I just signed up a new account after having started with Beehaw. I joined them because they were growing and seemed to have a good attitude about the whole thing.

This is pretty sad to see as, like you, I think this is going to hurt them in the long run. I could be wrong though. This whole thing is new territory.

Just in case you haven't seen they just added Saving functionality

In contrast, I wrote two lines basically saying "like your vibe and the growth of your community" and was approved within a few hours maybe less.

The most important part of reminders for me was the way they worked, by putting up a notification that didn't go away until manually dismissed. Very useful for important stuff like taking a medicine.

This is exactly how the Tasks feature works. I use it for this exact purpose and it works well for me.