Anyone else almost believe depression isn't real for 2hrs after cleaning their apartment.

a year ago by Fleur_ to c/asklemmy

Like damn this really took 10 months for me to do and now that it's done I feel good.

Lasherz12 55 points a year ago

Cleaning helps undeniably force you to acknowledge that you asserted control over your situation and did something good with it. Keep finding moments to overcome the negativity inherent in depressive thoughts and it will have nothing on you any more. Depression's remedy is usually to take better care of yourself and it makes you not want to, this is why it's so horrible to overcome, but it can be done with consistent benefits of the doubt to yourself and improving your surroundings one day at a time.

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Denjin 10 points a year ago

Depression is a vicious cycle of I'm not worthy of help - I cannot help myself because I'm not worthy. Those baby steps of helping yourself with small things like taking care of your surroundings and your hygiene etc help bump you out of that cycle for a brief time and with sustained effort and help for when it's needed or the problem is out of your ability to control and it can be defeated.

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someacnt 1 point a year ago

Jokes on you, my depression is about how other people hate me. Improving myself has no effect on it..

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Kennystillalive 38 points a year ago

Good job OP, I wish you the best.

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WaitThisIsntReddit 25 points a year ago

Or did the depression let up enough to clean your room?

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Fleur_ 11 points a year ago

No my cleaning spur was induced by external pressures

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2FortGaming 11 points a year ago

This is why I invite people over when I can, give a reason for my place not to smell

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Tywele 4 points a year ago

Yup it’s a great motivator.

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Rentlar 19 points a year ago

Revel in it. There are moments in life where you feel like you can do anything, and some where you feel like you can do nothing. Just store it in your heart and mind that both exist.

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daggermoon 11 points a year ago

I need to do this. I have ADHD and it seems like such an overwhelming task.

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fonix232 6 points a year ago

Have you tried buddying up?

I find that my ADHD gets less in the way when there's someone "observing" me while I do the task, leading me to much less random trailing off. They don't actually have to do anything but be present or maybe talk to you.

I do some of my best cleanings when my mum calls. Guaranteed hour long chat where I can be actually productive because even though it's just a voice call, I feel judged enough to start doing something about it.

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ILoveUnions 1 point a year ago

Sometimes I'll just ask friends or family to be "moral support" while I clean or do tasks. Fun

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chunes 10 points a year ago

Now wait until you have a big problem that isn't in your power to fix and tell me that depression isn't real

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cannedtuna 9 points a year ago

Nothing like feeling that upswing hit

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SARGE 8 points a year ago

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tal 7 points a year ago

I will say that cleaning does seem to make me feel upbeat afterwards too. I should probably do it more...

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watson387 5 points a year ago

Fuck yeah! Go OP!

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TheTechnician27 4 points a year ago

A big part of that attitude is simply that you're more likely to take care of those big tasks you've been putting off when you're on the upswing away from depression. So it feels good unto itself, but you're probably also in a mood that's more conducive to feeling rewarded than a deep depression.

TL;DR: Cause and effect feeding off of each other.

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Kolanaki 4 points a year ago

It feels like less than 2.

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Fleur_ 5 points a year ago

I overestimated in my euphoria lmao

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stinky 3 points a year ago

That's awesome, good job

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chemicalprophet 1 point a year ago

I wouldn’t know

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Leonyx 0 points a year ago

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Fleur_ 0 points a year ago

Your armchair diagnosis means jack shit in the face of my prescribed mental health care plan

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Leonyx 0 points a year ago

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Fleur_ 1 point a year ago

?

You going to therapy doesn't tell you shit about my experience. You're literally projecting

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