Tell someone you have no friends and they react like you’ve confessed to a crime.
Not because having no friends is actually some terrible thing, but because society has placed so much value on being social that people automatically assume something must be wrong.
The average 18 year old is expected to have a big circle, constantly go out, spend hours on calls, and always be surrounded by people. For an extrovert, that might sound perfect. For someone who enjoys solitude, it can sound exhausting.
I can’t even remember the last time I spoke for 5 minutes straight, and honestly, I’m completely okay with that. But the second you say something like that, people rush to remind you that humans are social creatures, as if everyone’s ideal amount of interaction has to be the same.
Maybe someone is genuinely okay with having 0 social connections. Not one friend. Not a group chat. Not a social circle. Zero.
That doesn’t automatically mean they’re lonely, broken, or living life incorrectly. It might simply mean they find fulfilment in different things and don’t feel the same need for social interaction that most people do.
At the end of the day, the important question isn’t how many people you have around you. It’s whether the life you’re living actually works for you.
I'm pretty sure when you posted this a few days ago you got a bunch of answers. Didn't like those?
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