotiable; this is just the minimum i can get by on, i could easily go above that (although i won't lie, 40+ is impressive)