Facials. And cum play in general.

a year ago by Definetely weird. to c/asklemmynsfw

Besides the porn industry selling the "money shot", how much of a real thing is cum play for the average person?

As a sperm producer, when I masturbate and I know I'll be getting under shower next, I play around a bit and make a mess of myself but, again, I know I'm getting a shower next.

With my partner, we've played and have had a lot of fun, but unless showering is up next (or already happening) it is very down in the lust list.

Personally speaking, facials don't really do much for me. Not really sexy having the other person squinting and afraid of getting a rope up a nostril or in the eye. I like having eye contact; speaks volumes when speech centers are reduced to minimal services.

On the other hand, I do enjoy the visuals and emotions that come with seeing my sperm oozing out of my partner and/or on her skin. It has a sort of primal appeal to it.

So, how much of a porn staple vs real life of a thing are facials and cum play in general?

LnrPordle 18 points a year ago

I don't really get the appeal of facials or the whole dude finishing by jacking off on the girl trope in general. For me that always gives a kind of "you didn't feel good enough to make cum, so I had to finish off myself" kind of feel. Coming inside or letting your partner finish you off is so much better IMO.

Cum play can be really hot, but for me it's typically after sex thing or my partner is in control and she gets to decide how and where I cum.

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PM_me_ass_n_puss 14 points a year ago

As with several things are, I think it's a fetish that used to be more niche before mainstream porn. It's a very simple and visual thing that they could do to cater to the audience that liked it, and that the rest would just ignore. As time went on, porn participated in shaping perceptions of what sex is, and cumplay grew in popularity.

As a personal opinion, I love cumplay, for example watching and playing with it after creampies, my wife is not as much into it. Like other fetish, there'a semirandom distribution in the population

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justhere 12 points a year ago

I personally love watching cumshots but don't like giving them. Cumming in their mouth feels much better and is easier to clean up. When my partner doesnt like this I'll leave my condom on and do a pretend cumshot: They'll be on their back, I'll kneel around their chest and cum like that directly above their face. Gives me the perfect view and feel of a cumshot and they get the perfect view of my muscles spasming and all of that.

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RepressedLemmier 5 points a year ago

Inreresting...creative.

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RBWellsV23 11 points a year ago

I don't like it (face shot) and thankfully haven't met anyone who wants to. It just seems dreadfully unpleasant and would be a turn off.

Stick your fingers in me after cumming in there? So hot, I can get off again from that. And yeah I wish I could do two guys bare, the sloppy seconds thing also hot to me.

But straight up playing with it, or in my face? No, it's more of an indirect turn on, I like being cum in.

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RepressedLemmier 8 points a year ago

Typically once I cum, I want it off me and my everything. Both because it will stick to things I don't want it to stick to, and also because it actually messes with me doing a round 2, and feels unpleasant caking up my pipping

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BigTittiesEnjoyer 8 points a year ago

I've always been someone to cum really big amounts. When going solo it can be quite annoying at times. As a teen when the guys told me they use a think paper towel to catch it or clean up I was like how the fk is that helping anything.

I only learned when I was with my second girlfriend who had some comparisons, that my loads where huge. She thought it was a bit gross. So I thought women wouldn't appreciate it. Well we were pretty young still.

Every woman I was with after that enjoyed playing with cum a bit or getting it on herself. And I enjoy coming on certain parts of the body, but also inside or both. Face can get a bit messy as it's hard to not hit the hair which is a mess to clean apparently.

But yes from my experience it is quite common to enjoy at least a little cum play. However often I have to ask or bring it up first.

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IDKYouChoose 7 points a year ago
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dugmeup 6 points a year ago

Zero ladies I have been with have said no. Just need to bring it up and communicate.

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JJM 6 points a year ago

Well, I have a cum fetish and so does my partner, so it basically plays a part every time we have sex. Not always on my face, but always on me. And I pretty much always play with it.

I get very turned on watching cum shoot and seeing it on skin, especially if there is a lot of it.

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freeusething 6 points a year ago

I like it quite a bit. I have a lot of anonymous/casual encounters, so I don’t get to enjoy a guy finishing in me very often, but sometimes I enjoy having a guy finishing on my ass (rarely face, I’m usually masked.)

The appeal is degradation. I’d love to set up a bukkake someday. It’s a mark of some sort of “ownership” which goes with my kink of belonging to all men. Cum inside also physically feels great, having a guy pull out and feel it leaking is very fun.

I don’t think my sex life is very comparable to an “average person” though.

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deezcashews 6 points a year ago

Never once has a woman asked me for a facial. They have asked for everything else however, mouth, tits, belly, ass, creampie. One even scooped the cum out of her pussy and ate it.

Never saw the appeal, just seems like some degradation thing that porn has tried to get over.

Personally I'll do creampies all day, it feels the best. Plus it's free lube for round 2. 😁

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Mickey7 3 points a year ago

I always thought of it as a way of degrading a woman. And that's no fun for her or the guy if the guy isn't an asshole

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warbond 6 points a year ago

Oh no, I've always thought of it as being very intimate and sexy, if in a primal way.

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RepressedLemmier 1 point a year ago

Same. I just want to get full gross and sticky. Degradation pisses me off. Though soft dom is ok...both ways.

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pinkpint 3 points a year ago

I think its only degrading if she's not in to it. If she's in to it, it can be fun and sexy.

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Keepthoseeyeslockedonmine 2 points a year ago

@pinkpint @Mickey7 I've known a number of women who have loved it, some because it is degrading and sexy, some just because it's a turn on to see a man's cock so close as he masturbates or is stimulated until he's throbbing and blows all over her. Degradation is not always a bad thing, if it happens in the right circumstances

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pinkpint 2 points a year ago

That's fair, the important thing is that its consensual.

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Keepthoseeyeslockedonmine 3 points a year ago

@pinkpint absolutely. Consent is critical, and communication is sexy. My best experience was when a girl came at the same time as I blew in her face (not spontaneous, she was rubbing herself silly as she sucked me). That, was dynamite 🥵

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pinkpint 2 points a year ago

I have a cum fetish so I absolutely love getting cummed on, just not so much facials. There is something really primal about it for me. I like playing with the cum, spreading it around, fingering myself with it, eating it off my hands. Sometimes my bf lets me jerk him off onto himself and lets me play/lick it on him.

I also really like watching porn with cumshots or just cum on someone's body.

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cockdrip 2 points a year ago
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