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Biapathy 21 points 2 years ago

Findom is not welcome in most online spaces for a reason.

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BigFatNips 8 points 2 years ago

Genuinely curious, what's the reason?

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Biapathy 17 points 2 years ago

There are a number of reasons. First and foremost though I just want to address a common misconception that Findom(me) =/= Prodom(me):

  • Prodomme is what you would consider a stereotypical dungeon dominatrix. You are paying a professional for use of their time, space, and knowledge for bdsm services.

  • Findom is short for Financial Domination. It involves a relationship where a submissive(almost exclusively male) gives money to a dominant(almost exclusively female) and generally involves elements of humiliation of some form for the act. The expectation is generally that you will be treated as a human ATM with a complete disregard for anything else.

It's frowned upon because it's extremely exploitative and violates a lot of mutual respect tenets of BDSM play. Typically it's used as an easy guise which is low hanging fruit for lazy sex workers and scammers trying to make a quick buck and can easily get out of hand quickly for a site that leaves it unchecked. It exists in the same vein as Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby play, but without even pretending to have a relationship beyond financial gain.

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BigFatNips 6 points 2 years ago

Very educational! Thank you so much. Figured it was something concerning the exploitative nature of it, but it's nice to have so much detail

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Biapathy 6 points 2 years ago

Sure thing! I'm not one to kinkshame and there's very few things I will absolutely not tolerate as long as everyone's consenting, but this is one of them.

In a vacuum I'm sure there are situations where it's acceptable, but in the real world it's almost exclusively used in a predatory manner against a vulnerable population.

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dasalt 13 points 2 years ago

Lol, does that actually work?

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rbesfe 7 points 2 years ago

You should try begging for cash somewhere else

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CaptainKickass 5 points 2 years ago
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deezcashews 4 points 2 years ago
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NodachiWife 1 point 2 years ago

Would this be my pov while I’m under you 🥺

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thanks for using Leebra!

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