That's kind of the point.

I miss downvotes. How do I get a post that I have no interest in to leave my feed?

Other than that, pretty happy.

I only miss my downvote button!

I use Owntone server and various airplay devices around the home. That way I can just use the built in Apple Remote and streaming from iOS devices. I think there is similar apps for iPhone or you can use the web ui of Owntone.

Yep you are right, that's it. I guess I chose the wrong instance. But this is the advantage of the fediverse. It would be nice to have some table that shows the features in each instance so that we could decide which is the right one for us. I just chose based on the direction I got from lemmy.ml.

The only one I've found so far is this:
!videos@sopuli.xyz

Yeah I could log into lemmy.one on mlem and still downvote, so just removed from UI. But it was enough to make me migrate to lemmy.world.