They probably think porn addict = always horny = many sex
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TheGingerNut -11 points 2 months ago
I think you might be giving them too much credit. There's also the aspect of addict = disability = unemployed/financially insecure = easier to entrap into a relationship she can't leave
sp3ctr4l 38 points 2 months ago
I am probably just old enough that this kinda 'makes sense', but back when I was growing up:
Porn 'addiction' was not at all a prevalent thing, in the true sense of an actual addiction. It was much, muuch more common that if you just had or looked at any porn, maybe a couple times a week or month, not to the point that it was actively interfering with your life... this was decried and stigmatized as an addiction. If you were a teen and had a porno mag, and didn't throw it out after your parent found it, fairly good chance you are now a 'porn addict', time for an intervention from the local pastor.
Because of these more prudish, second wave of Satanic Panic type norms in the 90s and 00s... a gf with a 'porn addiction' would again likely not have a literal addicition, it would probably indicate just that they were an introvert, who is kinky/kink-curious, or even just sex-curious, had a manga that had some nudity in it, where nudity is potentially 'her dress is too low cut' or 'a form fitting body suit is functionally nudity'.
Like, if somebody was being called a 'porn addict' in the 90s/00s... fairly good chance that just there was a story going around that they had watched or viewed porn once, and been caught.
Not saying theres 0 chance they were an actual addict, nor that just generally 'seeking a porn addict gf' would be totally non problematic...
But back when Pokemon was evil because it 'teaches evolution' and Harry Potter was Satanic because 'Witchcraft!' ... yeah, porn consumption/viewing was often extremely overblown and pathologized/demonized.
And I do literally mean demonized, in some cases. 'The demon of lust has possessed you', type of shit.
tr0xy 2 points 2 months ago
Wait, Pokemon wasnât evil because it had ghosts and shit?
I guess what one views as normal/healthy porn consumption differs. I wouldnât blink an eye if somebody watched porn 1h every day.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds 9 points 2 months ago
We talking clinical addiction? or like hypersexual who likes porn?
Because both are very different concepts. Many guys think they want a hypersexual horny partner only to learn how mediocre their stamina and libido is.
sp3ctr4l 5 points 2 months ago
So I did actually 'date' a legitimate nymphomaniac once.
I could keep up, but the deal was no catching feelings, just casual fwb... and I eventually caught feelings, so it was basically just a very wild summer and autumn.
But uh yeah, I told a few friends about her uh, appetite, in fairly broad terms... half of them didn't believe me, that either she was that 'demanding', or that I had that much 'spare time', or both.
fluffykittycat 7 points 2 months ago
Porn addiction isn't even real, it's just a thing Christians invented to groom young men with sexual shame
sp3ctr4l 4 points 2 months ago
I'd say that it is real, it can get to a point where it is actively directly destroying other parts of your life, but... that's very, very rare.
It certainly is much more common that its basically just a pathologizing label hurled about by puritans or bullies... tons of research exists showing that regular masturbation is not only normal but is also good for you in many ways.
DisgruntledGorillaGang 4 points 2 months ago
Literally anything can be an addiction.
TheGingerNut 0 points 2 months ago
Christians have a tendency to pathologise anything that makes people happy, but that does not mean people can't take things that are safe in moderation too far. Most people drink alcohol responsibly. Some people don't and alcohol addiction is very much a thing
trashgirlfriend 3 points 2 months ago
The self destruction is the good part
TheGingerNut 2 points 2 months ago
If I'm dating someone (assuming I was even the sort of person to date someone in the first place) I'd want to see them thrive and florish so self destruction is NOT a good thing to me
WorldsDumbestMan 1 point 2 months ago
Ahaha, at one point, I specifically wanted a "looser" type to "fix".
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Who'd want a girlfriend with a porn addiction anyway? Like addiction is a self destructive vice. I'm not saying someone couldn't love you regardless but who'd specifically seek it out? That's just chaser behaviour.
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